We drove right by here on Saturday. Every time we go by I think about how nice it must be to live near that trail. My neighborhood is pretty nice to run in though, so I can't complain. Plus I have the golf course right down the street.
Post by Doc_Lobster on Mar 4, 2013 22:01:45 GMT -5
I'm thinking that the old Budster is losing a little because now he has to go up and down 2 flights of stairs every time we take them out to potty, whereas we had a yard with 3 steps before.
It's hard when they get older and you can see that they've aged.
Post by Doc_Lobster on Mar 4, 2013 21:50:39 GMT -5
What do they check for? My old fella has lost a little weight too, but since we just moved this past summer and our lifestyle changed a lot I am not sure if that is the cause or if it's something age related. He seems in good health over all and hasn't lost a lot, but I have noticed.
Sara, I know you have spoken calmly about it with your father and politely asked your stepmother to take a photo down. Have you ever lost your shit with them and gone on a "fuck you and the horse you assholes rode in on, you didn't protect me then, so fuck you for ripping this wound wide open every fucking year by continuing to choose him over me" type rant"? Because it might not fix things, but I would think that it would feel really good. Preferably do it in their house, and accidentally break and then stomp on a few pictures while you are at it.
Ok, I know, I know. But I would like to do this right now for you, it would make me feel much better about the rage I feel in this post.
No, you know, I actually think this is a good idea. IMO no one takes your feelings into account because there aren't really any uncomfortable consequences for them if they don't. Avoiding unpleasantness shouldn't need to be a motivator, but I suspect it's a large motivator in why your dad and sister are sweeping it under the rug.
I agree with this. I think they want it to go away and do not want to face the unpleasant reality of what happened to you.
Post by Doc_Lobster on Mar 4, 2013 20:45:11 GMT -5
Remember how I said that I spent an obscene amount of money on (delicious homemade gf) food?
Well apparently I am such a good customer that she gave me a whole bag of samples of other stuff (or she knows I have no willpower when it comes to delicious treats). A few cookies, a bagel, a muffin, some rolls.
I just ate one of the cookies, PB chocolate, and it was SO GOOD. I want a million more.
The take home message here is that I have no self control and she is a smart, smart woman.
Post by Doc_Lobster on Mar 3, 2013 23:58:32 GMT -5
Maybe you should start small, like not going to their house.
Also, my mind is blown by his wife. I mean, I get that he was her son and she loves him even if he did something terrible. I would never expect a mother to stop loving her son. However, it seems like she doesn't even care that he did something terrible. It would kill her to be a little damn sensitive?
Well. You know what I think, and it's all good things about you and hateful things about the people who should have protected you, and shouldn't be violating you over and over by making you live with this bullshit.
If you don't want to cut your dad off, you could try making life really fucking uncomfortable for him by being super, super open about this, all the time, and making him face what he did and continues to do surrounding this issue. I don 't know whether that would be better for you than cutting him out of your life, though.
Kuus has a good point here. Why should you be the one to walk on eggshells and not rock the boat?