Post by tiptoetulips on Sept 13, 2020 18:24:53 GMT -5
Yes, well middle school sweetheart. We’ve been married for 12 years together for more than 20. Our last names are alphabetically close so we were assigned seats next to each other in home room and graduated high school next to one another. My older sister did too. Married for 13 years. My BIL and his wife are also high school sweethearts married for 11 years.
Post by DotAndBuzz on Sept 13, 2020 19:22:12 GMT -5
No, thank goodness. I see where HS boyfriend is now, and am so SO thankful I wised up to that whole situation. Fun aside - he gave me an engagement ring 6 months after we broke up (when I was actually dating someone else, but agreed to see him at Christmas when I was home from school). And then we came around the corner and his whole family was there, with these expectant looks on their faces, ready to congratulate us on our engagement. He legit told them he was proposing, and we were getting married. I was like....yeah, I'm leaving now, and we're not getting married. Left the ring at his house, he drove to my parents' house, left it in the mailbox with a note professing his determination to marry me. My dad found it the next day and was like, um, "what the hell is this?" Dude wouldn't take it back, so I held onto it, unsure what to do with it. Finally decide to pawn it when I was 22 and needed $$ post college, then randomly he emails me, ASKS FOR THE RING BACK because he wants to use it to propose to his new girlfriend (who actually did marry him, lol). Someday I'll tell my girls about him as a cautionary tale.
I met H at college and started dating when we were 19, but didn't get married until we were 25. Did plenty of growing up into adulthood together, will be married 16 years this month!
My parents are HS sweethearts. Married 45 years.
One of my good friends married her middle school BF - started dating when they were 13, and never broke up. Married right after college, celebrated 20 years last month, and they are completely perfectly matched. It's wild.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Sept 13, 2020 19:38:46 GMT -5
Nope ... he came out as gay a few years after i graduated. Nope to college sweetheart too. I met xh when I was as 26, divorced him at 40 and met J when I was 43.
Every single pairing of HS sweethearts I know who got married, got divorced.
Yes. Went to elementary school together, so we’ve known each other forever, but only started actually hanging out in HS. We started dating at the beginning of 10th grade (1998). We both stayed local for college.
We did break up for a bit during college & dated other people. I think we both felt like we wanted to see what else was out there. He happened to come into my work (retail) on Christmas Eve. He stayed and we talked for 2 hours after my shift ended. I broke up with the guy I was seeing and ended up back with DH by New Years Eve.
We didn’t want to get married super young, so we dated a long time and only got engaged and bought a house once we were settled in our careers. So yeah, together 20 years, married 9 years this fall.
This I almost find weirder. Like you knew them for years, had zero interest in dating them the whole time, go to college. Return to hometown and then you want to date them? My mind boggles. A dozen is a lot!
I know - I feel the same way!! Why weren’t you interested in them before?!?!
I don’t find this weird at all. I changed a lot after HS. I’d imagine other people do too.
Also, just because you didn’t date them, didn’t mean you were interested in them. Maybe you were shy or dating someone else or too busy.
No. I didn't date in high school and only know of a handful of people who did. None of my friends had a boyfriend - we were all too involved in sports or music or volunteering to have time even if we'd found high school boys attractive. We lived in a big city.
I did not marry my college sweetheart, although we're still friends. A few of my friends married theirs, and are still together. H and I started dating while we were both doing Master's degree programs, so I guess he's like my college 2.0 sweetheart. Married 10 years.
Post by starburst604 on Sept 13, 2020 20:02:14 GMT -5
My HS boyfriend was awful so thank god no. My coworker is married to her HS boyfriend, and it’s interesting to me considering she’s an MD. That they stayed connected through undergrad at different schools and then her medical school and residency. They seem very happy, many years and 3 kids later. I guess for some people it just works out.
My HS boyfriend was awful so thank god no. My coworker is married to her HS boyfriend, and it’s interesting to me considering she’s an MD. That they stayed connected through undergrad at different schools and then her medical school and residency. They seem very happy, many years and 3 kids later. I guess for some people it just works out.
We have friends who have been together since high school and are both MDs as well. It is amazing to me. They both went to Ivy league schools and then different top ranked med schools and residency in different cities but stayed together.
They are now at the same hospital ( different specialties) with 3 young kids and are an awesome couple and awesome people.
There are several people I went to school with who have married other people we went to school with, but they never dated in school, so that's weird, but whatever. There's one girl who got pregnant in HS and was married before we graduated. They're still married now. Just had their 30th anniversary.
My most serious HS boyfriend is definitely the one that got away. He's doing quiet well in life. We dated into college, but after a year it was too hard.
Post by irishbride2 on Sept 14, 2020 7:21:40 GMT -5
No, and I only know one couple around my age who did. They dated all through high school, broke up for most of college, but dated again right after. They are now married with two kids.
But my husband and I met and started dating when I was 18 (2008). I met him before my college classes started. We broke up for a few months and have been together since 2009, married since 2015.
My parents were high school sweethearts. They dated 3 years of high school and then long distance college dated (in the 60s/70s) and then got married after 8 years of dating. I know a few people from high school that married their high school sweetheart. Some are still married. Some aren't.
No. Hell no. Although I found out a few years ago that two kids I went to elementary school with, and I'm pretty sure were both in my first grade class, were in a relationship, which... see my first statement. (I went to public school through 8th grade then an all girls high school.)
My H is 8 years older than I am and was a total dweeb in high school, but, honestly, same.
I'm sure I've told this story before - my in-laws weren't exactly high school sweethearts, but they started dating when MIL was 16 and FIL was HER MATH TEACHER. They got married at 19 and 27 and have been married for 51 years.
Post by lightbulbsun on Sept 14, 2020 8:14:36 GMT -5
H and I met junior year of college. I know a lot of people from college who married their college boyfriends. I think it might be because I majored in engineering, and most of the women I knew were also engineering majors. Maybe it's something about engineering majors? A lot of us married other engineering majors, haha.
I have three friends (one from HS, one from college, and one I met after college) who married their HS boyfriends. All of them took "breaks" in college (not the whole time). They all got married after I did, and they're all still together.
Post by litebright on Sept 14, 2020 8:22:44 GMT -5
No, but my parents did. They dated in HS, got married at 19 after they graduated, and had me at 25. They are still together, mostly happily and are now in their mid-60s. Unfortunately, I think -- from what I can tell -- that the marriage is getting harder as they get older, due to personality and situational changes that are coming with aging and health issues.
All of their friends who got married similarly young have divorced.
I met DH when I was 25. We went to the same college for undergrad and were *thisclose* to meeting -- I literally have a picture of the two of us at a party, standing three feet apart facing opposite directions and surrounded by mutual friends. I doubt it would've worked out if we had dated at that point -- I did a lot of maturing and figuring out myself and my life in the five years after that picture, and then we met through a mutual friend (who was also in that picture).
Post by gibbinator on Sept 14, 2020 8:25:54 GMT -5
No, we started dating my 2nd year in University and I was 23 when we got married. Probably for the best we didn't know each other in high school (different schools) because he was very much not my type as a teen (what with the rule breaking, partying, cutting class...) and neither was his circle of friends. Interestingly, he did date a friend of mine for awhile at this time, but I never met him. He was also not my type in university, but he had matured by the time we met and became besties with one of my guy friends and was always hanging around, so I got to know him personally. I'm into shy nerds...and dh is just so much not that.
My ILs and one of my friends are high school sweethearts. Can't think of any other people I know, aside from a few FB friends if that counts.
I started dating my H when I was 17. We got married when I was 27. We did have some on and off time during my college years and when I was around 24-25 which I think gave us the time we needed to be young and irresponsible. Edit - we've been married 12 years now.
I don’t find this weird at all. I changed a lot after HS. I’d imagine other people do too.
Also, just because you didn’t date them, didn’t mean you were interested in them. Maybe you were shy or dating someone else or too busy.
But a dozen couples?! Four plus years later? That’s a lot, even (especially?) in a small town. I can see one or two but no more than that.
Can confirm this is a thing. I’m not tied into my small hometown at all anymore, but I know three in my graduating class who married others in the class when they hadn’t been dating in HS. And then a few more who married students from other classes years after graduating.
My aunt and uncle did the same thing. Didn’t know each other in their large HS, met a couple years later and married at 20. Married 30+ years now.
I knew my Husband when I was a senior in HS dating someone else. We started dating after that break up and we were both in college. So close to the age of being hs sweethearts. When we started dating I was very eh he's nice and this is fun and if it sucks I'll move on. It's been 17 years and it's still fun. Not always easy as any relationship is but over all good.
We also waited until we were 25/26 to get married.
Post by aliciabella on Sept 14, 2020 14:27:10 GMT -5
Yup. We started dating when I was 16 and married at 25. He went to the Catholic school and I went to public school but we lived in the same neighborhood and knew him since 6th grade. Ugh, lol.
But a dozen couples?! Four plus years later? That’s a lot, even (especially?) in a small town. I can see one or two but no more than that.
Can confirm this is a thing. I’m not tied into my small hometown at all anymore, but I know three in my graduating class who married others in the class when they hadn’t been dating in HS. And then a few more who married students from other classes years after graduating.
My aunt and uncle did the same thing. Didn’t know each other in their large HS, met a couple years later and married at 20. Married 30+ years now.
Truly, my mind boggles. I guess the dating pool is that small?
DotAndBuzz - dying that he wanted it back years later to propose to someone else. 🤣 she must have been a special lady.
He was 100% class, lol! I feel for her, honestly. Dude was/is just a disaster.
They later divorced, he never sees the kids he had with her, and he married another woman who looks similar to me, if I was into leather, bikes, and tattoos (not that any of those are bad, those are just total opposite of me, my "thing"/look/interests). Like I said, some day I'll use him as a cautionary tale. Like "let me tell you about ALL THIS MESS. You think you want that, because he's new, and different, and you think you can fix him, and the "bad boy" sounds fun. But trust me, you don't."
Post by thedutchgirl on Sept 14, 2020 17:07:19 GMT -5
I didn't have a high school sweetheart, but a lot of people I went to high school with did marry their high school significant others. I went to a religious Protestant high school and college, and there were a ton of high school and then also college couples who got married the summer after college graduation.
My brother actually married his high school sweetheart. They dated freshman year, broke up, got back together senior year, and have been together for 20+ years now. Married 9 months after college graduation.
I met my XH while I was in law school (he wasn't). My current SO/future husband and I met when I was 39. He's 7 years younger than me and we grew up in different parts of the country, so meeting as kids would have been weird!
Post by hbomdiggity on Sept 14, 2020 18:41:51 GMT -5
No. I mean, the guy I started dating in HS before my senior year was already in college. We dated all the way through my college and grad school, long distance, (6 years) but broke up the summer after I graduated.