Considering your problem that you came here for and how you explained in circles, we could have said the same about you. But eventually you got it. I'm not a simplypenguin fan, but seriously; pot meet kettle.
ETA: Never mind, you did not get it. You had something in front of your face for a long time and never noticed a real problem. YOU WERE NAIVE. The worst Simply did, in this post, was to fall for a scam. How in the hell are you getting off calling someone naive when you blindly turned your eyes to what your own husband was doing with your sister?
I call it like I see it. I don't really think that I'm not entitled to an opinion just because my personal life isn't perfect.
I'm not blind. I'm dealing with it. I wouldn't have posted it here for judgement if I wasn't prepared to deal with the flames as a result.
You're entitled to all the opinions you want, but you're still being shitty when you, yourself, have shown yourself to be naive.
She could be bat shit crazy and I'd still side eye the hell out of you for that comment. People in glass houses and all that.
Post by simplyinpenguin on Jun 27, 2013 1:30:59 GMT -5
There there sunshineray...there there. At least I'm owning up to myself, all you're doing is trying to fan the flames because you couldn't handle being flamed yourself. I understand, I used to get angry, but now I see that I'm getting angry at people calling it like is and I'm actually doing something about it. Go do something with your husband.
I kind of figured someone would say this. Yes, I was talking it out here. I'm still figuring my shit out. But all of this? She's been here way longer than me. I remember her SN from when I was a lurker. I just can't get past the "woe is me" shit here. It seems like an attention grab.
And so does yours. One could argue that she is talking out how to proceed in life as well. Who cares if she was here longer? Who cares.
You aren't exactly the most upstanding poster to be calling out Simply here.
I'm not trying to be argumentative. I certainly never suggested that I'm an "upstanding poster." My point about the length of posting was that I remember her. Some people contribute to threads and some people create them.
There there sunshineray...there there. At least I'm owning up to myself, all you're doing is trying to fan the flames because you couldn't handle being flamed yourself. I understand, I used to get angry, but now I see that I'm getting angry at people calling it like is and I'm actually doing something about it. Go do something with your husband.
Oh sweet Jesus. Listen. I have no personal shame here. This will amount to my first flaming and I'm good with that. I have always tried to avoid any conflict so this isn't a terrible thing for me. I have very clearly owned my shit here. Go back and read my posts about H and my sister. I am fully aware of how fucked up it is and I owned it. I may have been in denial but I'm not naive.
I just can't. You are like a sad, dumb puppy @simplypenguin. I agree with PP that I'm not sure how you function IRL. I feel like you're just here for the attention and it fucking annoys me.
Are you 22? I don't know how anyone can't see the signs. Like, it's seriously blowing my mind how naive you're making yourself out to be. So, I'm new, but I'm calling bullshit here.
.....are you for fucking real with this?
Nobody likes being called out. I don't either. My response is just based on the impression I've gotten from simply. If I'm wrong, that's fine. But I don't think I am. If everyone wants to go on the defensive here, I guess I get that. I'm new and it's trial by fire. But seriously with this job stuff? Grow up.
There there sunshineray...there there. At least I'm owning up to myself, all you're doing is trying to fan the flames because you couldn't handle being flamed yourself. I understand, I used to get angry, but now I see that I'm getting angry at people calling it like is and I'm actually doing something about it. Go do something with your husband.
Oh sweet Jesus. Listen. I have no personal shame here. This will amount to my first flaming and I'm good with that. I have always tried to avoid any conflict so this isn't a terrible thing for me. I have very clearly owned my shit here. Go back and read my posts about H and my sister. I am fully aware of how fucked up it is and I owned it. I may have been in denial but I'm not naive.
That's fucking rich. You can't be serious. Now I think you're naive and delusional.
Simply - you've been given great advice and I hope you find something soon. I second the Starbucks recommendation - if you're really hard up for cash, you could do that during the day and be a bartender/waitress in the evenings.
I just can't. You are like a sad, dumb puppy @simplypenguin. I agree with PP that I'm not sure how you function IRL. I feel like you're just here for the attention and it fucking annoys me.
Are you 22? I don't know how anyone can't see the signs. Like, it's seriously blowing my mind how naive you're making yourself out to be. So, I'm new, but I'm calling bullshit here.
Post by iammalcolmx on Jun 27, 2013 8:26:43 GMT -5
Simply, have you considered receptionist positions? Also there was mention of a criminal record of some sort? Honestly that wont automatically disqualify you. I can't tell you how many folks we have here with records, as long as they disclose and the issue was TERRIBLE we are usually cool with it.
listen, everyone gets frustrated with people who seem to be running in place and blaming others for lack of forward progression. i think you started out looking that way, but it's clear now that you're trying.* it's okay to make missteps along the way. these companies have more than 2 employees because, well, more than 2 people on earth were "tricked" by them. going forward, now you'll know.
just think broadly about anything you could possibly do, at all. you'll find something. master of your own ship, captain of your soul and all that.
*ETA: yes yes, we've all been fooled here before. if i'm one of the fools now, oh well. it's not like my well of compassion is going to dry up over it.
Considering your problem that you came here for and how you explained in circles, we could have said the same about you. But eventually you got it. I'm not a simplypenguin fan, but seriously; pot meet kettle.
I kind of figured someone would say this. Yes, I was talking it out here. I'm still figuring my shit out. But all of this? She's been here way longer than me. I remember her SN from when I was a lurker. I just can't get past the "woe is me" shit here. It seems like an attention grab.
Constantly changing it with little or no difference in the meaning is pointless to me. Of course when the understanding of the different diagnosis change there should be updates but how are "mentally disabled" and "intellectually disabled" really different?
It makes it difficult for people to describe people in a respectful way which is the exact opposite of the intention (I assume.)
This, omg, it's not like she said something really awful or offensive. Relax. And i'm 'in the field'.
Not sure who this is directed to, but I don't think anyone was upset by the use of the term? I think myself and several others were just saying there is a different term now. Normally the use of DD is for children under the age of 6. The use of "mental" anything is what has been done away with because people feel that the disability is not always a mental thing, but more of a delay or inability to process things intellectually. The mental term is associated with the r-word, which is offensive to many.
But again, I am not sure about the reason for anyone to relax since I don't think any of us were upset by it? We were just passing on knowledge to help.
ETA- and I actually agree that the terms change too much for little to no difference in meaning. hence my comment about the name of my room changing 3 times in 3 years.
Don't get too down on yourself! It happened to H too a few years back when he was job searching. I'm glad you found out and now you can focus on your other interviews. Good luck!!
ETA- Just read that the other interviews were scams too. I'm so sorry! I second the suggestions that you have already gotten. And the job you mentioned sounds great! I am a para and I work with high school students with autism and I love it! It's so rewarding.
I'm a para with special needs preschoolers (including autism, down's syndrome etc). It is an amazing, rewarding and fun job. I love going to work every day!
Also, you don't need a specific degree to get para jobs at least in WA state. You have to take a test if you don't have at least an AA, but from what I hear it's basic math/English/reading/writing skills. FYI simplyinpenguin. (I'm not saying you have no education post HS. I don't know so I was just putting the info out there just in case.)
FWIW job hunting sucks and is so demoralizing. I wish you luck simplyinpenguin.
Yep. Thank you for removing that fog of jubilation so that I can see what it really was. Now I'm just depressed again.
I know someone who has done very well w/ Primerica.
eta: admittedly I don't know much about what she does; only what she has told me a very brief conversation. She posts a ton of shit on FB and seems genuinely happy with her job & has done well.
Post by simplyinpenguin on Jun 27, 2013 13:44:11 GMT -5
I'm applying to receptionist jobs, assistant jobs, HR assistant, filing, clerks, etc. I'm not being picky at all. Seriously. I'm not sitting there going "beneath me, beneath me." I'm applying to those jobs. I need to get to the new Jersey Mike's opening. Every time I go there to drop my resume off, as per the instructions in their window, no one's there and the door is locked. But I still go down there every day, in hopes that the door is not locked lol.
Thanks all. I just applied to Starbucks, Petsmart, two gas stations, I put in 8 resumes toward Panda Garden (for 8 locations), Target (although 3 times of not being hired, I'm not thinking too much of this one), Walmart.
I had to take a background check for one of jobs I was applying to. According to the check, my expunged record isn't even being flagged. It says I have no criminal record. So I've been putting down that I haven't been convicted of anything.
I just can't. You are like a sad, dumb puppy @simplypenguin. I agree with PP that I'm not sure how you function IRL. I feel like you're just here for the attention and it fucking annoys me.
Are you 22? I don't know how anyone can't see the signs. Like, it's seriously blowing my mind how naive you're making yourself out to be. So, I'm new, but I'm calling bullshit here.
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
Post by simplyinpenguin on Jun 27, 2013 13:57:03 GMT -5
As for the Sunshineray comments, we PM'ed each other and hashed it out. We both said things out of anger and frustration at our situations. Please don't flame her anymore.
Post by sunshineray on Jun 27, 2013 14:17:59 GMT -5
I appreciate this, but there is no need to defend me. Your comments to me were a direct result of my personal attack on you, and you understandably reciprocated.
Simply and I have cleared the air. I was obviously in the wrong here and I have apologized to her. She handled it with incredible grace and I very much appreciate that.
I feel like I'm coming unhinged with everything I have going on, but that's no excuse for my behavior. Her and I actually have a lot in common, and I lashed out at her to make myself feel better. It didn't work and I acted like an asshole. I am certainly in no position to make any judgment of her or her choices, seeing as how I've made some incredibly poor ones myself. All I can do is figure out WHY I made them and work hard to make better ones moving forward.
I don't remember who asked, but I HAVE talked to H several times now. I am not faking it anymore around him because now I don't have to. I am going away this weekend for some much needed space. He understood. I'm very very angry at him and he knows that. I have also talked to my sister. We are all taking a step back from each other right now. There have been some very painful and uncomfortable conversations, but progress is being made.
So, to the rest of you, I apologize as well for my asinine behavior and my spectacular display of bitchiness. I deserve whatever flames I get.
Post by iammalcolmx on Jun 27, 2013 14:20:53 GMT -5
How is your resume? Its just one page correct? Also are you tweaking it a bit depending on the type of job you are applying for? How about cover letters?
Post by simplyinpenguin on Jun 27, 2013 14:25:11 GMT -5
My resume is one page. Kinda sucks that my service awards were much earlier than 2007, but it was the last time they did those awards. I do mention it during interviews. My cover letters need work. I try using a sample outline but I'm still struggling with keywords and the overuse of "I".