Post by leonard131 on Feb 21, 2014 10:13:49 GMT -5
As promised from yesterday's randoms. I always have an opinion on everything and need to open my big mouth. People are rubbing me the wrong way this week.
I think people need to to toughen up, put on their big boy pants on and stop getting stressed out and overwhelmed so easily. Work is hard and stressful, that is why it is called work and they pay you to do it. Kids are hard. Who ever didn't get the memo before they had one was living under a rock. And guess what we aren't 10 years old, we are adults. This means going grocery shopping, keeping a house clean, running errands and just doing the basic day to day crap like laundry. I do get that there are times where the shit just hits the fan and things truly suck but I am talking about the constant not being able to deal with the small bumps in the road or freakouts over what are really just parts of being an adult.
Complaints about not losing weight and feeling so bad about their body in the same breath as "I don't have any time to exercise". Studies have shown just a couple days a week of 25-30 minutes of interval or hitt workouts makes a huge difference. There are 1000s of routines on the web and youtube you can do in the comfort of your home, are free and don't require any equipment. It can't get any easier then that. If you have a 1/2 hour to watch TV there is time to workout. I just think people don't make it a priority but like to complain. And along the same lines when people say "you don't understand because you don't need to lose weight" . Yeah I don't need to lose weight because I work FREAKING hard at it and make sure I exercise everyday!
Post by gogadgetgo on Feb 21, 2014 10:18:42 GMT -5
I have some mom friends who question every little thing. Yesterday it was the sign up process for snacks at our parent/toddler class. Can't you just follow the rules and not make it all about you?
(I guess this was more of a rant but I don't care. I'm following my own rules dammit )
I think the back to sleep and breastfeeding initiatives are causing more harm than good. Yes, these things are best but not every kid is the same. Parents need to do what's best for them and be able to make conscious choices and not feel like they will be shamed for these things. A backlash may be coming soon, IMO
I don't like the phrases "girl mom" / "boy mom" which seem to be everywhere these days (even hashtags on Instagram). What happens when your next kid turns out to be the opposite sex?
I get ragey when a mom asks about sleep training on FB and people just chime in with "we don't BELIEVE in sleep training and practice WIO (wait it out), I can share info on that with you!" Wait it out basically means "suck it up", your kid will grow out of multiple night wakeups by the time they are 5. I find most of the time the people pushing WIO are stay at home moms with only one child.
I think the back to sleep and breastfeeding initiatives are causing more harm than good. Yes, these things are best but not every kid is the same. Parents need to do what's best for them and be able to make conscious choices and not feel like they will be shamed for these things. A backlash may be coming soon, IMO
Can you explain these? I'm still learning about all of these things.
ETA: I'm going to guess the breastfeeding part is for the "breast is best" stuff. Just wasn't sure about the back to sleep stuff. Like people against CIO?
I don't understand the "we'll figure it out" philosophy regarding the financial toll of children. I hear it alllllll the time. You're barely scrapping by, but want more kids, but "you'll figure it out." I am befuddled. Do magical money trees exist? Did I miss the memo?
This message brought to you by my friend telling me they're trying for their third. While underwater on their condo, in consumer debt up to their EYEBALLZ, wracked with student loans, and living with her parents. I just cannot.
I don't understand the "we'll figure it out" philosophy regarding the financial toll of children. I hear it alllllll the time. You're barely scrapping by, but want more kids, but "you'll figure it out." I am befuddled. Do magical money trees exist? Did I miss the memo?
This message brought to you by my friend telling me they're trying for their third. While underwater on their condo, in consumer debt up to their EYEBALLZ, wracked with student loans, and living with her parents. I just cannot.
I think the back to sleep and breastfeeding initiatives are causing more harm than good. Yes, these things are best but not every kid is the same. Parents need to do what's best for them and be able to make conscious choices and not feel like they will be shamed for these things. A backlash may be coming soon, IMO
Can you explain these? I'm still learning about all of these things.
ETA: I'm going to guess the breastfeeding part is for the "breast is best" stuff. Just wasn't sure about the back to sleep stuff. Like people against CIO?
I think she is referring to putting your baby to sleep on their back. J ended up having a flat head then helmet, largely because of this campaign, and our pedi said since it started 10-15 years ago, the number of babies with flat heads has gone up dramatically. I believe it is now around 14%. That said, the percentage of SIDS has also gone down significantly since the campaign started, so there seems to be something to it. Even though we have done the helmet, I will still put baby #2 on the back to sleep
Can you explain these? I'm still learning about all of these things.
ETA: I'm going to guess the breastfeeding part is for the "breast is best" stuff. Just wasn't sure about the back to sleep stuff. Like people against CIO?
I think she is referring to putting your baby to sleep on their back. J ended up having a flat head then helmet, largely because of this campaign, and our pedi said since it started 10-15 years ago, the number of babies with flat heads has gone up dramatically. I believe it is now around 14%. That said, the percentage of SIDS has also gone down significantly since the campaign started, so there seems to be something to it. Even though we have done the helmet, I will still put baby #2 on the back to sleep
I think she is referring to putting your baby to sleep on their back. J ended up having a flat head then helmet, largely because of this campaign, and our pedi said since it started 10-15 years ago, the number of babies with flat heads has gone up dramatically. I believe it is now around 14%. That said, the percentage of SIDS has also gone down significantly since the campaign started, so there seems to be something to it. Even though we have done the helmet, I will still put baby #2 on the back to sleep
Ohhhhhh ok that makes sense. Thanks!
This is what I was referring to yes. DS would not sleep more than an hour if he were sleeping in his back. And, since we're doing UOs, the dramatic difference is something like 1 in a thousand versus 1 in 2 thousand, also which could be attributed somewhat to taking things out of the crib, not using blankets, etc. IMHO
I think the back to sleep and breastfeeding initiatives are causing more harm than good. Yes, these things are best but not every kid is the same. Parents need to do what's best for them and be able to make conscious choices and not feel like they will be shamed for these things. A backlash may be coming soon, IMO
While I agree that you need to do what is correct for your family, the back to sleep campaign has decreased SIDS in the US by 50%. That is pretty huge.
As far as feeding goes, people just need to stfu about others choices. BFing moms are shamed because boobs are gross and formula moms are shamed because formula isn't natural. How about we all just be happy that we have options.
I think the back to sleep and breastfeeding initiatives are causing more harm than good. Yes, these things are best but not every kid is the same. Parents need to do what's best for them and be able to make conscious choices and not feel like they will be shamed for these things. A backlash may be coming soon, IMO
I disagree 100% on the back to sleep campaign only because study after study has shown reduced SIDS rates.
I am mixed on the breastfeeding campaign because the campaigns have shown an increase in initial breastfeeding and long lasting breastfeeding, so it is hard to say that they campaigns aren't making what I feel are positive changes.
I think the BIGGEST issue is the freaken internet. I mean I just say this because ALL of my friends from back home formula fed. It was 100% normal and no one cared about breastfeeding or formula. And I never heard of formual shaming until I got on the internet. I do think it is a very huge internet phenomenom. And I will say that while I think there is some IRL shaming that goes on, I dont' think it is anywhere near the number that is found on the internet and I think it is very seperated by socio-economic class.
we just got a bunch of hand me downs from a friend-and there are a ton of tank tops.
there are some that have cute logos/designs on them that i'm tempted to keep, but i'm not sure i can put my kid in a tank top even with something cute on the front!
I don't understand the "we'll figure it out" philosophy regarding the financial toll of children. I hear it alllllll the time. You're barely scrapping by, but want more kids, but "you'll figure it out." I am befuddled. Do magical money trees exist? Did I miss the memo?
This message brought to you by my friend telling me they're trying for their third. While underwater on their condo, in consumer debt up to their EYEBALLZ, wracked with student loans, and living with her parents. I just cannot.
Ugh. My stepbrother has 2 kids now and they can't afford any on their salaries, and I'm just waiting for them to announce that SSIL is pregnant again because they have 2 boys and she's dyyyyyyying for a girl. And DH and I are moving more and more towards being done with 2 because we "would be scraping by" when paying for 3 in daycare... they would die if they saw my budget post on MM. They have no e-fund. That's what grandparents are for. SMH.
Post by scribellesam on Feb 21, 2014 11:02:41 GMT -5
I roll my eyes at anyone who has gender disappointment, or expresses a desire for a certain gender. Then I secretly hope for them to have the "unwanted" gender.
Note that this opinion doesn't apply to extreme gender disappointment that's more likely a symptom of depression or other mental illness.
I hate solids. They're messy, annoying, require too much work just to get a few bites in. Nursing is so much easier and more efficient. I get zero excitement about introducing new foods to DD since she just spits half of it out. It just seems like a waste of time. DD is 6 months so it's time and she seems a little interested when we're all eating at the table.
I wish I could just BF DD until a year and wake up one day and have a toddler who feeds themselves.
Also, now I have to start rinsing out DD's poopy CDs, which is a PITA!
In our relationship, I totally am the one who gets man colds.
DH has literally had pneumonia and tried to go to work. If I feel even a little off, I need to be in bed or things are not pretty. I feel sorry for your husbands, lol.
I think that the "back to sleep", "breast is best", mother-friendly and baby-friendly birth campaigns are awesome. They are aimed at saving babies' and mothers' lives and making the new generation of kids and moms as healthy as possible, and that should be encouraged. I firmly believe in the scientific process, and I always do my best to follow evidence-based advice when possible.
This does NOT mean that I believe they are the only option, or that they're the best option in every individual case. Every parent and baby is different and everyone needs to make their own choices for their situation. I do not always follow the rules and I'm ok with it because at least I'm making an educated decision.
It's the shaming that's got to stop, not the educational campaign.
I busted my UOs out last week, or maybe it was the week before (my general distaste for headbands on baby girls and the need to get "professional" pictures taken for every holiday or interval imaginable). I forget when. Either way, I should have more by the end of the day.
I think it's really shitty to not have an 'in case I die' plan set up when you have a kid that includes a guardian, life insurance (or sufficient assets), etc.