Post by caddywompus on Oct 25, 2016 10:13:37 GMT -5
I am so sorry. Hopefully she is in a good place, and can get some good advice and tools to use for recovery. She is fortunate to have your support, so please keep letting her know you are there for her. Don't blame yourself, she likely respects you too much to want to burden you with her problems. 13 is such a tough age- wanting to break free from authority, but not having the knowledge and wisdom to know how to navigate life. {{hugs}} Hang in there!
I am so very sorry. Growing up is hard enough, never mind with horrible people that bully and bring you down. I am so sorry that she experienced that on top of everything.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I have not read through the other posts, but it sounds like her pediatrician should be notified and then can refer to pediatric psychiatrist and or therapist. This is not anyone's fault. Hugs
Post by miniroller on Oct 25, 2016 10:57:43 GMT -5
Joining in the sympathetic hugs, Laz, but mostly wanted to encouragingly punch you on the arm as I'm proud (can't think of a better word?) of you for posting this way personal situation to receive the ideas, advice, & even the commiseration that pp's are providing. Many hugs, man; I promise this is temporary.
Post by amandakisser on Oct 25, 2016 11:02:42 GMT -5
I have zero advice to give, but I wanted to offer sympathy and support. I'm so sorry you are going through this, and I wish you good luck as you navigate the next few months.
I'm so sorry @lazerus24. I know it's hard, but try not to blame yourself - it's so difficult at that age to know what's really going on. Everyone else had good advice, the only thing I have to add is that it's probably going to be frustrating trying to coordinate so many different parties and you really need to push and be her advocate to ensure everyone is working together. That was the biggest problem my parents had when trying to get my brother help.
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The current psych facility where she's admitted should be referring her to outpt psychiatry and therapy before she's discharged. Make sure they do that. It should be easier for them to get her appointments within the next few weeks since she was in crisis than it would be for you to cold call people yourself.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
Agree completely. She should have appointments in place before she is discharged home. If the hospital has an outpatient clinic, they will often refer directly there. If not, they usually have some outpatient providers they work with regularly. It is recommended that someone have an appointment with a therapist or psychiatrist within 7 days of discharge from inpatient. Definitely start talking with the case worker now about how they handle discharge planning. They should also check to see if the outpatient providers are contracted with your sister's insurance plan, especially if she has an HMO or PPO. Unfortunately some people show up to an outpatient appointment only to realize the therapist or psychiatrist is not covered by their insurance so they have to either pay out of pocket or wait a long time for an appointment with another provider.
Also, it is not uncommon for new patient appointments with psychiatrists to be a month out, sometimes even longer for a child psychiatrist. If your sister is discharged on meds and the psychiatry appointment is a ways out, make sure she has enough meds to get her through to that appointment or that the pedi is willing to write a prescription until she can get to the psychiatry appointment.
Post by whisperingalene on Oct 25, 2016 16:11:30 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Laz. This brings back such bad memories - being a 13 year old girl can be so unbearable sometimes, especially when compounded with bullying. I was lucky in that my parents had already made the decision for academic reasons to send me to a different school after my 8th grade- it was an all girls school and was life changing for me in gaining back my confidence, making friends and focusing on academic rather than social issues. I hope if your sister is willing to move schools, she has an option that will suit her.
Post by Monica Geller on Oct 25, 2016 16:30:24 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you're all going through this. I'm so glad she's physically okay. I know that together you'll find a way to help her move forward. ((Hugs))