I know it's a little early to start Thursday, but I'm pissed.
Big kid was completely iced out by her friend group this fall. No reason was given but we know the instigator (the others have told her privately that Miss Queen Bee is adamant about DD not being included).
Guess whose mom is using her professional organization to "like" multiple transphobic comments on Facebook? We knew the mom had a thing against our family and now we see why.
(A home health aide organization, no less. So guess who took screenshot receipts and sent them to our local LGBTQ org to make sure they aren't sending their elderly trans clients to that org for care.)
ETA: and now a second of those moms, a child psychiatrist, is joining her. This one made this whole stink during the summer about how we had to watch out for all our kids. I guess "our" kids doesn't actually include my kids. Just hers.
Post by litebright on Sept 28, 2023 0:07:44 GMT -5
I am drunk and at a conference in Vegas. I went to an event tonight where I knew no one but I looked for people who were feeling similarly awkward and had some great conversations. I hope I remember them in the morning.
I gave away almost allllllll my business cards. Hopefully some of them email me.
My body is still on EAst Coast time so Imma wake up at 5 am and still feel like I slept in.
Thank God for telecom and government policy and spectrum nerds, they are my people!
Post by mrsukyankee on Sept 28, 2023 2:51:33 GMT -5
sonrisa, I'm sorry your big kid's friends can't stand up to Queen Bee - or even decide Queen Bee is the one who should be ousted. And that Queen Bee's mom is such a see you next tuesday.
litebright, well done! I do the same - seek out the others who seem to know no one. I hope people contact you and that you wake up feeling ok!
I feel a bit better today - not coughing as much, got a bit more sleep and I actually did work yesterday (had to learn a whole new system for client intake so that was interesting).
Post by starburst604 on Sept 28, 2023 6:04:39 GMT -5
sonrisa I’m so sorry your kid is dealing with that and good for you sending those screenshots. It’s so hard for kids at that age to stand up against the Regina Georges of the world, but I hope that either they will or your DD finds better new friends.
sonrisa I do not understand followers at all. All of those kids suck as far as I'm concerned. I'm sorry your child is going through thus and I wish more people raised their kids to have a backbone. So desperate to feel like their kids are popular that they don't care what kind of people they grow up to be.
I should be getting an offer letter for my full time position today. It's going to be low, but I think it's a really great opportunity!
I wish more people raised their kids to have a backbone.
Well, apparently two of them *are* raising their kids to stand up for their values - those values just happen to be marginalizing transkids.
My husband had even referred a client to the child psychiatrist mom in the past. Time to shut that down.
DD has been handling things pretty well (all things considered) and leaning on out of school social connections. I had thought the friend bullshit was just regular middle school kid crappiness. Now I know better.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Sept 28, 2023 6:33:22 GMT -5
sonrisa, I'm sorry. It sounds like your dd is better off without those friends, but I'm sure that doesn't help at all in the moment for her dealing with the actual reality of feeling left out and friendless. Hopefully she finds better friends who come from better humans quickly.
And for a true random: Am I the only one who thinks the "post photos for x days, no explanation" trends miss the point? I'm much more interested in your photo if you provide a little explanation and context.
I have spent too much time this morning trying to explain to my exH how child support works. It's exhausting how stupid he is about some things. I finally told him to just call Domestic Relations because I cannot get through that thick skull of his.
I think I have a date tonight. We'll see. I swear with these online dating apps I don't trust anyone, and until they are actually sitting in front of me, I don't believe that the date is actually happening. It's taken all of 3 weeks for me to become jaded LOL
Imagine the worst heartburn of your life. Now multiply that by at least 10. That was my night. It felt like my body was trying to burn itself from the inside. I had pain from my jaw down to my lower back.
I’m better-ish now, but DH was about to take to the ER at 2am. I plan to login to work after lunch. It’s end of year and I feel bad.
And good news, the nurse was able to resend the lab requests via the portal so no going to the doc office at least!
Ugh why do people suck so bad! I’m sorry sonrisa. Hopefully the welcoming school groups will provide a new friend group. Isn’t middle school hard enough for kids w/o the bullying.
sonrisa, that's awful, I'm so sorry. I'm always flabbergasted when I see adults bullying children (or pushing their kids to exclude others). Deplorable.
(and maybe get checked out? Don't heart attacks in women sometimes present like heartburn? Not that I know anything)
I’ve had it before, just not this bad. I’m going to bring it up at my appt in a couple weeks because my stomach was a mess yesterday. So I’m sure they’re related with all these gastro issues.
Post by NewGirlNic on Sept 28, 2023 7:53:02 GMT -5
My allergies are in high gear this morning. I feel like clawing my eyes out, they itch so bad. I just popped an Allegra and loaded my eyes w/ itch relief Visine. I think I've gone through 1/2 a box of tissues since I woke up.
And as a follow up: I'm calling my state senator and state assembly member today to thank them for voting "Yea" on SB760 (at least one gender neutral bathroom available at each school).
If you live in CA, and your representative also voted Yea, could you consider doing the same?
The voices against trans kids are so loud. Those of us who want all kids to be able to pee safely need to be heard, too.
Speaking of heart attacks in women, my left after has been bothering me. Some weird feelike in between pain and numb. It’s been bitching me since Tuesday, and I’m not dead yet. So I’m going with slept funny (I sleep with my arm up under my pillow). But, there is this voice in the back of my head saying it could be something bad. Bu pt again, it’s been two days and nothing else has happened, and it’s been consistent. I should go to the gym tonight, which will be the real test. And like 2 people there know my medical history there and will likely flip out if it starts bothering me.
Post by maudefindlay on Sept 28, 2023 8:06:19 GMT -5
sonrisa I'm so sorry for everything your oldest is dealing with, but know you are the best parent for them. If there are higher powers for those women at work I'd be sending them those screenshots. When you work in healthcare you need to be able to treat all patients unbiased and seems these women cannot do that.
And as a follow up: I'm calling my state senator and state assembly member today to thank them for voting "Yea" on SB760 (at least one gender neutral bathroom available at each school).
If you live in CA, and your representative also voted Yea, could you consider doing the same?
The voices against trans kids are so loud. Those of us who want all kids to be able to pee safely need to be heard, too.
I'm in Indiana and one of our elementary schools is getting a major remodel and all the bathrooms will be single use/gender neutral. Lots of bitching and misunderstanding on what that meant, but I think moving forward that all our local schools will move that direction.
I had a dream last night that I was fist fighting with someone and they scratched my nose. I woke up this morning, put my contacts in and washed my face and when I looked in the mirror, there was a scratch on my nose! Dreams are wild man.
Also, wtf. I've never been in a fist fight in my life.
Kid had cheer practice last night so H and I decided to go out to dinner. I suggested a local place that we haven't been to in a while. I suggested wrong and I'm still paying for it. I felt terrible all night and this morning it's not any better. Thank goodness today is a work from home day. I told H to NEVER let me suggest that place again. I hate that I wasted a date night LOL
It's also a rainy, dreary, cold day and that's not helping me to rally. But I need to because I'm on a search committee and we're interviewing a candidate this morning.
Post by nancybotwin on Sept 28, 2023 8:50:18 GMT -5
Hugs sonrisa. It is awful horrible to watch your kid get dumped by a friend group, and it sounds like that is made even worse by the circumstances of awful horrible parents. Thanks for the tip about calling our reps - I will make sure to do so.
Post by icedcoffee on Sept 28, 2023 8:55:48 GMT -5
Remember a few weeks ago I had a cyst thing on my groin? Well the other day my IT guy was doing something on my computer remotely and he opened google in my browser and as he put something in it auto suggested "should you see a doctor for a cyst on your groin" and he got distracted while typing and there it sat for both of us to see for like 3 minutes as a suggestion.
In other getting old sucks news I have a stye on my eye.