He's beyond pissed about the lice situation and is blaming me. We spent a shit ton of money last night on removal and daycare found more on her. He lost his shit on me on how could I not have known and I need to wake the fuck up and start taking better care of the kids and our house, etc etc. It just went on and on.
Well, since he's such a good parent, it's clear that he better take care of it.
Post by chickadee77 on Aug 31, 2016 9:44:49 GMT -5
Whoa. WTF. And, yeah, like someone else said, you can't un-ring that bell - I'd be pissed and hurt for a good long while (if not forever) about that. (((hugs)))
((puddleofgrace )) I'm sorry, you're a wonderful mom. I'm not trying to make light of the situation, but papie is also a great mom and her kids have lice like 4 times/year!
And this actually makes me fucking mad. If he (I presume its him) is so fucking concerned and actually thinks the state should be involved, how about he do something about it then?
He's beyond pissed about the lice situation and is blaming me. We spent a shit ton of money last night on removal and daycare found more on her. He lost his shit on me on how could I not have known and I need to wake the fuck up and start taking better care of the kids and our house, etc etc. It just went on and on.
I am sure you are beyond pissed as well! Has he even bothered to help you with any of this? Has he combed the kids hair? Maybe he needs to wake the fuck up and be a father and a husband that supports not belittles.
I would certainly throw my hands up, pass him the lice combs and say see ya later since you are father of the year and know it all DO THE FUCKIN JOB YOURSELF. I then would be gone to the closest wine store and buy the biggest bottle of wine Icould and drink it right in front of him all the while he is combing kids hair, vacuuming, cooking dinner and so on.
I have a shovel, and a two wheeler where we can wheel the body easier.
He's beyond pissed about the lice situation and is blaming me. We spent a shit ton of money last night on removal and daycare found more on her. He lost his shit on me on how could I not have known and I need to wake the fuck up and start taking better care of the kids and our house, etc etc. It just went on and on.
Well, since he's such a good parent, it's clear that he better take care of it.
For fucking real. He's so perfect, guess it's up to him now. Have at it, fucker.
JFC, and what is he doing to help? What has he done any time in the last six months - AT LEAST - to make your life and your household run more smoothly? What a fucking asshole.
He's beyond pissed about the lice situation and is blaming me. We spent a shit ton of money last night on removal and daycare found more on her. He lost his shit on me on how could I not have known and I need to wake the fuck up and start taking better care of the kids and our house, etc etc. It just went on and on.
Huh? Lice can't be prevented unless you plan on living in a bubble. It has nothing to do with the state of your house. Lice spreads like wild fire with little kids. We had TWO rounds of lice in our camp this year. It really wasn't anyone's fault.
FWIW it is entirely possible that your child was lice free this AM and got new lice at daycare. I sent my kid in lice free and had to pick her up because she got it at camp or on the bus that morning. Those fuckers are insane. My kid had 4 lice after maybe 2 hours at camp.
If you did miss some well then so what? Have him comb hair out for hours.
Post by deanlicker78 on Aug 31, 2016 9:49:39 GMT -5
I can be there Friday and I can make it look like an accident.
You are an wonderful mom and anyone with half a brain can see how dedicated you are to your girls. He said that because he knew it would hurt. He doesn't fight fair. Plus he's an asshole. And a douchebag. You are amazing and awesome. You should be treated as such. I would really like to go all Sam and Dean on his ass.
He's beyond pissed about the lice situation and is blaming me. We spent a shit ton of money last night on removal and daycare found more on her. He lost his shit on me on how could I not have known and I need to wake the fuck up and start taking better care of the kids and our house, etc etc. It just went on and on.
Well, since he's such a good parent, it's clear that he better take care of it.
Really, seriously. Like how is it ALL on you? He is somehow magically absolved from all responsibility here? Give me a fucking break.
And just so its clear, I do NOT believe anyone who has lice in their house is either a bad parent and/or bad housekeeper. I'm just following through on his shitty fucking backwards nonsensical logic.
How the fuck are lice your fault? They are LICE. They suck. People get them all the time. Doesn't the lice fairy offer satisfaction guaranteed service? Tell him to take the day off work, get the kids, bring them back there and THEN take all of the bedding and soft goods and treat them. Tell him that since you are such a crap Mom he can handle it. Then go get a pedicure. For realz.
JFC, it's lice. It happens and it's not your fault. And where the fuck was he in all of this? Is he not a parent too? Maybe he should have stopped the lice. I'm so pissed for you.
BTW, lice prefer to be in clean hair, so it has nothing to do with hygiene. Drops of lavender oil behind the ears and on the pillow sometimes help. It sometimes takes weeks to get rid of them.
There's so much wrong with that story. Calling some a shitty parent is one of those things that should be off limits.
You can't un-ring that bell.
At the very least he needs to learn how to fight fair, not that the situation should have been a fight in the first place.
This. So much this.
My XH and I have made our peace now, but when my older son was 5 we suspected he had autism. XH denies he ever said it, but he told me that the only thing that was wrong with my son was the fact that his mother was an immature, emotional basket case, and he was confused about whether or not he had a mom or a bratty teenage sister." Navigating that situation with my son was one of the hardest things I've ever been through, and this remains the worst thing anyone has ever said to me. 5 years later, it still makes my chest tighten up when I think about it. I deserved better, but I was a SAHM with a kid who had special needs and a toddler, and I didn't think I could make it on my own. I have. You can. I am not someone who usually says DTMFA, and you don't know me, but I feel like you deserve better.