Randoms - Week of Oct 10

[persa]

I'll come back and read through posts more later but I just needed to tell y'all I thought of you guys this morning when I told DD she needed to "fix her face" when she was talking to me. It's not a phrase I grew up with but I remember a recent thread talking about it and damn, it's effective as hell!

[thejackpot]

Oct 11, 2016 12:32:42 GMT -5 persa said:

I'll come back and read through posts more later but I just needed to tell y'all I thought of you guys this morning when I told DD she needed to "fix her face" when she was talking to me. It's not a phrase I grew up with but I remember a recent thread talking about it and damn, it's effective as hell!

I say that to dd and its funny because post fit she will say I fixed my face can I get up now.

[persa]

Oct 11, 2016 12:52:12 GMT -5 thejackpot said:

Oct 11, 2016 12:32:42 GMT -5 persa said:

I'll come back and read through posts more later but I just needed to tell y'all I thought of you guys this morning when I told DD she needed to "fix her face" when she was talking to me. It's not a phrase I grew up with but I remember a recent thread talking about it and damn, it's effective as hell!

I say that to dd and its funny because post fit she will say I fixed my face can I get up now.

Lol. This morning I added "and fix your voice too!"

[skwcm80]

Everything from the waist down hurts.

[sfy]

Oct 11, 2016 13:03:30 GMT -5 skwcm80 said:

Everything from the waist down hurts.

You want marathons, well marathons cost.  And right here is where you start paying!



I'm sorry!  I hope you feel better soon.  I just don't get to use that very often.  #pressed
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[skwcm80]

Oct 11, 2016 13:20:28 GMT -5 sfy said:

Oct 11, 2016 13:03:30 GMT -5 skwcm80 said:

Everything from the waist down hurts.

You want marathons, well marathons cost.  And right here is where you start paying!



I'm sorry!  I hope you feel better soon.  I just don't get to use that very often.  #pressed
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Lol!! Well played. I always forget how painful the first few days following race day can be.

[bimbi284]

Oct 11, 2016 13:42:26 GMT -5 @natariru said:

Oct 11, 2016 12:32:42 GMT -5 persa said:

I'll come back and read through posts more later but I just needed to tell y'all I thought of you guys this morning when I told DD she needed to "fix her face" when she was talking to me. It's not a phrase I grew up with but I remember a recent thread talking about it and damn, it's effective as hell!

My mom still tells me to fix my face and I'm almost 33 years old. It still works 

Me too, girl. Me too.

[05heel]

Oct 11, 2016 19:48:18 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

I got my hair did for free today, because I was asked to hair model!
I posted the photos on MM:
pandce.proboards.com/thread/554886/tuesday-randoms?page=1&scrollTo=12140743

it looks great!

[sfy]

My President is on ESPN alive from A&T, for anyone not tuned in who's interested.

[threejs]

Oct 11, 2016 19:48:18 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

I got my hair did for free today, because I was asked to hair model!
I posted the photos on MM:
pandce.proboards.com/thread/554886/tuesday-randoms?page=1&scrollTo=12140743

Girl, you look fabulous!!  And, I love your boots!  

[threejs]

sfy, I love your style!! I've been trying to translate a monochromatic look into something that will work on short and plus sized, but the struggle is real.

skwcm80, Congrats on the marathon! You rock!

andwhat, I might need to get that stylist recommendation from you. I love your hair! And now I'm mad I didn't get Adele tix. I sing at the top of my lungs in the car to like 3 or 4 of her songs, but wasn't sure I'd enjoy a whole concert.

dr.girlfriend, the amount of money I spend on alterations thanks to being short with gigantic boobs is embarrassing. I keep saying I'm going to try having something custom made, but that's even more expensive. Sigh...

[iammalcolmx]

I am having dinner with @natariru, and sweetday on Friday night. BE JEALOUS!!

[andwhat]

thanks threejs. I got the rec from thejackpot and I could not be happier. I will PM you. I have felt like so many who do natural hair know how to style it, but not take care of it. We spent a good 10 minutes talking about my hair and what happened to it after having a kid. I am hopeful that I can get my hair to return to its pre-kid state.

[threejs]

andwhat -- Oops, I responded to the other before seeing this. This is really good to know! I have some super thin areas right in the top/front, that weren't too noticeable until after I gave birth and finished bf'ing. So, starting from like 8 yrs ago, it's just been bad. I've tried everything to make the hair grown back in those spots, and nothing has worked.

[thejackpot]

andwhat I am glad it went well. I was nervous. I know I like her but I hoped you would like her too. Yay!!!

[thejackpot]

Oct 11, 2016 19:48:18 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

I got my hair did for free today, because I was asked to hair model!
I posted the photos on MM:
pandce.proboards.com/thread/554886/tuesday-randoms?page=1&scrollTo=12140743

It looks great! You are so cute beaming with the stylist.

[kicks]

My friend just posted about a conversation he had with his 2nd grade son:

Son  - Dad, did you know we're going to be kicked out if Trump wins?
Dad - Kicked out of what?
Son - America because he only wants full Americans
Dad - Full Americans??
Son - Yeah, like full white
Dad - who told you that?
Son - everyone is talking about it at school 

 

They live in NYC (so it's not like they live in the openly racist south) and the son is half Japanese and half Indian, born and raised here. So fucked up. 
 

[busybodyk]

kicks - that's so sad...

[andwhat]

That is so awful kicks. I cannot believe this is happening. I feel awful that kids, freaking kids, are scared that they are going to be deported because they are not white. And then Trump supporters think it is the crooked media making people feel this way and Trump is for all people. They do not see that it is his own freaking words. Ugh. So heartbreaking and frustrating.

[sfy]

I think I have been getting signs that I need to do more service. First, last week, when my friend asked me to review her application for president of her JL chapter and I was looking at her service, I realized I'm a straight up bum. Then, last night, we went to a panel about what we can do over and above voting and I saw a woman that I know. She is on the board of a non-profit and a few times, I attended board meetings as a substitute for another board member. I've seen her at different things since then, almost always as a volunteer. So last night, I was sitting in my chair, tapping at my phone , waiting on the panel to start, when someone passed me a pamphlet about an amendment that will be on the ballot, and it was her, doing more good! Then, after it was over, I went to look for my SIL and bumped into a woman I know from a professional organization I'm in--at one point I was really active in our community service activities (she was the chair of the community service group) and now, I've only done two this year. She wasn't shaming me at all, but I felt so embarrassed. I have so much time, no kids at home, I really have no excuse. I don't know why I'm so lazy, but I've got to do better.

[raangoli]

kicks that is so awful. That reminds me of an op ed that my friend posted linked to on FB:

www.nytimes.com/2016/10/10/nyregion/to-the-woman-who-told-my-family-to-go-back-to-china.html?_r=0

I feel so sick to my stomach that this is happening

[sfy]

Oct 13, 2016 7:15:18 GMT -5 raangoli said:

kicks that is so awful. That reminds me of an op ed that my friend posted on FB:

www.nytimes.com/2016/10/10/nyregion/to-the-woman-who-told-my-family-to-go-back-to-china.html?_r=0

I feel so sick to my stomach that this is happening

Wtf .

This reminds me of Fresh off the Boat this week when Louis asked his brother why he ever wanted to come to the US and he said, "We're the white people of here!" I can't even imagine the level of entitlement (and just being a total racist asshole, but the entitlement part is the part that's fairly interesting) it takes to tell someone to clear out or YOUR country. The entire hell?

[raangoli]

Oct 13, 2016 7:24:24 GMT -5 sfy said:

Oct 13, 2016 7:15:18 GMT -5 raangoli said:

kicks that is so awful. That reminds me of an op ed that my friend posted on FB:

www.nytimes.com/2016/10/10/nyregion/to-the-woman-who-told-my-family-to-go-back-to-china.html?_r=0

I feel so sick to my stomach that this is happening

Wtf .

This reminds me of Fresh off the Boat this week when Louis asked his brother why he ever wanted to come to the US and he said, "We're the white people of here!" I can't even imagine the level of entitlement (and just being a total racist asshole, but the entitlement part is the part that's fairly interesting) it takes to tell someone to clear out or YOUR country. The entire hell?

I love that show so much, thanks for reminding me to watch it.

Sadly, I can't tell you the number of times either I or my family have been told to go back to our country/where we came from. Now I just sneer back at the person and reply "You mean New Jersey?" Assholes. 

[sfy]

Oct 13, 2016 7:29:36 GMT -5 raangoli said:

Oct 13, 2016 7:24:24 GMT -5 sfy said:

Wtf .

This reminds me of Fresh off the Boat this week when Louis asked his brother why he ever wanted to come to the US and he said, "We're the white people of here!" I can't even imagine the level of entitlement (and just being a total racist asshole, but the entitlement part is the part that's fairly interesting) it takes to tell someone to clear out or YOUR country. The entire hell?

I love that show so much, thanks for reminding me to watch it.

Sadly, I can't tell you the number of times either I or my family have been told to go back to our country/where we came from. Now I just sneer back at the person and reply "You mean New Jersey?" Assholes. 

No way . I'm so very sorry. And so shocked that it has happened more than once? That is so hard for me to wrap my mind around and I generally think people are just horrible. But that is next level, to just be cruel to random strangers?

[raangoli]

Oct 13, 2016 7:35:26 GMT -5 sfy said:

Oct 13, 2016 7:29:36 GMT -5 raangoli said:

I love that show so much, thanks for reminding me to watch it.

Sadly, I can't tell you the number of times either I or my family have been told to go back to our country/where we came from. Now I just sneer back at the person and reply "You mean New Jersey?" Assholes. 

No way . I'm so very sorry. And so shocked that it has happened more than once? That is so hard for me to wrap my mind around and I generally think people are just horrible. But that is next level, to just be cruel to random strangers?

I think part of is it the area where my family settled / where I grew up. It was rural and we (and a handful of other Indian families) were the diversity. We were different and it was very apparent.

I think the thing that saddens me the most is that it happened recently. MH was there to witness it and it shocked him. He knew that it's happened before because I've shared my "growing up brown" experiences, but this he saw first hand. He still talks about it and how much it angered and saddened him, too. I think it really opened his eyes.

[sfy]

Oct 13, 2016 7:46:10 GMT -5 raangoli said:

Oct 13, 2016 7:35:26 GMT -5 sfy said:

No way . I'm so very sorry. And so shocked that it has happened more than once? That is so hard for me to wrap my mind around and I generally think people are just horrible. But that is next level, to just be cruel to random strangers?

I think part of is it the area where my family settled / where I grew up. It was rural and we (and a handful of other Indian families) were the diversity. We were different and it was very apparent.

I think the thing that saddens me the most is that it happened recently. MH was there to witness it and it shocked him. He knew that it's happened before because I've shared my "growing up brown" experiences, but this he saw first hand. He still talks about it and how much it angered and saddened him, too. I think it really opened his eyes.

That's insane . I'm so sorry. That is very eye-opening, because who the hell would think that would still be happening? But unfortunately, I do think that Trump is just riling these people back up. They're becoming bolder than probably ever before, which is so scary.

[thejackpot]

kicks it's awful but it's so hard to shield our kids from those conversations. We have a friend who is Nigerian and his son asked him a similar question. My son asks me things about Trump too. I am so sad that he hears these things. Just tough.
raangoli People suck. I am so sorry that you have gone through such vile personal attacks.

[andwhat]

Wow raangoli that article is just gross. I know I am really oblivious to a lot, but I swear I don't see so many examples of overt racism.

[kicks]

Oct 13, 2016 7:04:30 GMT -5 @natariru said:

kicks that's so terrible. I don't think I'd be able to keep my cool with that and I'd be matching my ass to the school to talk to the teacher.

On another note, Bruno Mars sings "why you mad, fix your face" in his new song, lol.

I don't think the kids were saying it to pick on him, I think they were just talking about it because many of them in the school have that fear. So I don't think it's the teachers fault. It's so sad this is a conversation that is happening among small kids Not that it's right that immigrants are scared of Trump, but for even American kids to pick up on his essentially white supremacy messaging and be scared is awful.

[raangoli]

Thank you sfy thejackpot andwhat. I really do try to let things roll off my back, but things like that stick with you.