Yep. H and I started dating when I was 16 and he was 18- went to college together and then moved to Philly together. Married when I was 23 and we’ve been happy ever since. The annoying ease of our relationship actually fucked with his sister’s head (she’s 6 years younger than him, which means I went to her 13th birthday party! Lol)- she thought our relationship was normal and it led her to thinking she was a spinster or something at like 26.
I can relate to the SIL story. I have cousins who felt/fell the same. I have explained to one cousin more than once we are not a normal situation.
I only know one person from college who married their college boyfriend (although my college boyfriend married the girl he cheated on his high school girl friend with - and probably cheated on me with during breaks. So maybe that counts for something?)
Two high school friends married their college boyfriends, one after breaking up before he went to peace corp (to avoid long distance messiness) and getting back together afterwards. I've met a few people who married childhood/college romances but it's definitely not that common around here.
Post by sandandsea on Sept 13, 2020 0:15:18 GMT -5
We met on my 18th birthday at college. Started dating a few months later, and got married at 22 after grad school. We’ve been together more than half our lives and are happy. We think we just got lucky to find each other early. We also knew each other really well having known each other almost 5 years before we got married. I’m from the Midwest and DH is from the West Coast.
I did. My H and I had been friends since we were in the 5th grade and closer friends in HS. I went to a dance with this guy Dennis senior year and Dennis ditched me for this girl named Jen. My H looked really cute that night lol so I went and hung out with him and that was when we sort of realized there was chemistry. Anyways, we started dating in March of our senior year. Jen and Dennis started dating too. They’re now married with 3 kids.
Anyways, we decided to just date and have fun that summer and then we’d amicable part and go to different colleges. But by July we were like “yeah no, we’re not breaking up.” So we went to college about 2.5 hours apart and did long distance for 5 years. We got married two weeks after I graduated college and have been married for 9 years.
We had some challenging times at the beginning of our marriage and we’ve both changed a LOT. I am no longer religious and I decided I don’t want kids. For all practical purposes, my H and I shouldn’t have lasted but we’re really happy. When things are hard, he’s still my oldest friend and there’s a comfort and hope in that.
Post by mrsukyankee on Sept 13, 2020 4:50:09 GMT -5
I didn't date in HS (dad was the school psychologist which did not help). I was engaged to my university boyfriend but luckily got out of that (found out he was cheating on me and got engaged to that woman within a year of us breaking up). I didn't meet my H until I was 35 and got married at 38. Best decision ever made by me to wait.
My H and I started dating the last week of high school, and we were boyfriend and girlfriend for 2weeks in 7th grade, if that counts for anything. lol
We got married when we were 20, and our 40 somethingth (43rd?) anniversary is coming up in a few weeks.
ETA: Our homeroom/history teacher sort of spent our senior year setting us up. He would send us to the snack bar together for the first ten minutes of class, so we spent the entire year becoming really good friends/confidants.
No, my high school boyfriend and I broke up when I went to college, but we circled back to each other for a few years until just before he met his now wife. I went to their wedding and we still always email each other on our birthdays. He’s a nice, harmless guy in middle age, haha. They live in a different part of the country and have two girls just like my husband and I do, and seem to live a comfortable middle/upper class life.
My husband was my law school sweetheart though. I wish we had met in college (we went to the same undergrad and graduated in the same ceremony) or even earlier in law school. (He avoided the blowout parties my roommates and I threw because he found the one who was in his small section obnoxious, and he’s otherwise a big introvert.) We didn’t meet until I literally sat down next to him in a class halfway through our 2L year. We were one of at least five or six pairings from our class and I think only one set has divorced.
I can think of several people who married and are still married to their high school loves - a few sets from my graduating class, my sister in law and her husband, my husband’s oldest friend and his wife, a friend of mine from college, one of my good friends here.
Post by twilightmv on Sept 13, 2020 7:32:14 GMT -5
I know one person who did. They dated in HS, went to same college, and married maybe 5 years after graduation. They are still together. I married my college BF.
Post by Jalapeñomel on Sept 13, 2020 8:09:54 GMT -5
No. But we were the best of friends in college, although he transferred sophomore year to be with his girlfriend. Took us some wild oats to sow first, but we did marry young. (25 and 24)
We’ve known each other for 22 years started dating, 18 years ago, and married 16 of them.
Honestly, I don't think people who met and married the right person young missed anything worth missing. I wish i had met my H young... Would have saved me a ton of heartache. Dating was mostly a terrible experience, i settled for my XH because dating had been so horrible for me, and while I "got to experience" sex with several people due to being single most of college, there was nothing very valuable about that and again, really was a lot of heartache.
If I had met my H when i was in HS and could have skipped all that, i totally would have!
Post by PennyCandy on Sept 13, 2020 8:20:38 GMT -5
Yes, we waited until 25 to get married and have been married 13 years this year. Sometimes I do wish I had dated and had more fun in general in college, but I don’t think about it much so it’s not really a big regret or anything.
I didn't date in high school. I say that like I had a choice! No one asked me out and I was too insecure to ask anybody out.
I did, however, marry my college sweetheart. Does it count if we met in the second semester of my senior year?
Same except:
I did get asked to two dances senior year of high school. My H has been BFFs with that guy for more than 6 years. (I had stayed friends with him and introduced them when H met my whole high school friend group.*)
I met my H fall semester of my senior year and he was doing one last semester as a super senior.
*This might be where I say I'm still friends with my friends from high school. And we hung out regularly before COVID. Now we Zoom weekly
Post by lemoncupcake on Sept 13, 2020 9:01:01 GMT -5
Yes, but I hate the term. I hated it so much that I dumped him the weekend we moved into our college dorms because I didn’t want to have a dumb high school boyfriend when I was starting college. We stayed apart for a semester but got back together that January and then got married the summer after we graduated from college.
Yes, but... we dated my senior (his sophomore) year and tried to stay together my freshman college year. And expected, it didn’t work out. We both dated others. Lived with others, were engaged to others. And none of that worked out. In 2001, we both moved to the DC area and reconnected. Got married a few years later (in our 30s).
I like to say we had the best of both worlds... we got the running around out of our system and here we are. But, it’s also kinda weird to have all that history. I’ve know his family since I was 15. There’s very little “tell me about when you were a kid.”
Post by steamboat185 on Sept 13, 2020 10:34:03 GMT -5
DH and I were friends in high school but didn’t really start dating till after college. I know of at least 10 couples from high school that married their HS boyfriend/girlfriend and are still together. We graduated from HS in 1997.
Post by lolalolalola on Sept 13, 2020 10:57:28 GMT -5
My high school boy friend ended up in the Hells Angels. So, no.
I have three good friends who did, all from small towns who moved here after college. They are all still together 20+ years later. None of them were married before graduating college.
I was engaged to my high school boyfriend for a few years after high school but fortunately we broke up. I dodged a bullet there, he's ended up being a not so good person overall. My maid of honor was married to his brother for a few years so I've remotely heard about his life and I've seen him a few times over the years. What a mess he's made of everything.
My parents met their freshman year of college and got married before sophomore year, so that's something I can't do the math right now but they've been married over 50 years. I know a few people I went to high school who dated and high school and got married, some of them seem happy. At least on social media
I remember thinking at the time it was great that I was only in HS and could date all these guys and have fun and not worry about them being marriage material. So definitely didn’t marry any of the slacker/stoner/punk band/wannabe rappers I dated back then. I met my husband when he was way past that stage lol We were both in grad school at the time but different cohorts and had both been out of college for a while (him longer than me) and actually didn’t meet because of it, it was a coincidence we were both in the same program.
I come from a small town and can only think of one couple from that time that got married (and are still married). But, I can think of - easily - a dozen married couples that went to our high school together but didn’t start dating until post college.
This I almost find weirder. Like you knew them for years, had zero interest in dating them the whole time, go to college. Return to hometown and then you want to date them? My mind boggles. A dozen is a lot!
Post by beerlover on Sept 13, 2020 13:00:11 GMT -5
Nope. I did meet H in high school (we went to different schools about 20 min apart) because his best friend dated mine, but we didn't actually start dating until about 3 years later. We both had broken up with our HS significant others and started chatting on AIM (lol) and eventually got together.
Yes, but no one hates that more than H and I. We hate being *that* couple.
We met when he was a junior and I was a senior but at different schools, went to different colleges, dated the whole time and got married at 23 and 22 (as soon as H graduated undergrad.) We've been together since 2004.
I know several couples who did the same from both of our high schools and all except 1 couple are still married. We live in a lifestyle conservative-ish area, so it's not uncommon. It's quite common for people to marry their college sweethearts.
Yep, although we went to different high schools. Met at 14 and become close friends. My sophomore year, I went to a school dance with a different guy (who I had zero interest in) and DH did NOT like that, lol. He snuck into the dance with a couple of our other friends and tried to hang out with me. I basically was like, You should have asked me to the dance, bro. He asked me on a date the next day and we haven’t looked back since. Married at 21, so married for 15 years this year. We’ve grown and changed a lot, but all of it’s been together, thankfully.
I didn’t date in high school. I married my college sweetheart, but we didn’t meet until my senior year of undergrad. I know a couple people that dated in high school and are married today. My niece met her husband when she was 15. They dated all through high school and college and got married and have been married since 2006. That is the “record” of people I personally know.
Yep. We were 13 and in middle school when we first started dating. Married at 21. It is not common where I live to get married so young. We are not religious I was pregnant and he figured it was the right thing to do. I don’t regret him or our children. I also don’t regret leaving him on our 13th wedding anniversary. I’m much happier now
I come from a small town and can only think of one couple from that time that got married (and are still married). But, I can think of - easily - a dozen married couples that went to our high school together but didn’t start dating until post college.
This I almost find weirder. Like you knew them for years, had zero interest in dating them the whole time, go to college. Return to hometown and then you want to date them? My mind boggles. A dozen is a lot!
I know - I feel the same way!! Why weren’t you interested in them before?!?!