NCEP - WTF?! - divorce pending (@ mentions)

[downtoearth]

I know I've been around for years, so I guess I just wanted to share with all of you that I kicked DH out last week and we're headed to divorce. I'm a mess...I knew we had communication problems, but I had no idea how bad it was for him.

The funny thing - and yes, I am laughing though my heartbroken tears - is that it's like a f$&*ing telenovela how I found out. Please don't quote I'll dd later.

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If you got through this, thanks. And WTF... I hope this get easier at some point?!

ETA - Thanks for all the support I read most of the responses through tears today.

[debatethis]

Holy shit. He should thank his lucky stars all you did was kick him out. I don't have any advice but I just wanted to say you and your kids are in my thoughts and I hope you take him to the cleaners. ((hugs))

[morecoffeeplease]

Of my god. I’m so sorry. That’s so fucked up.

[mbcdefg]

Oh my. 

I'm really sorry he did that to you. What an asshole. She's a piece of work as well.

Wishing you the best to find the strength you need to get through this and come out happier on the other side.

[tessalb]

I am so sorry. You do not deserve to be treated like that. I wish you strength in the coming days, weeks, and months.

[pixy0stix]

Fuck 'em. I'm sorry.

[wildrice]

Holy shit. This is a terrible story and I'm so sorry that this happened to you.

I hope in the long run it ends up being a blessing. It sounds like he's a piece of shit and you deserve better. I'm really sorry you have to go through this in the meantime, though.

[Velar Fricative]

I am full of rage on your behalf. Your STBXH is a shithead. But I cannot imagine how hard this is for you in the moment as you transition to a new life. Lean on us when you need to. So many hugs and I hope soon you’ll feel stronger and happier than ever.

[lurkydoodle]

I'd be in jail for murder. You're a fucking saint. I hope recovery from this is quick and complete and you come out so much stronger and better. What an absolute piece of shit.

[mrsukyankee]

I'm so sorry. He's an asshole of the highest order. You deserve so much better.

[georgeglass]

Holy shit. I'm glad he's gone.

[jlt19]

I don't even know what to say, but didn't want to be a looky-loo. I am so sorry. Especially that you had to actually see it.

[wambam]

WOAH. Who does that?! I'm so sorry.

[childofhiphop]

You are better than me. For real. In my sort of similar situation, I came out with a leather belt blazing. Not my proudest moment but no regrets either.

It sucks but I’m glad you get to see his true colors.

I wish you all the strength you need to take him to the cleaners and be strong for your children.

ETA: And I’m sooo sorry you’re having to go through all of this.

[sparrowsong]

Wow.... wow.

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I don’t know what else to say but hang in there. That’s some fucked up asshole behavior and you deserve better.

[kaybee85]

I'm so sorry. Surviving infidelity is a decent website for resources and forums (if you want) with people in all different stages and a lot of advice.

[penguingrrl]

Holy shit. I’m so sorry. Sending hugs and vibes to you! And if you want a posse to come kick his ass I’m in, because fuck!

[suburbanzookeeper]

You're an incredibly strong woman - holy shit. You deserve so much better! Editing to add the surviving infidelity website recommendation - it helped a lot for me sorting out my feelings and the motions with my ex-H after I found out.  www.survivinginfidelity.com

[taratru]

Oh my fucking god. I am so so sorry. For now, just vent away. You will get the rest sorted out and things will get easier, promise.

[jd15]

OMFG. I am so sorry. they both would have been out in the snow waiting for the uber. WTF.

In time it will get easier. for now, do whatever you need to do to get through it.

[carmenere]

I'm so sorry. FWIW he clearly has serious alcohol issues (on top of everything else he did) and your kids are better off not being around him right now. I wish you strength, and I hope you can find some peace.

[eponinepontmercy]

You deserve credit for not setting them on fire. What awful people.

[madisen]

Oh my fucking god...I am so sorry. Focus on yourself and your kids, reach out to both professional help and your close family and friends, find your support and know you're not alone.

You are better than that, you deserve better than that, and you're strong as fuck even if you have moments where you won't feel that way.

[CrazyLucky]

I am sorry. You are stronger than I think I would be. I definitely would not have been so kind as to give that woman a ride home. Your drunk and it's cold? Too bad, Get out.
How are your kids doing? Good luck dealing with the next few months. I'm sorry for what your family is going through. I hate your DH

[sugarbear]

Oh my goodness. I am so sorry. You are a saint for driving her home.
Sending you strength.

[icedcoffee]

I am so sorry. You are so strong. You deserve so much better.

[calamity]

What a piece of trash he is. I am so sorry.

I think your life will be infinitely better from now on, even though I am sure it is so painful right now ((hugs))

[StrawberryBlondie]

Oh my God. I'm so sorry.

Whatever you need, say the word.

[underwaterrhymes]

I am so sorry.

Give yourself a lot of grace right now. My dad cheated on my mom throughout their marriage. They separated and divorced when I was 12, and although things were challenging (both of my parents are alcoholics and things were rough because of that), I want you to know that I am so glad my mom kicked his ass to the curb.

I wish she had loved herself a lot more during that time, so please mostly just give love to yourself and surround yourself with people who love you too.

[curbsideprophet]

Woah. I am so sorry.

Take care of yourself