Post by AHappierHour on May 6, 2013 21:12:01 GMT -5
He was shocked and quite. He didn't say much and acted like a sad puppy most of the day. He's starting to snap out of it. He said that he just really wanted to plan our next kid and try all the wives tales for a boy. And he really wants a son. Hopefully everything will work out and this is a boy.
Post by AHappierHour on May 6, 2013 21:17:35 GMT -5
No no no.. He's just shocked right now. This was surprised PG. we already have 2 little girls and he really wants a boy. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I'm sure he will be happy and ok with it soon. It took me a few days to let it all sink in.
You posted about a surprise pg, weren't trying, and already have 3 (or was it 4)? No point to the questions--other than to ensure I'm thinking of the correct poster.
If so, I've been wondering how things were going for you. It was probably a bit of a shock for him, I'm sure he'll come around.
Yes that's me. I have a son from a past relationship and we have 2 little girls. I think it's going good. He didn't get mad or yell of anything nasty. He was just shocked.
Post by saraandmichael on May 6, 2013 21:23:46 GMT -5
i'm fairly certain that if i became pregnant unexpectedly that one of my husband's first reactions wouldn't have anything to do with the sex of the baby i'm carrying.
You posted about a surprise pg, weren't trying, and already have 3 (or was it 4)? No point to the questions--other than to ensure I'm thinking of the correct poster.
If so, I've been wondering how things were going for you. It was probably a bit of a shock for him, I'm sure he'll come around.
Yes that's me. I have a son from a past relationship and we have 2 little girls. I think it's going good. He didn't get mad or yell of anything nasty. He was just shocked.
I can always tell when my H is really happy and loves me when he doesn't get mad or yell nasty things at me.
Uh. "Hopefully everything will work out and this is a boy" doesn't sound like a good observation. What if it isn't a boy? Does he then turn into a raging dick because....he's part way there with his response.
i'm fairly certain that if i became pregnant unexpectedly that one of my husband's first reactions wouldn't have anything to do with the sex of the baby i'm carrying.
This. and you can ask anyone who knows me here.. I know what a surprise pregnancy is all about. I am holding HIM right now. haha. I was scared shit to tell my DH bc he had a Vasectomy and this was a HUGE surprise.. his initial reactionw as wow, holy shit, how can we afford another child followed quickly by We will get through this together. We had times we were like OMFG (both of us) but never once did we worry about the sex. I get it though, you FI would like to have a boy.. and no matter what wives tales you wanted to try in the end you have a 50/50 shot of a boy.
Hopefully the shock will wear off and he will come to his senses
Post by AHappierHour on May 6, 2013 21:33:34 GMT -5
The sex of the baby wasn't even that big of a part of our conversation. He just said he would have liked to plan our next baby and do the things for a boy
I hope he's not anything like my father. After my sister and I were born, he gave my mother the silent treatment for years because she didn't give him a son. "rolls eyes* Hope you don't put up with that behavior for as long as she did.
The sex of the baby wasn't even that big of a part of our conversation. He just said he would have liked to plan our next baby and do the things for a boy
Okay, now I'm really curious - what are these things?
It was his initial reaction to a surprise. Was it the best reaction? No. But that doesn't mean he'll hate the kid. Perhaps it was a flippant thought along the lines of "Oh no! The kid will have a Christmas birthday!"
And it's time to walk on down to that courthouse. "saving for a wedding" is a cute idea in your early twenties when you are basically living single lives. You have two kids and a third on the way. Get the marriage license now and celebrate your fifth anniversary with the big fancy party.
The sex of the baby wasn't even that big of a part of our conversation. He just said he would have liked to plan our next baby and do the things for a boy
There is nothing you can "do" for a boy, other than have the correct sperm meet your egg....so what happens if this isn't a boy?
There are things that will increase the statistical likelihood of a boy. Mostly the timing of sex related to ovulation.
I am sure this has been covered, but how come the two of you are not married?
We have been together for 6 years and engaged for 2 now. Are saving for our wedding. We are hoping to get married next year.
The jig is kind of up, isn't it? I mean three kids, together for six years, why not just do a courthouse wedding and a dinner out? Dr.Laura would so not approve of this bs.
There are things that will increase the statistical likelihood of a boy. Mostly the timing of sex related to ovulation.
Are you fucking serious with this shit?
The theory is that Y sperm are faster but X sperm live longer. If you want a girl you have sex several days before ovulation and then abstain. If you want a boy you have sex as close to ovulation as possible.
No need to berate me. I never did it and I'm not the first person to say it out loud. Lol.
One of my friends was trying to encourage her third to be a girl by eating lots of acidic foods when TTC. She read somewhere that an acidic environment kills off Y sperm.
I have no idea if this is substantiated by anything, and she had a third boy.
Okay, now I'm really curious - what are these things?
Supposedly, male sperm are faster but die quicker, lady sperm are slower but live longer. So if you have sex on the day on ovulation, preferably in a position that deposits the semen closer to the egg (aka doggie style), you have a higher chance of the faster sperm being the winner before the slow lady sperm get a chance.
So even on a chromosomal level, men are claiming to have greater athletic prowess than women? Fuck that shit.
And if my H's male sperm took after him in the slightest, they would be the slowest ass sperm you've ever encountered.