Grudges I hold

[rosiebear]

Let’s air some grievances! I am still mad about:

My second grade teacher calling me too bossy.

My ex sister in law writing me a letter asking if I had “tried hard enough” to save my marriage to her shitty brother and generally bring a huge pain in the ass about the divorce.

My neighbor inviting every kid in our babysitting pod except my son to her kid’s birthday camp out when they were all 9 years old.

What are yours?

[ohgillian]

I have several about thank you notes that I did not receive.

[rupertpenny]

My terrible cousin who had the audacity to have a baby on my daughter's birthday and tries to make it a "thing" every year.

Every single solitary person who when I was pregnant, finishing grad school, and having a hard time finding a job told me "it's probably for the best, a baby need's it's mama at home."

Also anyone who has assumed that I am the trailing spouse just because I'm a woman.

[TR]

The vet tech telling me I should “handle her paws at home” when Other Stella shit herself and had to be muzzled during a nail trim. I handle her paws all the fucking time bitch.

Being the only one of my nieces and nephews left out of my aunt’s will ($ for college) because “I’d already finished college” when I had student loans.

My late cousin’s wife’s very existence.

I know there are more. I’m not a chill person.

[nsl]

My fourth grade math teacher who told my mom I asked too many questions

The professor I had for modern English literary history who made us discuss "The Wasteland" the morning of September 11.

Whoever planted the huge evergreen trees we had to pay to remove yesterday because they were way too close to the fences and destroyed them in last week's bad windstorm.

[maudefindlay]

My 6th grade teacher for having the class vote to see if I should get my points anyway or lose them all for not following a direction correctly on a test. Listen, you are the teacher, you decide. I didn't ask for an exception or anything. The first I knew that I had made a mistake was when she brought it up to the entire class.

An acquaintance who asks if my jewelry is real. It is not an illusion or a hologram. Oh, you mean is the stone an actual diamond/ruby or is the metal gold. I see.

This woman who invited me out to a party....and it was like a big MLM fair. That was neither fun nor a party.

I'm getting fired up now, I may be back.

[blondemoment123]

My H eating the last Kit Kat bar 10 years ago.

A temp employment telling “hey you!” to me across the parking lot.

[gretchenindisguise]

My sixth grade teacher who told me to eat around the tootsie roll center of a tootsie pop, it'll be fine. I'm allergic to dairy.

[circa1978]

My ILs connected me with some friends of theirs 12 years ago to do freelance for. The woman was an insane nightmare, didn't pay invoices, wrote me a berating email for taking on other clients while working for her (Ma'am, that is what freelancing is) and had a screaming fit when I quit. I later found out ILs knew she'd behaved like this many times before. They "didn't want to take sides" though and remained BFFs with her and still are, even though her H is a big Trumper. I refuse to get over any of it.

My bio dad's family for knowing he was abusive and then abandoned us financially after courts intervened for dropping me cold as a child then deciding we needed to all be "family" again when he died and I was a grown ass adult, guilting my brother and me into giving them part of our inheritance because even though legally everything was to come to us he was"closer to his nephews" and consistently making me put to be a bitter hag because I don't want them in my life.

[ssmjlm]

Oh so many. I am not a chill person and own it.

The teacher who told my mom that I was bored and disruptive and that it wasn’t her fault I was bored and knew the entire curriculum for 4th grade. I got to go shelve books in the library because they didn’t know what to do with me and wouldn’t move me up to 5th.

The 8th grade teacher who told me I was a bad writer, which I found out was retaliation because she had an affair with the husband of an acquaintance of my mom from Girl Scouts.

My MIL for being a bitch around my whole wedding. And then doubling down when DH called her on it.

My BIL and ex-SIL. And still my BIL even though they got divorced. I realized he’s still a shit person, she just amplified it by being a CUNextTuesday.

I’m sure there’s more, those stick out.

[W.T.Faulkner]

The guy who interviewed me for a job I thought I wanted. When trying to make me an offer he tried to spin the pay cut and shit benefits as an opportunity in the (very) long run, and said, “I see your wedding ring. Can’t you go on your husband’s insurance?”

MY SELF-EMPLOYED HUSBAND AND MY SON WILL ALWAYS BE ON *MY* BENEFITS, MOTHERFUCKER, AND JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK I’M YOUNG DOESN’T MEAN I’M NOT LEADING TWO TEAMS AT MY SCHOOL AND THAT YOU SHOULDN’T AT LEAST MATCH WHAT I’M CURRENTLY MAKING.

[RoxMonster]

My junior high English teacher telling me I wasn’t good enough for advanced high school English classes. (I took them anyway, went on to earn a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree in English and now teach it, including college courses. So there)

Pretty much everything my MIL ever said to me lol (we no longer speak).

Also anyone who has ever called me selfish for not wanting children or told me I’d change my mind someday.

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

Sept 12, 2020 10:59:24 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

The 8th grade teacher who told me I was a bad writer, which I found out was retaliation because she had an affair with the husband of an acquaintance of my mom from Girl Scouts.

wut

[W.T.Faulkner]

So many teachers! lol

Also I’d like to add my son. There was absolutely no need to be 8 days late and weigh almost 10 lbs with an off-the-charts sized head by the time you decided to be born, sir. Y u do dis to my vagina?

[chickadee77]

Not sure about a grudge, but shit that still pisses me off when I think about it?

My third grade teacher who gave me a B+ (my first B) so I would "know what it feels like to not get all As." Bitch.

Any dental hygienist that talks down to me, even pulling out the kid charts about "how to brush and floss." I get it. I brush and floss (properly - yes, several have made me demonstrate to them) at least twice a day and just have genetically shitty teeth and gums. Bite me.

My college theatre prof that made me watch Sweeney Todd the day after my mom died and wouldn't give me an excused absence to attend her funeral. Asshole.

My current employer. Don't get me started.

[eddy]

My asshole male 6th grade male teacher who made me sit by his desk all year for talking. Meanwhile all the boys in the class were grade A assholes who got to so whatever the fuck they wanted. I was shy and so self conscious and I am still pissed I was labeled a trouble maker.  

My dad who was given some money from my mom’s dad (25k) as a gift. My mom is dead. My dad gave zero dollars to my sister and I. My mom would have absolutely shared the gift.

[orval]

Sweetwater Brewing for the bitch hostess that barked at us that we had to wait in the street for a tour (we were 10 minutes early and no waiting even in the parking lot). She didn't bother telling us they were not doing any tours that day. I still refuse to drink any of their beers 10 years later!

[rosiebear]

Sept 12, 2020 11:16:31 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

Sept 12, 2020 10:59:24 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

The 8th grade teacher who told me I was a bad writer, which I found out was retaliation because she had an affair with the husband of an acquaintance of my mom from Girl Scouts.

wut

I tried to unpack this one. Failed utterly.

[ssmjlm]

Sept 12, 2020 11:16:31 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

Sept 12, 2020 10:59:24 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

The 8th grade teacher who told me I was a bad writer, which I found out was retaliation because she had an affair with the husband of an acquaintance of my mom from Girl Scouts.

wut

Yeah, it was MESSY!

I had no idea, but found out later she was the one who ran off with the friend’s husband. She apparently gave anyone’s kid who was a friend of the wife poor grades. It was a whole thing when parents found out.

[lilac05]

My childhood best friend’s mom who showed obvious favoritism with her kids. She was also thought to be super nice and proper and all the great things around town, but I knew what she was like in her home...and it was none of that. They got divorced years later and everyone believed her stories of how mean her husband was...but I knew the truth. 30+ years later and I still cringe when I see a photo of her.

[picaflora]

MIL telling H and I she "never liked our dog anyway" not long after he passed unexpectedly (we got the pup right after we got married, and he passed away 6 years later. He was like our kid).

My niece - for stringing us along that she was going to let us adopt her son (knowing she couldn't take care of him), and instead "sold" him to another woman to be adopted and then went to the other side of the country. It was a plot to "get back" at her mom for always taking her kids (niece is bipolar and is frequently on illegal drugs). She is legit the only person I've come across that I truly do not care if she dies. She is manipulative and brings more harm than good into this world.

And on a slightly petty note, a high school friend that tried to move in HARD on H when he dumped me. He wasn't ever going to date this friend (nothing in common), but she would tell H lies to get him to leave me. Years later and I still give her the hairy eyeball if we run into around our hometown/in social circles.

[jezebel]

My sister for being a drama queen and ruining our Disney trip after I paid for her expensive flight to come with us.

My cat for all the things. Jerk.

[carmenere]

My boss took away my job and gave it to her daughter’s best friend, and had the audacity to tell me I should be thankful they were calling it a layoff. She sucked, and that job sucked, and getting out when I did turned out to be a good thing for my career. But I’m still mad.

My SIL was pregnant when H and I got engaged. ILs took the whole family out to dinner to announce/celebrate it, and SIL decided that was the perfect opportunity to announce her baby names. She made everything all about her/them for the rest of the night. Normally I don’t like being the center of attention and am relieved when SIL takes over, but I’m still annoyed that she couldn’t let us have one night.

[ohgillian]

My 3rd grade teacher for saying to me, “Oh, you still believe in Santa?”

[ohgillian]

Sept 12, 2020 11:15:57 GMT -5 RoxMonster said:

My junior high English teacher telling me I wasn’t good enough for advanced high school English classes. (I took them anyway, went on to earn a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree in English and now teach it, including college courses. So there)

Pretty much everything my MIL ever said to me lol (we no longer speak).

Also anyone who has ever called me selfish for not wanting children or told me I’d change my mind someday.

These people are the most patronizing worst people ever.

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

I got drummed out of nursery school on trumped up charges.

DON'T ASK.

[beerlover]

My 7th grade art teacher told me that I drew like a first grader. Which was true, but what a B. You don't say that to someone. I've had a complex about my artistic/creative abilities ever since, lol.

Our former BFF couple friends that ghosted us after my H became the guy's boss and they got into an argument at work because the guy had to be reprimanded for doing something he shouldn't have. I thought 5 years of friendship would outweigh a singular incident but I was wrong. Some of you probably remember me posting about this and deleting, lol. We've since made a great group of other friends but I still have my "f*ck you" moments when I think of him or see him.

[Bad Dingo]

Diana, who lived across the street pushing me off my chair during the Halloween musical chairs contest when I was five (also, fuck musical chairs).

My 7th grade art teacher who laughed when the antisemitic bully next to me carved a swastika into her stamp project.

The board member who called me "kid" well into my 30s.

Hmm, I feel like I should have more.

[jinkies]

One time at work, a bunch of coworkers were talking about Vivica A Fox. I wasn't even part of the conversation, but I was in the room. Asshole coworker goes on and on about the name "Vivica" and how you have to have a certain personality to be named Vivica. Saying how you have to be a really interesting, vibrant, full of life sort of person.

Then says "You know, like Jinkies here could never be named Vivica."

This was like 12 years ago and I'm still mad at him.

[achi]

My brother and sister in law never sent their thank you cards after their wedding. Their guests gave them enough money to cover the down payment on their first house.

According to my step mother, they did write them but put them in a drawer before getting stamps. Then they found them a year and a half later and just threw them out.