I found mystery panties in my laundry.

[NitaX]

2V - this is where I tell you it doesn't matter if you think it or not. The betrayal, hurt, and anger is still all the same even if you do know.

*Signed, Woman Who Has The T-Shirt, Keychain, and Coffee Mug

[Deleted]

Look, you know I'm a lady in waiting in the court of DTMFAland but shit, all this over a pair of cotton undies when you've had a fuckton of people up your shit lately?

Please. Team Nitaw all the way. Ask boy. And don't snoop unless you have something more concrete than a scrap of wandering cotton.

Does he have inappropriate relationships with women? Is he unusually close to someone else? Working a lot more lately? Acting kind of shady? Ain't calling you baby? Betta say my name?

No?

Then open up your big girl mouth and ask him a big girl question, mmmkay?

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Who are these crazy ass bitches running around without drawers? I have never once "forgotten" a pair of underwear. My GOD, people.

[Daria Morgandorffer]

His reaction is reassuring. Being calm and talking it out is not typical "shit she found me out" behavior. I ditto the leave it alone and file it away advice. I'm very glad that this seems to be nothing, OP!

[Deleted]

Sept 10, 2012 14:49:25 GMT -5 lyssbobiss, Command, B613 said:

Who are these crazy ass bitches running around without drawers? I have never once "forgotten" a pair of underwear. My GOD, people.

See, that;s the other thing that's tripping me. Skank undies, maybe since homegirl probably only put them on as a gift. But cotton aerie panties? Maybe it's just me but if you prefer cotton panties, you tend to keep that shit on.

[NitaX]

Sept 10, 2012 14:48:25 GMT -5 @habbsies said:

Does he have inappropriate relationships with women? Is he unusually close to someone else? Working a lot more lately? Acting kind of shady? Ain't calling you baby? Betta say my name?

DAYUM IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Destiny's Child is all up in my head now ...

Say My Name Say My Name ...

[incognitomosquito]

Sept 10, 2012 14:48:25 GMT -5 @habbsies said:

Look, you know I'm a lady in waiting in the court of DTMFAland but shit, all this over a pair of cotton undies when you've had a fuckton of people up your shit lately?

Please. Team Nitaw all the way. Ask boy. And don't snoop unless you have something more concrete than a scrap of wandering cotton.

Does he have inappropriate relationships with women? Is he unusually close to someone else? Working a lot more lately? Acting kind of shady? Ain't calling you baby? Betta say my name?

No?

Then open up your big girl mouth and ask him a big girl question, mmmkay?

LOL, I love this. He just called to see if I was ok, and we decided to put a sign on our front door that reads "keep your damn panties on." Problem solved.

[Daria Morgandorffer]

Sept 10, 2012 14:54:10 GMT -5 incognitomosquito said:

Sept 10, 2012 14:48:25 GMT -5 @habbsies said:

Look, you know I'm a lady in waiting in the court of DTMFAland but shit, all this over a pair of cotton undies when you've had a fuckton of people up your shit lately?

Please. Team Nitaw all the way. Ask boy. And don't snoop unless you have something more concrete than a scrap of wandering cotton.

Does he have inappropriate relationships with women? Is he unusually close to someone else? Working a lot more lately? Acting kind of shady? Ain't calling you baby? Betta say my name?

No?

Then open up your big girl mouth and ask him a big girl question, mmmkay?

LOL, I love this. He just called to see if I was ok, and we decided to put a sign on our front door that reads "keep your damn panties on." Problem solved.

LOL :Y:

[blackkitty]

Do you think someone could have "planted" them?

[Deleted]

And I just read the update. I'd just call it weird and let it go. If boy was cheating, I'd think he'd glom onto the first usual suspect and run with it. I don't think he knows where the hell the panties came from either.

My bet is on the trick from game night. Maybe she meant to stick them in boy's pocket. IDK. But again, I'm with Nitaw. Let it go, Save it for later if necessary.

[2vermont]

Sept 10, 2012 14:46:50 GMT -5 NitaX said:

2V - this is where I tell you it doesn't matter if you think it or not. The betrayal, hurt, and anger is still all the same even if you do know.

*Signed, Woman Who Has The T-Shirt, Keychain, and Coffee Mug

Oh I'm sure it hurts like hell either way. I just would rather not be taken by surprise.

[2vermont]

Sept 10, 2012 14:55:59 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

Do you think someone could have "planted" them?

Glad to see I wasn't the only one who thought this.

[Deleted]

One time I found my own underwear in the kitchen at work.

Weird shit happens, man. Go with your gut.

[pixy0stix]

I wonder if they got stuck in someone's pants (static) and worked their way out? I had that happen to me at school. They fell out on the floor and I was mortified.

[Daria Morgandorffer]

Sept 10, 2012 15:00:20 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

I wonder if they got stuck in someone's pants (static) and worked their way out? I had that happen to me at school. They fell out on the floor and I was mortified.

I once had a red thong hook itself around a belt loop on the back of a pair of work pants in the dryer. I had no idea until someone came up to me and was all "um....I think....."

Cue epic humiliation.

[vanillacourage]

I would let it go.

[NitaX]

Sept 10, 2012 14:57:18 GMT -5 2vermont said:

Sept 10, 2012 14:46:50 GMT -5 NitaX said:

2V - this is where I tell you it doesn't matter if you think it or not. The betrayal, hurt, and anger is still all the same even if you do know.

*Signed, Woman Who Has The T-Shirt, Keychain, and Coffee Mug

Oh I'm sure it hurts like hell either way. I just would rather not be taken by surprise.

Maybe, but even after the surprise wears off, you can see the signs and how you missed it. Like, in WorriedAE's post, she mentioned that her H had refused her advances, and she chalked it up to maybe he was working out and was tired. If his sex drive was always pretty high and he turned her down several times, that's when the radar goes up.

If my H started turning me down or didn't try to get the goods when I was walking around bucket nekkid (what movie was that Nugget/Sou/Habs/IAMX?), then that would be a signal that something was amiss.

People are creatures of habit. When the normal patterns change, you might be onto something. Think about it, burglars case houses and break in when they think you are gone. That means, they have been watching you, discovering patterns and wait for the prime opportunity.

[NitaX]

Sept 10, 2012 14:58:07 GMT -5 2vermont said:

Sept 10, 2012 14:55:59 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

Do you think someone could have "planted" them?

Glad to see I wasn't the only one who thought this.

If they were planted and the ruse didn't work, then the OP will get somebody showing up on her doorstep.

Old Folks Saying Alert: What's Done in the Dark Will Come to the Light.

You can worry yourself and wait on a million possibilities or to use a quote from Eve's Bayou - "Sometimes a solider falls on his own sword."

OP - Don't let these possibilities swirl in your head. Take him at his word and file all this for later.

[heightsyankee]

Sept 10, 2012 15:08:59 GMT -5 NitaX said:

OP - Don't let these possibilities swirl in your head. Take him at his word and file all this for later.

:Y:

[2vermont]

Sept 10, 2012 15:08:59 GMT -5 NitaX said:

Sept 10, 2012 14:58:07 GMT -5 2vermont said:

Glad to see I wasn't the only one who thought this.

If they were planted and the ruse didn't work, then the OP will get somebody showing up on her doorstep.

Old Folks Saying Alert: What's Done in the Dark Will Come to the Light.

You can worry yourself and wait on a million possibilities or to use a quote from Eve's Bayou - "Sometimes a solider falls on his own sword."

OP - Don't let these possibilities swirl in your head. Take him at his word and file all this for later.

I just want to be clear that I was not insinuating that something is going on (just that perhaps someone might like something to be going on). I also suggest going with her gut and letting this go. From the start I believed there was a reasonable explanation based on her posts. Later on, I thought of the above (which doesn't mean her husband did anything wrong).

[blackkitty]

Sept 10, 2012 15:08:59 GMT -5 NitaX said:

Sept 10, 2012 14:58:07 GMT -5 2vermont said:

Glad to see I wasn't the only one who thought this.

If they were planted and the ruse didn't work, then the OP will get somebody showing up on her doorstep.

Sorry, I didn't mean to imply he was cheating and the OW planted them. Anyone could have in an effort to start trouble or for a million other reasons. Anyone with access that is.
I agree with the suggestions to let it go at this time.

[marie427]

Team Let It Go here.

I know this is not a funny matter but some of the things said in this thread are gold. First, NB's description of her husband and what he said to that girl. Second, NQB mentioning using old clothes as rags. I do that all the time with t-shirts and stuff, but now I can't stop LOLing thinking about using my old granny panties to wipe down the kitchen counters.

[NitaX]

Sept 10, 2012 15:13:18 GMT -5 2vermont said:

Sept 10, 2012 15:08:59 GMT -5 NitaX said:

If they were planted and the ruse didn't work, then the OP will get somebody showing up on her doorstep.

Old Folks Saying Alert: What's Done in the Dark Will Come to the Light.

You can worry yourself and wait on a million possibilities or to use a quote from Eve's Bayou - "Sometimes a solider falls on his own sword."

OP - Don't let these possibilities swirl in your head. Take him at his word and file all this for later.

I just want to be clear that I was not insinuating that something is going on (just that perhaps someone might like something to be going on). I also suggest going with her gut and letting this go. From the start I believed there was a reasonable explanation based on her posts. Later on, I thought of the above (which doesn't mean her husband did anything wrong).

I understand, but what I'm afraid of is that if possibilities keep getting thrown out there, then the OP would have some serious anxiety. I like that her H is trying to reassure her, that's a good thing. But, if we're not careful, we can make it worse. (Edited - wrong pronoun use)

The constant, what if, what if, what if is pretty damaging. She needs to be ok with the answer she gets from her H. I don't want her trust eroded with her H. The sayings I've put out there are well, you can't do anything about it, but when people do wrong, it can't be hidden. The OP has to adopt that philosophy or it can gnaw at her for days.

That's all. This is not an indictment against you or Blackkitty. I just want the OP, to step back, breathe and be ok with her OP. That's all.

[zelda25]

Sept 10, 2012 15:01:18 GMT -5 @blessed said:

Sept 10, 2012 15:00:20 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

I wonder if they got stuck in someone's pants (static) and worked their way out? I had that happen to me at school. They fell out on the floor and I was mortified.

That has happened to me more than once. Not cute.

Me, too. It usually happens before I leave the house, but it's only a matter of time before underwear or a sock work their way out of my pantleg in some unfortunate location.

[NitaX]

Sept 10, 2012 15:16:06 GMT -5 marie427 said:

Team Let It Go here.

I know this is not a funny matter but some of the things said in this thread are gold. First, NB's description of her husband and what he said to that girl. Second, NQB mentioning using old clothes as rags. I do that all the time with t-shirts and stuff, but now I can't stop LOLing thinking about using my old granny panties to wipe down the kitchen counters.

Look, why you fooling, my next door neighbor used panties as a hair bonnet. Imagine the horror of a little kid seeing panties on someone's head!!

[aurora]

Sept 10, 2012 14:54:10 GMT -5 incognitomosquito said:

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LOL, I love this. He just called to see if I was ok, and we decided to put a sign on our front door that reads "keep your damn panties on." Problem solved.

I'm glad you are laughing about it together!

It occurred to me just now - much later - that I once found a bra that wasn't mine under the bed in in our guest room a few months after our last guests. Apparently I am one of the naive, because I swear it did not once cross my mind that it was there as a result of DH cheating. I called my most recent female guest, asked her if she was missing it, and she said "Oh, that's where I left it!"

Like eclaires said, you can all feel free to remind me of my naivety if I ever come back here to say DH cheated.

[2vermont]

Sept 10, 2012 15:18:08 GMT -5 NitaX said:

Sept 10, 2012 15:13:18 GMT -5 2vermont said:

I just want to be clear that I was not insinuating that something is going on (just that perhaps someone might like something to be going on). I also suggest going with her gut and letting this go. From the start I believed there was a reasonable explanation based on her posts. Later on, I thought of the above (which doesn't mean her husband did anything wrong).

I understand, but what I'm afraid of is that if possibilities keep getting thrown out there, then the OP would have some serious anxiety. I like that her H is trying to reassure her, that's a good thing. But, if we're not careful, we can make it worse. (Edited - wrong pronoun use)

The constant, what if, what if, what if is pretty damaging. She needs to be ok with the answer she gets from her H. I don't want her trust eroded with her H. The sayings I've put out there are well, you can't do anything about it, but when people do wrong, it can't be hidden. The OP has to adopt that philosophy or it can gnaw at her for days.

That's all. This is not an indictment against you or Blackkitty. I just want the OP, to step back, breathe and be ok with her OP. That's all.

I know it's not, but I do feel badly now that I said anything. Sorry OP.

[marie427]

Sept 10, 2012 15:19:14 GMT -5 NitaX said:

Sept 10, 2012 15:16:06 GMT -5 marie427 said:

Team Let It Go here.

I know this is not a funny matter but some of the things said in this thread are gold. First, NB's description of her husband and what he said to that girl. Second, NQB mentioning using old clothes as rags. I do that all the time with t-shirts and stuff, but now I can't stop LOLing thinking about using my old granny panties to wipe down the kitchen counters.

Look, why you fooling, my next door neighbor used panties as a hair bonnet. Imagine the horror of a little kid seeing panties on someone's head!!

:-( :-( :-(

[Daria Morgandorffer]

Sept 10, 2012 15:23:53 GMT -5 asdfjkl said:

Sept 10, 2012 15:15:54 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

Sorry, I didn't mean to imply he was cheating and the OW planted them. Anyone could have in an effort to start trouble or for a million other reasons. Anyone with access that is.
I agree with the suggestions to let it go at this time.

I can think of a few people I know who would think this was "funny." As a matter of fact, two of my friends' husband come to mind. "Dude, you know what would be funny. Let's put a pair of panties in husband's bathroom and see what his wife does." Yeah, fucking hilarious, douche.

I once had someone send me an ecard from here because they thought it would be funny.

arstechnica.com/business/2009/01/std-e-cards-let-you-break-the-news-anonymously/

:-|

Do you know who sent it? I'd be shanking.

[2vermont]

Sept 10, 2012 15:23:53 GMT -5 asdfjkl said:

Sept 10, 2012 15:15:54 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

Sorry, I didn't mean to imply he was cheating and the OW planted them. Anyone could have in an effort to start trouble or for a million other reasons. Anyone with access that is.
I agree with the suggestions to let it go at this time.

I can think of a few people I know who would think this was "funny." As a matter of fact, two of my friends' husband come to mind. "Dude, you know what would be funny. Let's put a pair of panties in husband's bathroom and see what his wife does." Yeah, fucking hilarious, douche.

I once had someone send me an ecard from here because they thought it would be funny.

arstechnica.com/business/2009/01/std-e-cards-let-you-break-the-news-anonymously/

When I was done with those men they wouldn't think it was funny anymore.