No, but I did marry my college sweetheart. We met our first week of college and married 5.5 years later at 23 and 24. Weāve been married for 13 years now. I grew up in CA and the ages of my friends when they got married varies from 20-32.
Post by lilypad1126 on Sept 12, 2020 19:51:44 GMT -5
No. My only boyfriend in high school was nice enough but even when I was dating him I knew it wouldnāt last. I met my H at the end of my first year in law school but we did t start dating until after I graduated. Weāve been together 14 years now, and our 10th anniversary is in November.
ETA: I can think of only 3 people I went to high school with who married their high school sweetheart. And no other friends did. A lot married their college sweethearts, though.
I didn't date in HS, but I met my H in college when I was 18 and a freshman and he had just turned 20 and was a sophomore. We got married when I was 23 and he was 25, and have been together 22 years (married 17).
My BFF got married the day after we graduated HS and they've been married for 23 years now. I'm not exactly sure how old they were when they met, but she was probably 14 or 15. (Her and I met as HS freshman, but she went to a different HS than I did until we were seniors, and so I didn't meet him until then.)
There was a group of us who all married our college SO, and I know that at least 3 of those couples are still together and 2 couples are divorced.
I also know of at least one other HS couple who got married and are still together, but I don't actually know when they got married in relation to when we graduated.
Post by dancingnancy on Sept 12, 2020 19:57:10 GMT -5
Nope.
But my anecdotes: My aunt and uncle met first week freshman year of high school and started dating. When they went to college they broke up to try to date other people. That lasted about 5 minutes and have been together ever since. They are in their 70s and have only ever been with each other.
My other aunt (sister of above referenced uncle) also married her high school sweetheart and are still very happily married.
I come from a small town and can only think of one couple from that time that got married (and are still married). But, I can think of - easily - a dozen married couples that went to our high school together but didnāt start dating until post college.
Post by sometimesrunner on Sept 12, 2020 19:57:29 GMT -5
YesāIām very lucky in that we are completely different than we were at 16 and 18, but weāve changed in the same ways. I will actively discourage my children from getting married so young, even though it has worked out for us so far.
LOL no. But my brother did and my sister married her college boyfriend that she met the first month of college. So both of my siblings have been with their spouses since they were teenagers. They thought I was wild because I dated around in my 20s š
Post by sarahsays on Sept 12, 2020 20:01:08 GMT -5
No, but I did marry (and am divorcing) the person I started dating at 18.
However, I grew up in a small southern town so I know a ton of people who married their high school sweethearts probably about 1/3 have worked out so far.
Post by goldengirlz on Sept 12, 2020 20:02:53 GMT -5
Technically, no. However, H and I knew each other in high school. We were never romantically involved though and went to different colleges. We re-connected a few years after that and started dating.
I only know one person my age who married her HS boyfriend ā but a handful who married college boyfriends. Theyāre all still married, as far as I know.
I did. I met my husband when we were 5. We started dating my sophomore year of high school. We went to different colleges. Married at 26, just celebrated our 16th anniversary.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.ā
My best friend did. They dated in HS, went to the same college and lived together (where we met, when we were all lab partners). Last year of college, they broke up and my friend moved in with me. They went in different directions, got back together and married about 5 years later. This was in 1984, theyāre still together today.
Met him at a dance at his all boys high school my sophomore year of high school.
We dated until my sophomore year of college when I broke up with him.
We lost touch for yearsss until one day he called me up asking if he could use me as a security clearance reference. Met up for drinks to discuss and catch up, ended up hooking up and we were married two years later š¤£
Post by RoxMonster on Sept 12, 2020 20:14:15 GMT -5
Sort of. DH and I met when we were both in HS. We attended different schools but met at our first jobs. We didnāt start dating until we were in college though. Been together ever since.
Not exactly. I met dh just after I graduated, started dating that summer before I started college. We got engaged the last semester of senior year and married a year later. I was 23. We did wait a bit to have kids; I had dd at 30. Things are great; we got lucky.
No thankfully because he wound up being gay so that would have been something.
My BFF is gay and we had a deal that if we were both single when we turned 40 (because that was SO OLD.....š¤£š) we would get married. Some times I wonder if we would have actually done it. Lol
Post by rockymtngirl on Sept 12, 2020 20:18:34 GMT -5
I did. We met and dated when we were 15. Broke up after a couple of months. Became friends near the end of high school and went to our grad together (like prom I guess). Then started spending every moment together and we have been together for 21 years. We were together 5 years before getting married and it was another 5 before we had kids. I think that helped a lot.
Our marriage hasnāt been perfect but weāve gotten through a lot together. Looking back I wish I had experienced more and moved for college, etc. But then I wouldnāt have my kids so....
Is it something I would want for my own kids? Nope!!!!
No, but we are still close friends and I am friends with his wife.
My Aunt married her high school sweetheart( still married to my Uncle) and my Papa and Nannie were high school sweethearts. My Nannie was 15 and my Papa was 17 when they started dating. They were married until my Papa passed away in 2005.
I didn't have a high school sweetheart. I was way too awkward to really date in high school. The best I did was get drunk at parties and make out with people my senior year. I did meet DH when I was 20 and we have been together for 19 years. I still feel like I won the husband lottery.
Post by AdaraMarie on Sept 12, 2020 20:25:46 GMT -5
Yes, not until I was 25, but it was a bad decision. We have been divorced for 5 years. I have met a lot of people who have done this and most have been married 10+ years. All that I can think of are still together except for one couple that got married at like 19 and divorced within a couple years and one where one of them died.
No thankfully because he wound up being gay so that would have been something.
My BFF is gay and we had a deal that if we were both single when we turned 40 (because that was SO OLD.....š¤£š) we would get married. Some times I wonder if we would have actually done it. Lol
Post by christy082 on Sept 12, 2020 20:40:41 GMT -5
Yes. Started dating at 15, married at 25. We went to different local colleges and saw each other on weekends. Had a rough period during college but worked it out. Celebrated 12 years of marriage this year.
Also, none NONE of my closest college friends (male or female) married their college SO. Or even someone who went to college with us. It's so bizarre, given that most of us had at least one significant relationship and it's so common.
We automatically do everything college-related as a solo event. When I told him about our plans for a reunion, my husband was like "were you even going to ask me if I wanted to come?" No. I was not. Also, he didn't want to go, he was teasing.
I didn't date in high school. I say that like I had a choice! No one asked me out and I was too insecure to ask anybody out.
I did, however, marry my college sweetheart. Does it count if we met in the second semester of my senior year?
This is exactly my story! DH was a grad student and it was March of my senior year and I remember thinking āplease let this last a little bit so I have a good memory of my last semester of collegeā and weāre still here nearly 20 years later.