Haven't keep down food in four days. Got Hg "crackered" by my practices nurse and an ob friend. Passed my gd test but because my fasting number was the highest normal I got diagnosed with gd and have to meet with a dietician. L O fucking L.
So...the food you can't keep down is now supposed to be high in protein? Since the type of food you're not eating makes a difference? I'm sorry!
I would be really annoyed about that too Loco Coco!
I've been heading into work early this week so I can leave early to bring G to swim lessons. It's soooo nice only getting myself ready in the morning. I "help" with the kids, but then when it's time for me to go I just leave.
monarobinson, how have things been since having C?
They've actually been really great. Much better than the transition from one to two. I'm still extremely close with K and she really loves her roles as the little sister AND the big sister. Sometimes I wonder if it's been easy because she's the only girl. I feel like I'm naturally close with her and we bond over things that maybe I wouldn't bond over with my sons. I also feel closer to older DS since C came along. He's 7 now and we can have really interesting and meaningful talks. That's not to say that we have deep, serious conversations but I'm really enjoying to get to know the little person he's becoming.
This made me smile. We had a really rough transition from 1 to 2. I'm hoping 2 to 3 isn't worse still.
@jayhawkali, are you able to see a counselor? You are strong, hardworking, smart, and resourceful. How he's treating you is immature and childish at best, but seems more like intentionally abusive. I pray that either he makes some major changes to save your marriage or you find the strength and resources you need to look out for yourself and your kids. Please don't let him diminish the spark in your eyes and spring in your step.
DH keeps a squirt bottle full of water by our grill. If he catches it soon enough he can often put out the flames with water and salvage dinner. Sorry about your food!
@jayhawkali, I'm angry for you too. You don't need any more stress in your life or "children" to babysit. And your marriage doesn't need any more stress put on it either. I don't think I would agree to even having them move in temporarily considering what you've been going through lately. And especially not without an exit plan fully in place. I would consider making him choose you and your kids or them at this point.
We made a delicious berry salad for L's birthday. Just blueberries, raspberries, strawberries, and blackberries- nothing else! It was the most eaten thing at the party.
That sounds like my dream fruit salad! We've been going through a container of some kind of berries a day lately at my house.
I usually stick with berries and melon and typically don't add anything extra. Sometimes I will do yogurt/honey dip on the side. I get skeeved out by things that get mushy or brown so I avoid fruit that will do that. lol
I forgot about this, thanks. That's a good point about fruits that get brown quickly.
I sometimes do "force" myself to do it because I know I'll enjoy it once it happens. Like Trudy said, if you start doing it again I think you'll get back into the groove of things naturally.
Out of curiosity - is it that you really DONT want to at all, in anyway, or that you are into the idea of sex but don't really want to? There is a difference here, IMO. I can enjoy sex when I'm into it but not in the mood but when I literally don't want it, in any capacity, I can't imagine forcing myself and enjoying it. It feels degrading. No snark, just curious if we are all on the same page of what type of "not wanting it" is.
I think this is a really good point. When I was sleep deprived, felt like I was breastfeeding 24/7, and often unshowered/spit up on/feeling gross, I really didn't want sex at all. Now it's different in that it seems like a lot of effort but if I go along with it I know I'll enjoy it.
If I was still really not wanting it, I think I'd try talking to my DH about it. That way he doesn't feel rejected but understands my wants and needs. Right now I rarely initiate but go along with it bc it really is fun once I get over the initial hurdle of effort.
Help! I'm supposed to bring fruit salad to a cookout this weekend and I need advice!
1. Do you put anything besides fruit in fruit salad? 2. Could I add basically any fruit or just certain types?
I'll have blackberries and blueberries for sure. I could buy peaches, pineapple, bananas, watermelon, and kiwis too. Or other fruit...just not cantaloupe/honey dew since I don't like those. What would you get?
I agree with another sound machine for Max's room, or if you have a fan you could try putting that in his room to see if it helps.
One other thing that might not apply to you...my DH sucks as a nighttime parent. He looks for the laziest solution possible if he thinks it will afford him a few seconds more sleep, even though it usually makes things more difficult for all of us both long and short-term (like give the kid a toy rather than put them back to bed). I had to basically tell him to "suck it up buttercup" and make him deal with G's overnight/early morning wake-ups once X was here. Unfortunately it meant that G's sleep temporarily suffered, but I had to survive somehow. He eventually came up with solutions that worked once it was clear I wouldn't bail him out. Hopefully this isn't your issue, but just in case.
I sometimes do "force" myself to do it because I know I'll enjoy it once it happens. Like Trudy said, if you start doing it again I think you'll get back into the groove of things naturally.
I know this is true for me now, but it wasn't when either kid was tiny. Until about 13 months old when I started getting slightly more sleep, the last thing I wanted was to stay up for sex. Nothing really helped until the initial bout of painful sleep deprivation passed.
I have no experience but lots of hugs to offer. You and O are such wonderful parents for her and she's growing up in a loving environment. I have faith you'll be able to give her the tools to get through this. It's sooo hard watching our kids suffer and not having all the answers!
I think I'm a much better mom because of daycare. I don't have to put up with very many hours of sass on a daily basis so I can be much more patient in my limited time with the kids.
A sounds totally normal and I think you're doing really well at a really hard job. I think spending a little money to buy yourself some sanity/childcare would probably do wonders for your outlook! But either way, she's growing and thriving.
Things definitely changed with H after D was born and she doesn't remember how close we were. DH is her sun her moon her everything...which is exactly what I am to D. H gets me so riled up so quickly and DH has a lot of patience for her. He has way less patience for D and I don't get it. For me, she's easier, kinder and more loving. H can be really self absorbed (will this ever change?? lol ) but she does have a big heart.
I feel like this is a very similar dynamic to my family's. G is super close to DH while X is a complete mama's boy. DH only just recently (like within the last 3-6 months) bonded with X -- I was genuinely worried for a long time that it would never happen. He struggled with some mental health issues during X's first year which prevented him from properly connecting with his son.
@tambcat, I definitely don't feel as close to G as before X was born. But I've been making a concerted effort lately to find things that G and I can do one-on-one together and I think it's helping. We went to see several ballets and a musical together over the last several months, and I've been taking her to swim lessons the last few weeks. Also I love reading chapter books so really prefer reading her bedtime stories to reading X's toddler books over and over again. Focusing on a few specific things I enjoy doing with her has helped me look forward to our one-on-one time, and building our relationship seems to be helping in a lot of ways.
I loathed the baby stage with both kids, I'm definitely broken in that department. I'm also dreading it with this baby. I wish I could fast forward this kid to the 6 month mark.
Me too! Where is our commune...I need one of those baby-loving mamas to cuddle my new one while I play with all the toddlers/preschoolers!
Who were my Tula people in here? The Foozzler? I'm about to pull the trigger and buy one. I tried on that and a Lillebaby today and while I liked them both, the Tula was so comfy. I may wait for the mesh rerelease in a week or so. But I'm excited. I'm surprised my H isn't complaint about all the baby wearing things.
I got a toddler one for G since we still sometimes carry her and she's pretty much outgrown the ergo. I really like it and so does she.
Yup. G was never physical, X sounds just like you described. He still loves head butting but does it less often now. He really needs outside time daily whereas G would be content to sit in my lap listening to book after book or do an art project at the table. Sounds totally normal.
Eta - G is shy, X is much more out-going. She's an empathetic people pleaser. He's a friendly trouble-maker with a gleam in his eye. Definitely personality plays a part. I was super out-going while DH was a shy trouble-maker so it's like they mixed and matched our personalities.
G's pickiness is probably somewhat related to her peanut allergy. She won't eat anything with a "sauce" or dip. Including pizza, any soups, any stir fry/fried rice, or other dish where the foods are all mixed together. Definitely no curry, gumbo, tomato sauce, salad dressing, veggie dip.
She's recently started tolerating melted cheese in quesadillas but still won't eat grilled cheese. She doesn't like marinated meat either.
She's actually pretty good about eating most types of plain meat and fish, including lamb, pork, beef, chicken, and white fish...not sure about salmon. She also likes plain carbs. Plain vegetables are hit or miss depending on her mood. It's ok to add butter to most things, but otherwise plain/seasoned with salt and pepper. Most fruits she loves.
We survived. She started reacting, telling us her tongue was itchy and her tummy hurt, then starting to scratch all over at the second to last dose. But no hives and nothing definitive enough for the study so we had to give her the last dose. Then more of the same until 45 minutes after her last dose when she started coughing, had trouble swallowing, and started to wheeze. She got Benadryl, epinephrine, then 20 minutes later she started itching again so got oral steroids and Zyrtec. She's now under observation for several more hours. If her symptoms come back she'll be getting another shot of epinephrine.