Did you marry your HS sweetheart?

[circa1978]

Brought to you by my hate watch of The Kissing Booth and the Kissing Booth 2. I'm always amazed at the, "obviously we'll be in love in high school, go to college together and live happily ever after" trope because I don't think I know a single person who married before they were 25 - most were close to 30 - and none I think even who married a college boyfriend/girlfriend.

Is this regional? Lol. Tell me your love stories.

[wildrice]

No! But my parents married at 18 and are still happily married, almost 43 years later. Technically they were not HS sweethearts since they met at the very end of HS and went to differnet schools, but still. So, so young! They were so lucky it worked out.

I have a few friends from HS who married theirs and are still together (20 years later, so pretty good!). I had another very close friend who married hers but they divorced after about 10 years.

[Captain Catnip]

Yep. Married in 2009 when we were 24. Have been together since freshman year in HS, 2001.

[mccallister84]

I didn’t. But I know a few people who did (I didn’t meet them until way after HS). They all seem pretty happy - although one girl has said the beginning of their marriage was really, really rough and she’s surprised they made it through.

[VillainV]

Lol, no. I didn’t meet my H until Iw as 29.

My aunt and uncle got married when she was 18 and he was like 21. They’re still married almost 50 years later. Two people I went to
HS with dated all through HS and college then got married and now have like 4 kids (and both teach at the HS we all went to).

But generally no, I don’t think it’s really a “thing.” Though when you’re a young HS kid you probably fantasize about this.

[blondemoment123]

Thankfully no.

But then again my current marriage isn’t exactly what wonderful, so....

[macmars45]

My paternal grandparents were high school sweethearts. Got married right after my papa returned from WW2 and died a month a part just shy of their 53rd wedding anniversary.

My parents are high school sweethearts. They just celebrated their 49th anniversary earlier this month. Got married at 20 and 21.

My twin sister has been married to her high school sweetheart for 9 years.

Also one of my uncles married his high school sweetheart.

One of my high school friends married her high school sweetheart. They got married at 22.... they've been married 12 years.

Marrying young is a thing in my family apparently. My twin sister was the oldest married age among my sisters. She was 25.  I was 23 when I got married. My other married sisters were 23 and 24 (I believe).

ETA: I met my H in college. We did marry less than 2 yrs after we started dating. And we were both under 25 at our wedding.

[TR]

Nope. No thank you. No way. Meet when you’re 14-17 and marry that person? Noooooope.

[agnes]

I met H a month before I graduated, he had already graduated from a different high school the year before. We've been together ever since, that is now 18 years and married for 12.

I know we are not the norm.

[undecidedowl]

DH and I met in college and got married right after I graduated at 22yo. A couple friends got married with similar timelines. Several high school friends married their high school sweethearts. It seemed pretty common where I'm from (small town).

[lac]

The first time? Sure did.

[fernweh]

No. I met H when I was home for the summer between my junior and senior years at college. We married when we were 23, a year after I graduated.

We both know several couples who did marry their high school sweethearts though.

[HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan]

You mean a bag of Doritos? No.

[nospaekae]

LOL, fuck no.

We did transfer colleges after our freshman year to be together (cringey thinking about it now, but I do love the college we went to) and I based my grad school choice on him (BIG mistake, but grad school in general was a BIG mistake for me.) I dumped him 1 year into my grad program. Life found us getting close again a few years later, but luckily I pulled my head out of the sky and realized it would never work. He is now married with 4 kids (3 under 3) and living with his parents for reasons I am not sure of, I think he was laid off and she is a SAHM.

Bullet dodged for sure.

[cville]

Lolno. I still had my head too far up my own ass to be a good partner or to know what I really wanted.

The 3 guys I dated* turned out to be smart, solid dudes as adults, though. So, at least I had good instincts.



*dating, for me, did not resemble a single one of the teen dramas or comedies I've ever seen. More like "hang out mutually, usually with other people, and generally be awkward"

[jinkies]

I did. I broke up with him when I left for college, but ran into him at a party shortly after I graduated and we got back together. We were 25 when we got married.

[meowmaps]

I didn't date in high school. I say that like I had a choice! No one asked me out and I was too insecure to ask anybody out.

I did, however, marry my college sweetheart. Does it count if we met in the second semester of my senior year?

[cmeon]

H is almost 8 years older than I am, so uh... no. I met him when I was 25, and had been engaged twice (LOL), lived alone, lived with BFs, owned a house- I had been out of my parents' house for a decade at that point. We celebrate 15 years in a few weeks!

H knows at least 8 couples from his HS crowd that stuck together and got married, including some of his best friends- I know absolutely nobody who married their HS BF/GF.

[ssmjlm]

Well I didn’t have a HS sweetheart because I grew up by the naval academy and why date someone from HS when you can date someone in college.

I only know one HS couple that married and lasted.

I can only think of 2 college couples that stayed together and married.

[eb777888]

Yes, I know a lot of people. Some didn't work, some did. My sister got together with BIL in high school and are still together and happily married nearly 30 years later. I don't imagine it would have really worked for me, though. I married H when I was 28.

[Deleted]

Off of the top of my head I can think of at least 8 couples that I went to High School with that got married and are still married. I graduated over 25 years ago.

[sproctopus]

My high school sweetheart shot and killed his girlfriend in front of her son last year in Florida so... v thankfully no.

ETA: Oh I didn't finish reading. I did marry my college sweetheart (met my freshman year).

[foundmylazybum]

No. My hs boyfriend makes purses and leather goods now.

I tried to order a custom bag from him and it was such a shit show. He never followed through with the order and now I see him making custom items for other people and everyone looooooves his work 🙄

I'm so glad I'm not with this prick.

[wesleycrusher]

Yep. DH and I were in orchestra together since middle school but didn't start dating until senior year. We went to different colleges away from home but in the same city. Married at 23 and it will be 12 years next month.

My mom and dad went to high school together, they weren't sweethearts then but were friends and went to prom together. They got married a few years later but divorced within a couple years because my dad came out as gay.

[aksinger]

Yep. We met at 15, started dating at 17 and married at 22. We also did several years long-distance during college. Waited to have kids until 29. Still married after 13 years, have been together for 18 years total. We definitely have had ups and downs, I would say a lot of our biggest issues have stemmed from being so young when we started dating (personal growth and personality changes in our 20’s and early 30’s) Thinking back I wouldn’t change the timeline of our relationship, but do I think certain things have been more challenging due to how young we were when we started dating/got married.

[whitemerlot]

Yes! And we got married super young. Waited 13 years to have kids and have been married almost 24 years.

[joy]

I married my college boyfriend. Many of my college friends did the same.

I don’t know anyone who married their high school boyfriend.

[W.T.Faulkner]

Nope, but he’s actually one of my best friends still.

I know many people who married their HS sweetheart. They’re all still together. #supercatholic

[imojoebunny]

My BFF married the first guy she dated in college. They didn't get married until they were 28, but were together the whole time. They are celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary tonight, at our cabin. I am so glad I didn't marry my high school/college boyfriend.

[tripleshot]

Yes, happily married 18 years. We met my freshman year, his sophomore year in early 1996.  We went to different colleges, but they were near each other and we spent the weekends together. We got married in 2002 after he graduated college and I had a year left.