But I'm literally itching for an outlet to talk about it, I can't talk to very many people in real life.
My little sister tried to commit suicide yesterday morning. She turned 13 last week. She slit her wrists and took pills. She is physically ok at this point, but she was baker acted and I can't see her until 6pm today. She was able to call me last night, so that was nice. She is in a pediatric psych place. She left a note, I can't ever read it again, it makes any of us fall to pieces. It appears that on top of depression there was some bullying at school. The police took the note for evidence against the girls at school.
I've been on alert about her for awhile, she started wearing all black last year, really into heavy music/punk stuff, but when my mom and I would talk about it we would agree that can be normal coming of age phase stuff. Sometimes she seemed just like her old self. My mom and her boyfriend took her to Harry Potter at universal this past weekend, it seemed she had such a great time. We both feel so guilty, like we should have not brushed it off.
I'm so sad she didn't feel like she could talk to me. She spends the night at my house regularly, even has her own bed.
My mother was crying to me last night that she will be holding her breath for the rest of her life.
She is thirteen. I can't wait to hug her tonight. There is a long road ahead of us.
I'm so sorry to hear that. It sounds like she has a great support system in you and your mom but sometimes at that age it can be so hard to recognize that, especially with what it sounds like she is dealing with at school. Hopefully the school will stop that aspect IMMEDIATELY and your sister can work on healing.
Oh. More importantly. What do we do now? We are talking about changing her school, since the bullies are at this one. They haven't given my mom any guidance. Do we tell the school? Call her doctor? We should call her pediatrician right?
I'm really sorry Laz. T&P to your sister and family. 13 is such a tough age, especially if there is a component of bullying. I hope she can get the help she needs.
I would ask her if she wants to change schools once the dust settles. If the school is good, they should take this seriously and do as much as possible to keep her away from the bullies. She may not want to change schools, so I wouldn't unilaterally make that decision yet. If she wants to transfer, I think the county will work with you guys.
Oh Laz I'm so sorry. Please don't blame yourself. You are a wonderful sister. I wouldn't make any decisions about school now. I'm sure the hospital will have a family meeting with you guys before your sister comes home. I would let things settle for a bit before making any big decisions
Post by fivechickens on Oct 25, 2016 6:50:51 GMT -5
I am so sorry. I am glad she is safe and getting help.
I agree with kaybee85 let her take the lead on what she wants and go from there. The school should take this seriously and take appropriate actions, if they don't then I would consider switching schools. And yes, call her Peditrician, although I am sure the hospital will let them know too.
I'm sorry, Laz. I would talk to her pedi and get her into intense counseling. Talk to the principal and find out what their course of action is. The school may have more resources/advice, especially if it's a bigger school with unfortunate experience in this area.
I did talk to an IRL friend who is a high school guidance counselor and unfortunately deals with this almost weekly and she suggested talking to the schools counselor too. The problem is they are in a very rural small county so that don't have as much to offer, but it's a good place to start.
I'm so very sorry for her and your family. My little brother (who is some years older than your sister) tried to commit suicide twice; the last time was two years ago.
The first time, my dad and his mother tried to hide it from everybody, but the second time, we were all informed and came together as a family. My brother spent two months in hospital and then 1 year in a special facility for children with depression. He is now an outpatient and takes medication. He has resumed his studies.
We all feel like your mother (re: walking on eggs to make sure he's not unhappy or sad).
It's really difficult and I wish you all the best. My brother is now happy, has a girlfriend and is much more open about his feelings.
I would find her a really good therapist. Someone she feels comfortable talking to. Not that I can say I was in her shoes exactly, but I can remember being taken to therapist as a kid and I did not like her. It was uncomfortable for as I was pretty protective of my feelings.
So, this would be a really important step and it might take a few tries to find the right fit.
I'm so sorry Laz. Coming from a family where my sister had so many issues starting at that age..maybe this is sadly what had to shock everyone. I wish my sister had the help 15yrs ago. If you want to talk about it, feel free to me. Honestly, from an older sister standpoint you feel like you should know, but sadly we don't know everything or how to fix it all.
Huge hugs and let your sister lead the way on school switching.
I work in both a pediatric office and a school (pediatric nurse). Yes, definitely call the pediatrician. We are always very involved when this happens (and it does, more often than one would think, sadly). Also call the school. I am sure they are going to want to be aware of what is going on, regardless of if she stays there or not.
Aw man, I'm so sorry for her. My heart goes out to her and to you and your mom. She's lucky to have your love and support as she gets the help she needs.