I'm gonna leave this here

[YahYahs]

((Hugs)) You deserve to be treated better and to be loved respectfully.

[jeaniebueller]

Please call the hotline and set up a safety plan before you do anything. Hugs to you. I am so sorry.

[Lucy Honeychurch]

So many hugs to you. Please take care of yourself. You deserve so much more than this. And we're all here for you. ❤️❤️

[miniroller]

Superduper- I think you absolutely took a pretty huge first step in posting this. I encourage you to use this momentum & talk to your best friend. Maybe you guys can meet for coffee or you can go over to her place? Like pp mentioned, I really don't think she'll be shocked. I'm sending so many vibes of strength your way, dear girl. Nonetheless, you're stronger than you think. So many hugs.

[knx9211]

Also from what I'm reading, I'm not local but I'm only a few hours away. If you need to get a little further away, I would be here to help you. <3

[raangoli]

Please take care of yourself. Hugs. You deserve a better life and its waiting for you. You've taken the hardest step, the first one.

[scottyderp]

Superduper, let us know you're okay, okay?

[dirtyred]

Jan 29, 2016 21:31:13 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

I want to give you 100 hugs.

I stayed married for way too long for similar reasons with similar circumstances. Starting over sucks, but I promise it's worth it. You are worth it.

I was in a relationship like this in my early 20's.  You love how it was the first couple of years and are hoping things will go back to the way they were (I know I certainly was).  Unfortunately, that's not going to happen.

It's so hard to leave--it was terrifying, and I kept hoping and hoping he'd get better, but when I thought about stabbing him and rationalized that spending the rest of my life in prison was better than the way I was living I knew I had to do something.

If you can, call the Domestic Violence hotline for help and tips.  1-800-799-safe.  

[lovelyshoes]

I only read the op. my heart is breaking for you.

Please know that you're worth it. You deserve happiness and respect. Please don't think that you have to live with him to prove that you aren't a failure or the marriage isn't a failure. I've done nothing wrong. You need to remember that your kids love you and need you. No one can substitute a mom! You are loved and so needed.

You have to tell your siblings, parents, bff, someone close to you even if they haven't seen him act that way. Even if they think he is great. Tell them, get out even if you financially can't swing it on your own. Your safety and sanity are worth it. You'll make it. Maybe you can stay with a friend. Start formulating an out plan. But tell someone today!
He is getting more and more aggressive and I'm scared for you.

Hugs. We're here for you. You reached out to this community, that's step one. You're looking for help. Please tell someone in real life. Please do it.

[suzubell]

Hugs, superduper. You are strong and you will get through this. We'll help you any way we can. Reach out to your BFF. You deserve so much better.

[karenj]

Omg I am so sorry. My H is a dick to but mostly he just won't keep a job. He is not abusive.

This is abusive. I worry that it will escalate. Again, I am so sorry.

[nikki25]

I am so incredibly sorry. So many hugs.

[nikki25]

Jan 29, 2016 21:40:50 GMT -5 Eagles said:

Oh, hon. You deserve better. You matter.

I'm not far from you. Do you want to meet for lunch one Sunday, just to get out and talk?

The same goes for me. Anytime you need anothing please ask.

[melmel48]

Hugs. Please don't stay. You and your kids need to get out. Please reach out to any of us and we can help you.

[cabbagecabbage]

I woke up thinking about you. The fact that you shared means that I think you're getting ready. You're strengthening yourself for the hard parts to come. You probably won't pack up and leave today (but prove me wrong if you are ready!) but that doesn't mean you aren't working on this. Abuse and misery hide in the shadows and being open with people you can trust helps to break the cycle. You are brave for starting and you will stay brave and find people to help. Please check in when you can.

[Deleted]

Please get out now. You and your children deserve better. I am so disgusted by his actions.

[bc1206]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm in the Philly area too and if there is anything you need, please let me know.

Take care of yourself and your kids.

[papie]

You can do this super. Reach out for help, to your BFF, to a domestic abuse center, to your parents...anyone you trust. You are worth it. You deserve happiness. (((hugs)))

[noodle]

I'm so sorry. Please know that you have a huge amount of support here, and I hope you will also consider talking to someone IRL - a friend, family, one of the many resources PPs have shared. You deserve to feel safe and loved.

[ladyk]

I didn't read the other responses but I want to stand witness for you. I went through something similar with my XH. I was deep, deep into the abuse and its cycle until I started taking baby steps away. Then, like a light switch, I was done. It was the hardest and scariest thing I've ever done. I made that decision in December of 2012. Looking back, I still can't believe that was my life. I've blocked a lot out but I am in such a better place now.

You do not deserve this AT ALL. You are worth so much more. Your kids are worth more. I know you don't want to have another "failed" marriage. No one who knows you and loves you will give a rats *ss that it "failed". They will love you and support you and lift you up. And if they don't? You don't need them either.

[Deleted]

This is one case where I'm glad memories here are long. You need people who know and will remind you that you're stronger than you think and worth way more than he treats you.

all these pages? Are people who see the real you, care and know your value in life

[bab]

I am so sorry you are going through this
(((Hugs)))