H told me Sunday afternoon that he had had sex with someone else. I packed a bag, grabbed my kids and spent the night at my mom's house. The next day I saw him for a second and had a freaking anxiety attack in my car. Last night we stayed with my BFF so he could finish moving stuff out. What would be a deal breaker in your marriage?
Honestly, I'm not sure it would be in my situation but it's hard to say. Somehow I feel like it's worse after kids like, he didn't just cheat on his wife but also the mother of his children. No one will judge you for ending it over this if that's what you want. So sorry.
I'm so sorry. My heart hurts for you. biggest of hugs.
As for me, it's difficult to say without actually being faced with the situation, but I'm pretty positive that would be a deal breaker for me. I already have trust issues, and I think that would completely break me of ever fully trusting him again, thus preventing us from moving past it and sustaining a relationship.
Only you know what your limits are and what you are able to live with. Some people are able to move on from a cheating situation and revive a happy, long-lasting relationship. I wish you the best in moving forward, whatever path you choose.
OMG, I'm so so so sorry you are dealing with this.
I'm not sure if it would be a deal breaker for me...but probably. And it would depend a lot on his actions, his willingness to go to counseling and his remorse
I am so sorry. I think this would be it for us, I definitely think H feels this way. I'm of the frame of mind that cheating doesn't just "happen", so if the h was not happy with something in our relationship, even if it was kid stress, I would expect him to come to me first.
Post by thinklikeajellyfish on Jul 9, 2013 19:42:03 GMT -5
Oh my gosh. I am so so sorry. As I'm sure you know, only you can answer the question of whether this is a deal breaker for you. For most people it is. H had an affair and our marriage survived only because he was immediately willing to go to lots and lots of individual and couple counseling, and answer any questions I asked for as long as I needed to ask them. It's been five years and we still deal with some of the repercussions sometimes, but things are better and easier.
PM (or ask on here, I don't really care) if you have any questions or need anything. I'm sorry that your family is going through this. I know you will make whatever choice is best for you and your kids. In the mean time you have a lot of women here to support you in everything you need.