Post by aprilsails on Sept 12, 2020 21:06:20 GMT -5
Yeah kind of. I dated his best friend senior year in high school (OAC for my Ontarians). I broke up with bestie the last week of school because he was being really whiny about his parents’ looming divorce and me moving 1.5 hrs away for university.
I then started to cozy up with DH on a couple of nights out with our group of friends (ex wasn’t there) but took off sailing for the summer. We talked on the phone a few times but I wasn’t too concerned.
When I came back from sailing I had 24 hours before moving away to university. I lied to my divorced parents about whose house I was staying at and then stayed over with DH (we didn’t do nothing fun though just talked for hours and watched Naked Gun marathon on the Superstation.)
I then moved away for university and we had a 4 year long distance relationship and married on our 7 year anniversary. We’ve been together 17 years as of two weeks ago.
We have three other HS sweetheart friend sets who married. Two sets are still together and one set is divorced. They should have never stayed together or gotten married they were so incompatible and it made no sense to me, but they were a bit codependent and I think scared of being lonely after so much time together.
My HS bf was not a good match. He had been to rehab and arrested before we met in 11th grade. I did marry my college sweetheart- and we will be divorced in 2 months. My sister married her hs sweetheart, and to be honest, it seems common from the hick town I grew up in.
Post by ellipses84 on Sept 12, 2020 21:07:36 GMT -5
Nope. I met DH post college, although it was due to a high school friend’s wedding (friend and I lost contact for a while during college, pre FB).
My sister married BIL immediately after high school and had only been dating him a couple months. Her high school sweetheart of 2 years was a prior BF and BIL was one of a couple rebounds and was originally friend zoned. He did go to Sr. Prom with her. It’s lasted more than 20 years!
My first love and I were not an good match. It was a very unbalanced relationship. He’s been married 3x and has kids with each wife. He’s still hot and lives abroad. I met a BF Sr. year and dated though a lot of college. I really could have married him and my family still loves him, but he had so much baggage and issues, so I broke it off. Although guys with baggage issues are definitely my type 😢
I think it’s kind of regional. I know a few couples that did. I technically married my college sweetheart, but we went to 2 different colleges and were long distance for many years. We dated for 7 years before getting married, so it wasn’t like the people that graduate and get married right after.
Nope. And the people i dated in high school/early college I shudder to think of being married too lol. I met DH my junior year of college on our term abroad, but we didn’t start dating until after college graduation (we went to different schools).
Post by livinitup on Sept 12, 2020 21:12:26 GMT -5
I went to an all-girls Catholic high school and know one graduate that dated a boy from the local all-boys high school and got married after they graduated college and is still happily married, one who is transexual and living his best life and one who is lesbian and just adopted a child with her wife.
No but I can think of at least 5 couples that I know that did and are still very happy.
My high school boyfriend actually did propose to me. I laughed. I truly thought it was a joke. I did feel bad when I realized it wasn’t but no. I was 17 (days away from 18 and leaving for college). He was 20. Nope. That ended that relationship real fast.
I eventually met DH when I was 25. We married a few years later. Very very happy with the way it worked out, lol.
No, but I know at least 5 couples off the top of my head who met in high school (or earlier! In one case the couple has been a couple since 5th grade!) and are all still married.
I grew up in Austin. I can see how it would be a regional thing. Texas seems like the kind of place where people would do that.
I met DH freshman year of college. We married when I was 23. Our 9th anniversary was last weekend.
Post by rupertpenny on Sept 12, 2020 21:16:33 GMT -5
I didn’t have a high school sweetheart, I was apparently undatable. I know a few people from HS who stayed together though.
I know A MILLION people who married their college significant other. I planned to but luckily realized he was an asshole shortly after graduation.
My H and I did go to college together though, we were introduced by a mutual friend and know a ton of the same people. We met the year after I graduated and I was 25. I do sometimes wish I’d had more single time in my 20s, but am overall happy with my life choices.
Yes. Met at 13 (start of 8th grade). Started dating at 14/almost 15 (end of 9th grade). Went to separate colleges, but talked daily through AIM. Married at 22/almost 23 and still married 14.5 years later.
Post by madringal on Sept 12, 2020 21:31:35 GMT -5
I saw my husband for the first time the first day of our freshman year of HS. I told my BFF, “I’m going to marry that guy.” I met him officially our sophomore year. By our junior year we were BFFs. We remained best friends until we were 23 when he drunk dialed me and told me he had been in love with me since he was 16. We went on our first date a week later, got married 2 years after that and have been married for 15 years now.
I saw my husband for the first time the first day of our freshman year of HS. I told my BFF, “I’m going to marry that guy.” I met him officially our sophomore year. By our junior year we were BFFs. We remained best friends until we were 23 when he drunk dialed me and told me he had been in love with me since he was 16. We went on our first date a week later, got married 2 years after that and have been married for 15 years now.
No and I don’t know anyone who from my high school who is married to their sweetheart.
I met my H at age 19 in college tho. I was just marveling at how successful our relationship has been considering how young and stupid we were lol. We have dealt with some really tough shit.
Post by sadlebred on Sept 12, 2020 22:28:03 GMT -5
Nope. I was too busy riding & showing horses to have a serious boyfriend (and working part time to support the horse showing). Quite a few couples from my HS got married and are still together. A few married our classmates although they didn't start dating each other til after college. I come from a city that is about 100,000 people.
My college sweetheart married his good friend's sister a year or two after we broke up. He has 7 or 8 kids or something. I don't know if they are still married.
I met ex-H when I was around 24. We were friends for a few years before we started dating. We married when I was 30; he was 34. My parents didn't get married until they were in their late 20s even back then. No one on my dad's side married before they were about 25-26 after college.
Post by Dznyprnces on Sept 12, 2020 23:02:19 GMT -5
I did not have a boyfriend in high school. I met my DH while I was in college and he was in the marines. We dated for 7 years before we got married. We have now been together 21 years, married for 14.
My SIL married her high school boyfriend. They just got married last November, so it hasn’t quite been a year yet. They waited to get married until after they both graduated college and she was almost done with her doctorate.
No. I met H right after high school at a party when I was 18 and getting ready to start college that fall. He moved to the area and was in his last year of a trade school program. We've been together ever since. Didn't get married until I was 25. So together for 15 years, married 8.
Post by mysteriouswife on Sept 12, 2020 23:35:34 GMT -5
I do think it is regional to so degree. I know a lot of people in my area who married young, but very few are still married. I am from what was considered a rural area in TN. Now that Nashville has boomed my hometown is starting to grow.
H and I married young and just celebrated 20 years together in July. We met at 14 and 17. We started dating at 15 and 18. My mom lost her shit at our age difference. We married at 21 and 24. We will be celebrating 14 years in Oct. we have had a rough patch or two. It’s taken a lot of work and communication to be where we are. I can’t imagine life any differently. I also understand that this is not for everyone and people can’t imagine my life.
Yep. H and I started dating when I was 16 and he was 18- went to college together and then moved to Philly together. Married when I was 23 and we’ve been happy ever since. The annoying ease of our relationship actually fucked with his sister’s head (she’s 6 years younger than him, which means I went to her 13th birthday party! Lol)- she thought our relationship was normal and it led her to thinking she was a spinster or something at like 26.