I plan on paying for my children's college education as much as I humanly can. And I don't plan on letting them get a job while they are in HS or during the school year in college. Summers in college are fine, especially if it's at a job that will help them in their career, but their job during the school year will be to learn and get good grades. And I plan on them being in some type of extracurricular activity in HS, so that's not very conducive to having a job.
This is how I was raised and I'm sooooo thankful to my mom for allowing me to graduate without a huge burden of student loans. If they don't need to work, I feel like it just becomes a distraction and an extra burden of stress.
Actually, it's not. It's only like that now cause of the campaign, but most people will do what their doctors tell them to, and my mom's doctor told her to give formula, as if it was the only option, so she never knew.
That's fair. I'll amend to say it was natural for me to want to do it. I really thought I wanted to do it to save money, but then I had all these feels about "feeding my child." It was weird. It really reminded me that I am a primate.
I think I'm broken because the only feels I have about feeding my child is dreading the MOTN feedings and wishing I could just give H that job.
I think overthinking middle names is weird. I also don't like when people call their kids by their First Name Middle Name all the time. I see this a lot IRL. There is nothing wrong with these kids' first names so I don't know why the first name isn't enough.
Sincerely, Person with no middle name
lol you wouldn't like this. We actually call my son by his middle name! Kinda like my husband who has always gone by his middle name. His first name is English (a Bible name), his middle name is Yoruba.
Seriously, NO ONE who has ever met me in the entire universe would apply the adjective "breezy" to me or my style. I guess it's all relative?
Same for me, but I fall into the same "breezy" parenting category. We need a new term.
Or not because over-analyzing and labeling every.single.thing about parenting annoys me.
Yep, I am here too. As type-A as they come, but really fairly breezy re: raising my kid. I figure I have at least 18 years ahead of me. One or two fuck ups now won't hurt!
I may have just lol'ed at the parent of a 2.5 month old bragging on a good sleeper. That's as rich as parents of 10 month olds bragging on good eaters.
I will respectfully disagree with the first UO from leonard131. .mainly because all the small bumps in the road have added up overtime and with 3 kids, working full time, general lack of support, my anxiety depression have gotten worse over the last two years and I've tried bucking it up and putting my big girl panties on, but realized I can't do it alone and need some help so I started seeing a therapist. My 3rd apt is in in 40 minutes.
The difference is you are doing something about it. You are putting your big girl pants on in my book. I hope you are getting the help you need.
Oh, I think it was spunbutterfly who mentioned how all the philosophies on parenting are ridiculous. I agree. My dental hygienist, of all people, just said how she did such a bad job of rocking her baby to sleep, so he never learned how to put himself to bed. Then at 2 or 3, he still screamed and had to be rocked to sleep in her arms.
I mentioned that C goes down drowsy, and has since day 1 (I didn't say it like an asshole, it made sense with the flow of conversation). She was like, "What books did you read? That's amazing!!"
I read no books, it just made sense to me. She's giving us sleepy cues, time to put her into her bed, even if she's still literally awake. She goes to sleep on her own, usually pretty quickly. I also realize it's my child's temperament to be okay with that. So it's a combination of just common sense and an easygoing baby.
My philosophy is to read no books until I have a legitimate problem/question. And then I'll probably just google for an answer.
But the whole put down drowsy but awake thing doesnt work for a lot of babies. Maybe, that was the case for your dental hygienist.
Post by oregonpachey on Feb 21, 2014 14:30:10 GMT -5
Here is a real asshole thought. I have two friends on FB that take and post pictures of their kids and their houses are disgusting. I am talking trash and shit everywhere. It's fucking gross. Pick that shit up.
I may have just lol'ed at the parent of a 2.5 month old bragging on a good sleeper. That's as rich as parents of 10 month olds bragging on good eaters.
And parents of napping, sibling-less toddlers who don't watch TV.
I may have just lol'ed at the parent of a 2.5 month old bragging on a good sleeper. That's as rich as parents of 10 month olds bragging on good eaters.
LOL. I know that's me.
But i do grow so weary of having to disclaim everything. I had hoped I wouldn't have to here.
"She's sleeping great! OH, I know she may go through phases where she doesn't." So pretend I said it. She's sleeping great now. We are not sleep deprived right now.
But i do grow so weary of having to disclaim everything. I had hoped I wouldn't have to here.
"She's sleeping great! OH, I know she may go through phases where she doesn't." So pretend I said it. She's sleeping great now. We are not sleep deprived right now.
Ditto, but you do have to here. Always.
No way. Not in the UO thread. BE UNPOPULAR AND FAIL TO DISCLAIM.
Also: enjoy every damn night. The fact that parenting might get hard later is no reason to not bask in the good stuff.
I think overthinking middle names is weird. I also don't like when people call their kids by their First Name Middle Name all the time. I see this a lot IRL. There is nothing wrong with these kids' first names so I don't know why the first name isn't enough.
Sincerely, Person with no middle name
I only wanted strong middle names for my kids so that when I yell at them with both of their names, they know I mean business.
I want DD to be kept safe in the car, no doubt about it. We understand and obey safety recommendations and laws. But I think it's weird how many people on the internet seem really obsessed about anything car safety-related. Maybe this is all lost on me because I don't even drive? Yes, child safety is very important. But I don't see the same kind of passion (and judging!) on the interwebs for things like childproofing the home/daycare facilities even though kids spend a lot more time at home/daycare than in cars. So what is it about car safety that seems sooooo...I don't even know what word I'm looking for.
It's a hell of a lot easier to die in a head on collision going 65mph than it is falling down a flight of stairs? I think part of it is also that people post a lot more pics on the internet of kids in carseats, so you see the flaws in installation more than you see a pic of someone's house without a baby gate at the stairwell.
Home births skeeve me out the same way I don't like food on my plate to touch. I need things to be separated. Labor and delivery=hospital, sleep and sex=bed, I really can't deal with mixing things.
Omg, this is so me. I'm all crunchy, med-free-birthing-is-awesome, but you could not PAY me money to give birth at home. I was so paranoid about having a birth experience like @tokenhoser's unexpected homebirth that as soon as my water broke with DD, we hightailed it to the hospital.
This is not probably unpopular probably belongs in the lame confessions post, but I want to make my DD's birth story into a stand up comedy bit. I have a friend of a friend that does women's night out fundraisers with amateur comediennes and it would be so PERFECT.
So yeah, while my last birth was a roller coaster, I love having that story as part of my life. Never would have planned it that way, but it's kind of awesome to pull out when ever I want to horrify/entertain.
This is not probably unpopular probably belongs in the lame confessions post, but I want to make my DD's birth story into a stand up comedy bit. I have a friend of a friend that does women's night out fundraisers with amateur comediennes and it would be so PERFECT.
So yeah, while my last birth was a roller coaster, I love having that story as part of my life. Never would have planned it that way, but it's kind of awesome to pull out when ever I want to horrify/entertain.
DO IT. And make sure it is videotaped so I can watch it! My story with DD is not entertaining like yours, but I also love having my DD's "weird" birth story as part of my life.
Post by juliette21 on Feb 21, 2014 15:22:17 GMT -5
The MM/MMM trend of judging others' financial situations when/if they have kids and making an assumption about how many they're "allowed" to have based on said finances makes me very uncomfortable. Also, the poor parent shaming, like how dare they try to have a(nother) child when they don't have money. Yuck.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.
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I gained between 30-35 and I definitely didn't act like I was eating for two. I'm actually proud that I only gained that much.
The MM/MMM trend of judging others' financial situations when/if they have kids and making an assumption about how many they're "allowed" to have based on said finances makes me very uncomfortable. Also, the poor parent shaming, like how dare they try to have a(nother) child when they don't have money. Yuck.
I hear what you're saying and IRL your opinion is probably a lot less unpopular. I mean this in the non snarkiest way possible- if people who don't have the money to raise children intentionally have them then who should pay for their basic needs? I'm coming from a place where a family member had 6 kids while working an entry level, low wage job. They had to rely A LOT on others.