Go view your Timeline as "the public" does. You'll probably be shocked. You're welcome.
How did he even find you on FB in the first place if he didn't know your married name?
I had it listed as Betty HerLastName HisLastName. Only friends of friends were supposed to be able to find me. And we have no mutual friends. But after the timeline everything changed I guess because he obviously did find me.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Post by MixedBerryJam on Nov 29, 2012 22:21:38 GMT -5
I'll bite, mud or no mud. If you are sure none of your fb friends are in cahoots with him, even unwittingly, could you pm/email all of them, say something like, I can't explain why, but I need to alter my fb presence ... and then change your fb page to a memorial page? Just a thought. Not sure it will work, and not sure it's the best response. And not sure some longlost aunt might not see it and drop dead of a heart attack when she sees it 6 months from now. And I don't know what kind of proof fb needs for making a memorial page. can you just delete the fb page altogether? or change your name/email address to something completely new so it's not searchable. I mean, I have friends on fb who are completely unfindable. Which I try not to take personally, but ... Good luck,
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Mrs Davis was born on June 6, 1966 in Chicago, Illinois, the daughter of Peter Goezinya and Snooki.
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Mrs Davis was 30 years old at the time of death. Mrs Davis's last residence was Brazil. The death occurred at Babyland General. Mrs Davis is survived by wife of Baton Rouge, Louisiana. Surviving children are, Myleigh Kadyn Ashtyn Brynlee.
Go back on Facebook, in a week or so, change your dog's name, your location etc, then go on in a another week and do the same. put that you live in Austrailia with your dog muffy, then you live in Spain with your dog Pedro,
just keep changing where you live on and on and on and on.
Thanks, but it's a BIG country. Over 100M inhabitants. That's a 1/3 of the size of the US and now you should be able to figure out the country.
Anyway, I moved to this country nearly 10 years after severing ties with him. Facebook's new Timeline made my current city public knowledge. I had no idea that this happened until it was obviously too late.
FYI i have to say that i don't have any stalkers and i don't put where I live on my facebook. my facebook is really private. i have my name (married name only) and no location etc. Why on friggen earth would someone who has been contacted for over 12 years by who she states is psycho.. put that info out there.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
Go back on Facebook, in a week or so, change your dog's name, your location etc, then go on in a another week and do the same. put that you live in Austrailia with your dog muffy, then you live in Spain with your dog Pedro,
just keep changing where you live on and on and on and on.
({) If he is a decent stalker, he would have found this post by now and know you are trying to fake your own death. Might want to reconsider posting you plan B online as well. It is usually best to not actually assist a stalker.....
BTW.... I found this thread from a post of facebook. I could totally be your stalker.
Dude. Google. None of us has experience in faking a death.
I am late to the discussion, but actually I have this experience.
As a lawyer, I met someone years ago who had faked his death, because he had stolen a lot of money from various insurance companies.
He did the following: - travel to Africa; - paid someone to fake an accident - with an actual (dead) body; - paid a doctor to declare that the body was identified as him; - the embassy notified his family that he was dead; - moved to the French riviera (Marseilles); and - tried to live anonymously (no tel number, no bank account, no lease in his name etc)
What happened ?
After six months, he came back to life and called his family : his wife divorced him, he was arrested and probably went to prison.
You know what he told us : "It isn't easy to be dead, you know".
You do not really know me, but I swear that this is a true story. It's my favorite lawyers' story.
Summary : to fake your own death, you need a lot of money, a complete change of name and lifestyle and to stay away from your life, friends and family FOREVER.
So your stalker ex is Brazilian, you marry a Brazilian (are you stalking Brazilian dudes??) and you left the US and other countries to move PERMANENTLY to the country and city of your stalker? I think you're crazier than he is.
After reading this whole thing, I'm still really curious about one thing. So say this fake obit is created, how did you plan on getting the stalker to actually read it?
After reading this whole thing, I'm still really curious about one thing. So say this fake obit is created, how did you plan on getting the stalker to actually read it?
By sending him a fake mass email with her hotmail account he uses to send her emails. In other words, she will be poking the bear .
Oh I also set up a fake maker daemon bounceback email on my account. I can get emails but the recipient thinks it bounced. Just copy and paste it into a vacation response and change the subject to MAILER DAEMON: MESSAGE FAILED
He has tried every manipulative trick to get me to respond (he's dying, his sister needs help and ONLY I CAN PROVIDE IT, he has a business opportunity for me, etc.).
Call the Nigerian embassy because clearly this guy is a Nigerian prince and surely they can help.
Lurker totally taking the bite. I was up all night last night and wandered over here and saw a 9-pager and read through the whole damn thing. Bad on me, I guess. Wading through the MUD charges, I can see some things but can't deal with others.
A few questions: - Is your maiden name so unique that there's only one of you out there? If so, why the hell would you not have changed it at any point in the last 12 years? - Is your husband's name (either/both/together) so unique in his home country that he and then you would be easily findable in a city of 4 million? Again, if so, why the hell would you list everything on FB, confidence in their privacy policies (that's oxymoronic) or not? I would think that family and friends that you'd want to keep in your circle wouldn't need your full name. I think that listing your maiden name just invited a search for you.
If faking your death is illegal then duh, hiring a hit man is illegal. I'd hire a bodyguard or security for the house at this point. Your stalker is 6 hours away and may be free this weekend!
Since you shut down your FB profile, you'd have to assume that he got the message that you saw his emails and knows he "got to you." I wouldn't open your account back up because what's the point? Like I said, he could be on his way right this second!
If your stalker is as crazy as you say he is, then your husband sending out a "mass" email discussing your demise isn't really going to dissuade him. He's going to need to come on down, find your grave, get some closure, etc.
Basically, you're too late. Arm yourself or hire some protection. GL!
He has tried every manipulative trick to get me to respond (he's dying, his sister needs help and ONLY I CAN PROVIDE IT, he has a business opportunity for me, etc.).
Call the Nigerian embassy because clearly this guy is a Nigerian prince and surely they can help.
I bet the emails aren't even coming from the "stalker". His email was hacked long ago and is now sending people Nigerian scam messages.
Post by changedname on Nov 30, 2012 12:12:33 GMT -5
I'm a lurker on here and post on MM but I don't see why you don't just go to the police. You can't be sure they would do nothing until you try. This whole fake your death thing is a little extreme until you try the conventional route.
I was stalked in Spain years ago by an ex and I walked into a police station with nothing more than a few texts from a random number calling me a slut and some emails and they immediately took me seriously and I had a court appointment for 15 days later. Ex was brought in later that day and in court they gave him a fine and a restraining order and, of course a a record.
I thought spanish police wouldn't give a crap but it turns out countries where they have huge issues with domestic violence/wife-killing (and I'm sure all Latin American countries are the same as Spain) typically take it far more seriously than they would even in the US.
I will start from the assumption this is all real and true, that he was an awful stalker during and after your relationship and you had/have real reason to fear him. Given that, it has been over a decade. During that time either he continues to be invested in you as ardently and intently as ever. Or, while he is still creepily trying to keep in touch, he just doesn't care that much. He is still a creep but he is no longer a creep who is heavily invested in you. If it is the former and you fake your death, that won't dissuade him. If he "cares" enough to kill you he cares enough to seek out your family and children for condolences. As you said, he is only 6 hours away. If it is the later, then a fake death may dissuade him, sure, but he is no longer invested enough to be a threat.
If a fake death is necessary, it isn't sufficient. If it is sufficient, it isn't necessary.
Godawgs name change recommendation was a good one.
Frankly, I think you risk turning the later into the former. Her he was, still annoying but not invested. He hears about your death, wants to give his condolences to your family (because that is what you do when an estranged friend dies - and he probably thinks of you as an estranged friend given his dellusions), he shows up, finds out not only aren't you dead but you faked it to mislead him, and BAM now innocuous stalker is obsessed again.