"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I think people started off giving her very good advice.
But she doesn't want the advice. She wants to bump herself off.
This is correct. I do not want to:
- move out of the country where we've built our life - involve the police when he's actually broken no laws in this country - cancel the email account as it's actually given me valuable info regarding his whereabouts/intentions in the past
What I do want:
- info on a credible source for faking online articles, obituaries, etc.
So you figured ML was the place for you to get this information?
Do you and he still have any mutual friends? Has he ever tried to contact your family in the past 12 years? If he knows your dog's name, does he also know that you are married with kids? Don't fake your death, that shit barely works in the movies and has the potential of backfiring majorly.
No mutual friends. I cut all of those ties long ago to distance myself from him.
He knows my dog's name because a pic of him came up in my timeline and a friend commented, "Oh, Fido is so cute!"
He knows I'm married. Kids didn't come up in the timeline, so I don't think he knows about them.
I don't want to REALLY fake my death. I just want a credible obituary, etc. that I can somehow make sure he reads.
I don't think faking your own death is the answer. If he is a stalker, this alone won't deter him. As others have mentioned, this will prompt him to seek out more information and come to your town.
You need to relocate and re-identify yourself and your family if you are sincerely worried.
Snips, this idea was shot down on page 2.
Ha, I know, but she still seems so attached to it as an idea, I had to try again.
I think people started off giving her very good advice.
But she doesn't want the advice. She wants to bump herself off.
This is correct. I do not want to:
- move out of the country where we've built our life - involve the police when he's actually broken no laws in this country - cancel the email account as it's actually given me valuable info regarding his whereabouts/intentions in the past
What I do want:
- info on a credible source for faking online articles, obituaries, etc.
Your reluctance to do anything sane and automatically want to present yourself as dead is what makes me believe that you've been speaking to him and now shit got deep and you don't want your Husband finding out or him randomly showing up and outing you.
You very well could be stalked but let's be honest, you do not want to do a damn SANE thing about it.
Post by mkesweetie on Nov 29, 2012 21:33:51 GMT -5
Listen, OP, I'm sympathetic and I'm not going to call this MUD. I'm ok with it if I'm being played.
That said, faking your death is not the answer here. If you're here only to look for ways to do that, log off now because it's not going to work. And even if it WERE going to work, nobody fakes his/her own death and then KEEPS LIVING HIS/HER LIFE! People that fake their own deaths do so and then they run far far away.
If you're not willing to relocate, please see the previous 7/8 pages. You've been given a lot of advice from how to notify the police/international law enforcement to "Get a gun" (which isn't bad advice here). But, give it up on the faking your own death.
Or, if you can't give it up. fucking Google it. I imagine there are a lot of resources out there on this subject.
- move out of the country where we've built our life - involve the police when he's actually broken no laws in this country - cancel the email account as it's actually given me valuable info regarding his whereabouts/intentions in the past
What I do want:
- info on a credible source for faking online articles, obituaries, etc.
Your reluctance to do anything sane and automatically want to present yourself as dead is what makes me believe that you've been speaking to him and now shit got deep and you don't want your Husband finding out or him randomly showing up and outing you.
You very well could be stalked but let's be honest, you do not want to do a damn SANE thing about it.
I have not spoken/corresponded/communicated with him in 12 years. If I had done that, there's no reason to hide it from the board.
Anyway, this idea hasn't JUST popped into my mind. I've thought about it for years. "If he just thought I was dead, he'd give up." The recent email with specific info that he'd lifted from my timeline - I THOUGHT MY FACEBOOK ACCOUNT WAS SET TO 100% PRIVATE - has really scared me. Now I know that he knows my city. This is scary. I felt much safer before.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Your reluctance to do anything sane and automatically want to present yourself as dead is what makes me believe that you've been speaking to him and now shit got deep and you don't want your Husband finding out or him randomly showing up and outing you.
You very well could be stalked but let's be honest, you do not want to do a damn SANE thing about it.
I have not spoken/corresponded/communicated with him in 12 years. If I had done that, there's no reason to hide it from the board.
Anyway, this idea hasn't JUST popped into my mind. I've thought about it for years. "If he just thought I was dead, he'd give up." The recent email with specific info that he'd lifted from my timeline - I THOUGHT MY FACEBOOK ACCOUNT WAS SET TO 100% PRIVATE - has really scared me. Now I know that he knows my city. This is scary. I felt much safer before.
It's FACEBOOK. If you don't want people to know your shit, DO NOT POST YOUR SHIT!
Aren't you worried that friends and family will freak out if they see your obit in the paper? Or are you going to warn them ahead of time on FB?
Oh wait...FB isn't your friend, right?
I don't really want an obit published in a newspaper. Just a fake obit published online in what APPEARS to be a legit newspaper, maybe from a small town. Credible enough to fool a foreigner whose first language isn't English.
Loved ones are highly unlikely to come across this online - who Googles their kid everyday? - and if they did, they would realize that:
a. I am still alive so this must not really be me and/or b. they would have heard from family if I'd actually died
Post by snipsnsnails on Nov 29, 2012 21:42:49 GMT -5
It is irresponsible to tell you how to get a fake online obituary to appear, b/c once you've sent it to this guy w/o changing anything else, he is quite possibly going to get even more intense than you say he has been and find your family and you. Please tell me you're getting this. Right? Right?!?
Aren't you worried that friends and family will freak out if they see your obit in the paper? Or are you going to warn them ahead of time on FB?
Oh wait...FB isn't your friend, right?
I don't really want an obit published in a newspaper. Just a fake obit published online in what APPEARS to be a legit newspaper, maybe from a small town. Credible enough to fool a foreigner whose first language isn't English.
Loved ones are highly unlikely to come across this online - who Googles their kid everyday? - and if they did, they would realize that:
a. I am still alive so this must not really be me and/or b. they would have heard from family if I'd actually died
Have your Husband send out an email to everyone on your list that says "I regret to inform you that so and so had passed away on such and such a date, this email address will be shut down. Thanks for respecting our privacy during these hard times."
How hard would that be? Seriously. If he proceeds to stalk you more, than oh well. Not all obits show up online and they aren't in all newspapers. If you're SO into this.
I think we're really done here, you're talking in circles and not listening to any of the real advice that's been given.
Just for shits and giggles,
WHAT DOES YOUR HUSBAND SAY??
I've already answered that question.
One the one hand, he realizes that 12 years of unrequited emails is crazy. But he feels that he can protect me and we shouldn't uproot our entire life and move to another country just because this guy MIGHT find me. Again, we live in a huge city and my name's not in the phonebook.
I think we're really done here, you're talking in circles and not listening to any of the real advice that's been given.
Just for shits and giggles,
WHAT DOES YOUR HUSBAND SAY??
I've already answered that question.
One the one hand, he realizes that 12 years of unrequited emails is crazy. But he feels that he can protect me and we shouldn't uproot our entire life and move to another country just because this guy MIGHT find me. Again, we live in a huge city and my name's not in the phonebook.
I think we're really done here, you're talking in circles and not listening to any of the real advice that's been given.
Just for shits and giggles,
WHAT DOES YOUR HUSBAND SAY??
I've already answered that question.
One the one hand, he realizes that 12 years of unrequited emails is crazy. But he feels that he can protect me and we shouldn't uproot our entire life and move to another country just because this guy MIGHT find me. Again, we live in a huge city and my name's not in the phonebook.
This thread, age an hour, died thursday evening. Cause of death "makes no dayuum sense". Donations can be made to bonquiqui. Funeral tomorrow. Wear something fancy like a cardigan.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Aren't you worried that friends and family will freak out if they see your obit in the paper? Or are you going to warn them ahead of time on FB?
Oh wait...FB isn't your friend, right?
I don't really want an obit published in a newspaper. Just a fake obit published online in what APPEARS to be a legit newspaper, maybe from a small town. Credible enough to fool a foreigner whose first language isn't English.
Loved ones are highly unlikely to come across this online - who Googles their kid everyday? - and if they did, they would realize that:
a. I am still alive so this must not really be me and/or b. they would have heard from family if I'd actually died
1. he knows where your from in the US since that is where you dated, so why would your obituary be in a random small town paper? 2. he's contacted your family before, once your fake dead he will try to contact them again. Maybe even be more aggressive.
Personally, and I am being totally serious here, I think you should fake HIS death. Kinda like Bruce Willis in the 6th Sense he'll be like "wahhh, I was dead all along?!?!"
This thread, age an hour, died thursday evening. Cause of death "makes no dayuum sense". Donations can be made to bonquiqui. Funeral tomorrow. Wear something fancy like a cardigan.
apalettepassion.wordpress.com/ WHO IS BONQUIQUI!?!?!?!??!
"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
I don't really want an obit published in a newspaper. Just a fake obit published online in what APPEARS to be a legit newspaper, maybe from a small town. Credible enough to fool a foreigner whose first language isn't English.
Loved ones are highly unlikely to come across this online - who Googles their kid everyday? - and if they did, they would realize that:
a. I am still alive so this must not really be me and/or b. they would have heard from family if I'd actually died
Have your Husband send out an email to everyone on your list that says "I regret to inform you that so and so had passed away on such and such a date, this email address will be shut down. Thanks for respecting our privacy during these hard times."
How hard would that be? Seriously. If he proceeds to stalk you more, than oh well. Not all obits show up online and they aren't in all newspapers. If you're SO into this.
Thank you. That is actually really good advice and could be a very easy solution.
Have your Husband send out an email to everyone on your list that says "I regret to inform you that so and so had passed away on such and such a date, this email address will be shut down. Thanks for respecting our privacy during these hard times."
How hard would that be? Seriously. If he proceeds to stalk you more, than oh well. Not all obits show up online and they aren't in all newspapers. If you're SO into this.
Thank you. That is actually really good advice and could be a very easy solution.
Well sure, until he shows up to check on your family.
And that's the point, no matter what you send, he will come regardless.
Wait, didn't he already come to your city and you left, since you had read it in one of his emails?
What is your reason for not moving to a new city (within the same country - even metro area), changing your name, and closing that email address so that the emails bounce? That doesn't require giving up your business and getting new visas...
Would you be comfortable with a firearm? Several have suggested it. Usually just pulling out the gun on someone (who is unarmed) is enough to get them to back off.
He came to my city when I lived in the US. That was about 6-7 years ago. Since then, I've moved several times and now live in my husband's hometown. Which happens to also be in his country.
It's not so easy for us to leave because my husband is involved with his family's business.
Handguns are illegal here. But my FIL has some hunting rifles. DH knows how to shoot and we could bring one to the house. I need to learn.