I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
Because after being in the best shape of my life in 2012 and having an unplanned high-risk pregnancy starting in January 2013 where the doctor told me immediately to stop running (my favorite form of exercise), I was miserable and ate my feelings. I'm not proud of it given that I've struggled with weight my whole life and am currently struggling now.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
I gained 40 with my first. I was on bed rest for 11 weeks so I blame that . I lost all of it except for 5 pounds within 3 months. With my second I gained 30 and lost all of it but 5 pounds in the same 3 months. I guess my UO is that I'm not sure it matters. You are either someone who will have a hard time losing it or someone who won't.
Post by littlemisschatty on Feb 21, 2014 17:06:30 GMT -5
I just can't for the life of me understand why women insist on judging each other, especially pregnant women. Geez Louise. If you and your baby are healthy, go on with your bad self. Your weight is between you and your doctor.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
I gained almost 40 pounds. I was hungry all the time. I would wake up hungry in the middle of the night. My Dr. gave me a hard time about it. I felt guilty a lot of times and cried about it. But I pretty much ate healthy and was active. My LO just needed it. She was born at a healthy weight and I am only 5-7 pounds above what I was before. I don't think you can judge that as a whole
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
I gained in your "unacceptable" range for my pregnancy.
I did CrossFit 3-5 times a week until 34 weeks. I walked a 5K the day before my induction at 41w1d (and basically every day from 40w on). I didn't eat for two. I had a 9 pound, 5 ounce healthy baby. My GD numbers and blood pressure were fantastic until the end. My body just fucking loves to gain weight and hang on to it at the slightest provocation.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
Here is a real asshole thought. I have two friends on FB that take and post pictures of their kids and their houses are disgusting. I am talking trash and shit everywhere. It's fucking gross. Pick that shit up.
If you're the a$$ here I am too. I have a friend who posts pics of her kids buried in piles of just sh*t everywhere. Clean up a bit already. I cringe every time I see pics of her kids on the floor because there's always crumbs everywhere and you can see the dog hair on the carpet.
Clutter doesn't bother me. Kid stuff everywhere doesn't bother me. Dishes in the sink whatever. That's life. But sometimes people really need to at the very least find 2 minutes to whip around the vacuum and Clorox Wipe off the bathtub ledge.
I am tired of the parental judgment in general. All of it. And the self-righteousness.
I love this board, but I could have done without even knowing the 4MW was a thing. I'd never heard of it, and now I'm scared.
I think breastfeeding is way, way over encouraged. It's so natural to want to do it anyway, I certainly didn't need a huge campaign and a bunch of people telling me I needed to see an army of lactation consultants. t am so thankful my husband was like, "You do you," about it. If he had been all gung ho about it, I would have been so, so sad. From the reading I've done, it can pass along some antibodies (like taking a community college class on immunity), and it can help with some stomach issues. Beyond that, it's not a miracle and formula is not poison. Science has made formula pretty great! And I'm happy my baby gets half breast milk and half formula. And I'm even happier she gets it from a bottle, because I can feed her so quickly, and it's awesome. I really wanted breastfeeding to work, but not at the expense of all of our happiness.
That said, I hope it works out for the second child because it's free! But people should do what works for them, and no one should ever say a goddamn thing about it!
Don't worry, I didn't know about it the first time, so I lived in fear of it the second time around. Turns out he's just a shit sleeper anyways, so month 4 wasn't any worse than 1-5 so far.
I have learned over the last two + years that every kid is way different, but I'm thankful that BFing worked out for me because my kids go down so easy after nursing, and they're little shits after a bottle. Avent must be putting meth in the plastic or something, but it has just never been an easy thing for us to give a bottle MOTN instead of nursing. So, I'm happy for everyone that can use bottles MOTN
Crap I don't really have an UO. I think I'm even more "breezy parent" style than most on here, particularly re daycare and baby gear.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
I gained 40 pounds with my second pregnancy, and I certainly did not eat for two. I was super active chasing after my two year old, worked on my feet as a teacher until 10 oclock (pm) three nights a week and exercised. HOW DID I LET THIS HAPPEN? P.S.- I am within 3 pounds of my pre-pregnancy weight. Should someone take me outside and beat me?
I think co-sleeping is dangerous and usually done out of laziness/selfishness.
I was super paranoid to bedshare with my first, but I SAH and it was only her, so I slept in with her every morning, so it was okay that I sat up and watched TV with her nursing for hours every night.
With my second I needed to be up for my daughter, so I bed shared, and it was lovely. He was born in the spring, so I was able to limit the blankets. I actually slept more in the first month after he was born, than I did while I was pregnant.
My UO is that I hate how many unnecessary c-sections happen. A friend of mine just had one because she was in labor for 14 hours and "only" progressed to 6cms. I read recently that something like 30% of births are c-sections when the WHO says that, if only necessary c-sections were performed, it should be more like 15% of births. In one county in Ireland it's 40%. It's insane!
Maude, what's even scarier in Ireland is that the lowest rate in a maternity hospital in Ireland was 19%, still higher than he WHO figure. And hospital I attended had 27% of deliveries as episiotomies in 2011 - of which I was one.
My UO is I think modern parenting is more of a contest to see who can be the biggest martyr. Examples: I won't let my kid watch t.v. even if I am bent over a toilet with the stomach flu. I won't let my kid have formula even if I am languishing in depression from pumping all day. I won't let my kid cry for 10 minutes even if my marriage/sanity is suffering due to lack of sleep. It is all said under the guise of "Look how much I love my kid... Obviously, more than you." Really, I think it means, you're f'in nuts.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
Oh my. I haven't posted in ages but I couldn't not respond to this! I gained a little over 40 lbs and ate healthy and worked out my entire pregnancy. My doctor told me that 40 lbs was completely reasonable based upon my pre - pregnancy weight. Oh yeah and those 40 lbs are now gone. So yeah I find your statement ridiculous.
I may have just lol'ed at the parent of a 2.5 month old bragging on a good sleeper. That's as rich as parents of 10 month olds bragging on good eaters.
I judge myself so hard for bragging about what a good eater DD was at 10 months. I was so smug about it with comments like "you just have to let them try everything." Now she eats almost nothing.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
I gained 50+ lbs with both pregnancies. I hate that it happened, but being stuck on complete bedrest for 4 months of your life where you can't leave the house, can't get out of bed 24/7, and aren't even allowed to sit up to talk or eat, means that all you really have left to enjoy is "eating for two [or three]."
I'm really fucking annoyed that people use this thread/place to be assholes to women who may have struggled with their weight and body image while pregnant and afterwards. Women already spend way too much time obsessed with their looks and body and it is to our collective detriment. Think of what we could do with all the time spent on hating our bodies and looking good enough for other people. So to play that shit up is a straight up asshole move. Way to set us back and be a great example to your kids.
Seriously, you KNOW people on here have struggled with this, what makes you think it's cool?
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
So umm please tell me what more I should have done. I did not eat for two during my pregnancy. I did not once eat fast food and did not once eat junk food. I craved vegetables so I ate a ton. I worked out every day for 1hr plus. That was 45 minutes of cardio and 15-20 minutes of weight lifting. I went to yoga once a week. I walked/took the bus to work. I was extremely active. I gained over 40lbs.
I am not exactly sure how I could have gained less, so please enlighten me.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
Holy shit, did someone hack into your account and post this?
1. You know recommended weight gain is 25-35 lbs right?
2. Fuck you.
Signed, gained 76lbs bc of polyhydramnios with DS1 and gained 40-50lbs with DS's 2 and 3 because I'm a lazy fatty apparently.
ETA: my point about the recommended weight gain was because you are basically saying gaining a mere 5lbs more than the recommended indicates someone is a lazy fat ass.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
Fat shaming is the lowest form of bullying. I spent years sticking a finger down my throat. Actually, a toothbrush and a fork, too. I spent years feeling like shit because of assholes who made me feel like I had to conform to a certain standard. I am DONE with this nonsense. Man, there is not much I hate more than grown ass women who like to shame their peers. Grow up.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
Yeah I'm going to hop on the train here and say I gained 45 lbs when pg and it was nothing but belly. I was moderately active to the end and ate normally. I was wearing my old pre-pg jeans a week pp and back to my normal 125 by 3 weeks pp.
While I am obviously supportive of working parents and have no issues with day care, I do think it's possible to reach a point where you just aren't spending enough time with your kids. One of my friends and her H both work 80+ hours a week. They have a night time nanny who picks their kids up from preschool and daycare, makes them dinner, and puts them to bed. They never see the kids during the week, and usually work one day a weekend. My friend is all "we get quality time with them on Sundays, and quality time is what counts." I am just not convinced one day a week is enough time for kids to see their parents. For a while during a busy period, sure. But always? At some point quantity has to matter a little, too.
Can you explain these? I'm still learning about all of these things.
ETA: I'm going to guess the breastfeeding part is for the "breast is best" stuff. Just wasn't sure about the back to sleep stuff. Like people against CIO?
I think she is referring to putting your baby to sleep on their back. J ended up having a flat head then helmet, largely because of this campaign, and our pedi said since it started 10-15 years ago, the number of babies with flat heads has gone up dramatically. I believe it is now around 14%. That said, the percentage of SIDS has also gone down significantly since the campaign started, so there seems to be something to it. Even though we have done the helmet, I will still put baby #2 on the back to sleep
See and this is why I can't get behind anyone bashing the 'back to sleep' campaign. I would gladly take a flat head and helmet over my child dying of SIDS any day!
Here is a real asshole thought. I have two friends on FB that take and post pictures of their kids and their houses are disgusting. I am talking trash and shit everywhere. It's fucking gross. Pick that shit up.
If you're the a$$ here I am too. I have a friend who posts pics of her kids buried in piles of just sh*t everywhere. Clean up a bit already. I cringe every time I see pics of her kids on the floor because there's always crumbs everywhere and you can see the dog hair on the carpet.
Clutter doesn't bother me. Kid stuff everywhere doesn't bother me. Dishes in the sink whatever. That's life. But sometimes people really need to at the very least find 2 minutes to whip around the vacuum and Clorox Wipe off the bathtub ledge.
Oh I totally judge all of that stuff. Clutter, etc. I look in picture backgrounds first thing. I'm also totally guilty myself of having crap in pictures
Well you all make me feel better. I *only* gained 25 lbs with zero exercise and lots of donuts. I have always been a feelings-eater and my pregnancy was quite stressful on my marriage for a long time so a lot of feelings were eaten. At the end I was told to go on bedrest for the last 7 weeks but my body literally said F that and delivered the baby 2 days later.
Now 11 weeks later, I have only lost 10 or 11 lbs so blah. I also gave this breastfeeding thing a try because I heard you lose weight from it, but clearly that isn't happening. If I don't eat constantly, my supply is affected. I don't understand how BFing is cheap or free. I shop at Whole Foods and Trader Joes way too much these days trying to eat organic and not eat too many chemicals and preservatives for the baby's sake. I've also spent a bunch of money on pumping supplies and pumping stuff even though the actual pump was free from insurance.
LOL, that's part of the fun of it. I had SO MANY opinions before I had kids . I mean, I still do but they've changed quite a bit. Post away!
Ok fine. I am not looking to fight with anyone (because I frankly don't care if people disagree with me) and I KNOW THAT I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT'S LIKE TO HAVE A CHILD.
-I think it's really weird that parents "these days" stay at birthday parties & playdates
I agree that most if the things you listed are not that unpopular, but I do question this one.
What age does this start to apply? DD is going to a birthday party tonight. The girl is turning three and DD is not quite 2.5 yet. I am certainly not just going to drop her off.
Maybe part if the issue is there are more parties for the two/three/four year old set and staying just becomes a habit.