I love my MIL. My in laws are very kind, generous, loving, helpful, non intrusive etc. The only flaw is they go big game hunting. Like, they kill elephants and lions for sport.
I just made this face.
I hardly reacted at any of the other posts here, because I know people ain't shit, but this is nuts.
I like my MIL. She's kooky though. MH and I are actually starting to worry about her a little bit. She keeps locking herself out of her Facebook, instead of resetting her password she creates a new account. I am friends with 5 of her on FB. She also had a happy birthday message to one of my stepdaughters as her status the other day, her birthday was two months ago. She's also a drinker though so there's that. She's always nice to me and my son(from a previous marriage) though.
I hope there is nothing seriously wrong with her - but this made me literally LOL.
I love my MIL. My in laws are very kind, generous, loving, helpful, non intrusive etc. The only flaw is they go big game hunting. Like, they kill elephants and lions for sport.
I love my MIL. My in laws are very kind, generous, loving, helpful, non intrusive etc. The only flaw is they go big game hunting. Like, they kill elephants and lions for sport.
I’ll take being locked in the Shoney’s bathroom over this any day.
I love my MIL. My in laws are very kind, generous, loving, helpful, non intrusive etc. The only flaw is they go big game hunting. Like, they kill elephants and lions for sport.
Honestly, I think this is the worst one yet. That would be unforgivable to me. I’m upset just thinking about it.
Well yes, it's heinous, which she has acknowledged. I can't really sit here and say this should be across the board unforgivable though, because I remember the conversation we had when white people were crying real tears over Cecil the Lion when we know they don't cry the same tears over Trayvon Martin and actual human beings in Africa. The lack of nuance from people on this gets real insulting, real quick.
So, yeah. I'm really hoping this doesn't turn into a flame-fest about how she should disown these people.
ESPECIALLY when 2/3rds of you motherfuckers were talking about your Trump-supporting, racist ILs. Not today, Satan.
I like my MIL. She's kooky though. MH and I are actually starting to worry about her a little bit. She keeps locking herself out of her Facebook, instead of resetting her password she creates a new account. I am friends with 5 of her on FB. She also had a happy birthday message to one of my stepdaughters as her status the other day, her birthday was two months ago. She's also a drinker though so there's that. She's always nice to me and my son(from a previous marriage) though.
I hope there is nothing seriously wrong with her - but this made me literally LOL.
The Facebook thing has been going on for a long time. MH is friends with her like 8 times lol.
Honestly, I think this is the worst one yet. That would be unforgivable to me. I’m upset just thinking about it.
Well yes, it's heinous, which she has acknowledged. I can't really sit here and say this should be across the board unforgivable though, because I remember the conversation we had when white people were crying real tears over Cecil the Lion when we know they don't cry the same tears over Trayvon Martin and actual human beings in Africa. The lack of nuance from people on this gets real insulting, real quick.
So, yeah. I'm really hoping this doesn't turn into a flame-fest about how she should disown these people.
ESPECIALLY when 2/3rds of you motherfuckers were talking about your Trump-supporting, racist ILs. Not today, Satan.
I get what you’re saying. I didn’t call for her to disown them, I just found it stunning that she was all like, oh they’re the nicest people! Well, except for this one little thing.
And also, I think at least half of these stories are, um, greatly embellished. I tend to think this one is real.
Post by minionkevin on Dec 20, 2017 11:35:47 GMT -5
My MIL has been gone almost a year, and while she was passive aggressive as shit, to the point that my mom intervened on my behalf on more than one occasion, I would take her 100x over before dealing with my FIL for the rest of his natural life.
Well yes, it's heinous, which she has acknowledged. I can't really sit here and say this should be across the board unforgivable though, because I remember the conversation we had when white people were crying real tears over Cecil the Lion when we know they don't cry the same tears over Trayvon Martin and actual human beings in Africa. The lack of nuance from people on this gets real insulting, real quick.
So, yeah. I'm really hoping this doesn't turn into a flame-fest about how she should disown these people.
ESPECIALLY when 2/3rds of you motherfuckers were talking about your Trump-supporting, racist ILs. Not today, Satan.
I get what you’re saying. I didn’t call for her to disown them, I just found it stunning that she was all like, oh they’re the nicest people! Well, except for this one little thing.
And also, I think at least half of these stories are, um, greatly embellished. I tend to think this one is real.
You think it's more likely that people are big game hunters than are racist assholes and/or act like assholes to their kids?
Post by ThirdandLong on Dec 20, 2017 11:49:10 GMT -5
I like my MIL a lot. She's a wonderful grandmother, and she loves my H very much. She's quite caring with me as well.
I hate how she lets my FIL control her. She's religious, so it's a 'submissive wife' thing, which I'm sure could be good and healthy with the right person. But my FIL and I do not click, and I am very resentful of the things he says to my MIL at times. He doesn't realize how much he crushes her spirit with his little comments and criticisms.
Well yes, it's heinous, which she has acknowledged. I can't really sit here and say this should be across the board unforgivable though, because I remember the conversation we had when white people were crying real tears over Cecil the Lion when we know they don't cry the same tears over Trayvon Martin and actual human beings in Africa. The lack of nuance from people on this gets real insulting, real quick.
So, yeah. I'm really hoping this doesn't turn into a flame-fest about how she should disown these people.
ESPECIALLY when 2/3rds of you motherfuckers were talking about your Trump-supporting, racist ILs. Not today, Satan.
I get what you’re saying. I didn’t call for her to disown them, I just found it stunning that she was all like, oh they’re the nicest people! Well, except for this one little thing.
And also, I think at least half of these stories are, um, greatly embellished. I tend to think this one is real.
Sorry, wasn't attacking you personally. I just had to get in my two cents before the lion-loving hordes showed up.
Why do you think the stories are embellished though? Just curious.
I don’t know what to call MIL. Her name is Mary, but she hates her name, so even though all her friends and acquaintances call her Mary, I can not. I won’t call her “mom”. Her suggestions for what to call her were “Mamsy” or “Mummy Dearest”. Um, no. So I just don’t call her anything. She has some sort of serious cognitive defect where she cannot have a normal conversation. Everything is a question, even in writing every statement ends in a question mark. She makes shrewd comments and has accused me of being a gold digger, laughed how I looked like I was pregnant when I wasn’t, wrote my mom a terrible insulting email guilting her for not paying for our wedding (we paid for it ourselves, my parents were in no position to afford it, and why should they??). Eating out with her is awful, as she is so rude to all waitstaff. And she used to treat fil like a 2 year old, it was painful to witness. She’s intelligent, but reacts so strangely to things. Like once she let my son play with her watch when they were both sitting in the back seat of the car. He dropped it on the floor and we couldn’t reach it or see it right away because of the car seat and some things being in the way. She lamented the whole way home that her watch was lost forever, and it was her own fault for letting a baby hold her watch, and how much she’ll miss it... lady, it did not disappear into thin air, we just can’t see it right now! Or the time we were out and saw a car the same color/make/model as hers. H joked that maybe someone was driving her car. She believed it, and worried and mumbled about it until she could get home and see her car safe in the garage. She lives in another country so thankfully we don’t have to deal with her too much. I do feel sorry for her because she is pretty lonely now that fil has passed and she has an off and on again relationship with sil. We are considering visiting her this year, and I am dreading it so much.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Dec 20, 2017 13:23:33 GMT -5
There are some real doozies in here.
My MIL - I don't hate her. I just ... don't really like her much. She insists on calling herself "mom" when she writes to me. No. You are not my mom and I don't like you enough to ask to be adopted. They're religious fundamentalists and are incredibly judgey of some of our decisions, except that they're all blamed on me. I'm corrupting her baby boy (who is 38 and can make up his own damn mind about things). She is so freaking passive aggressive - one time she came early to visit us (FIL was coming later due to his work schedule) and needed to clean her glasses. We use lotion tissues like civilized people. She was mad that we didn't have plain tissues and CALLED FIL AT WORK to bring plain tissues. From NH to CA. Where we are also able to obtain plain tissues. Or, you know, she could have just asked me, a glasses wearer, if I had anything to use to clean her glasses (spoiler alert: I did). She (and FIL) constantly make racist and/or bigoted jokes and comments - see above re: religious fundamentalists. She constantly whines to DH about how a) we haven't given her a grandchild and b) her last visit here (4 years ago) we made her feel unwelcome because I wouldn't go with them everywhere. Because I was working. They voted for Trump and sent us a text afterwards saying they "did their part to keep that woman out of washington" which was really the final straw. I haven't spoken to her since.
I get what you’re saying. I didn’t call for her to disown them, I just found it stunning that she was all like, oh they’re the nicest people! Well, except for this one little thing.
And also, I think at least half of these stories are, um, greatly embellished. I tend to think this one is real.
Sorry, wasn't attacking you personally. I just had to get in my two cents before the lion-loving hordes showed up.
Why do you think the stories are embellished though? Just curious.
I just think most stories on the internet are embellished at least a little. I mean, look at how many crazy catfish we’ve had.
I get what you’re saying. I didn’t call for her to disown them, I just found it stunning that she was all like, oh they’re the nicest people! Well, except for this one little thing.
And also, I think at least half of these stories are, um, greatly embellished. I tend to think this one is real.
You think it's more likely that people are big game hunters than are racist assholes and/or act like assholes to their kids?
No, no, that’s not what I was saying. I know racist assholes abound. I was just referring to a lot of stories that people tell on here in general.
I get what you’re saying. I didn’t call for her to disown them, I just found it stunning that she was all like, oh they’re the nicest people! Well, except for this one little thing.
And also, I think at least half of these stories are, um, greatly embellished. I tend to think this one is real.
Sorry, wasn't attacking you personally. I just had to get in my two cents before the lion-loving hordes showed up.
Why do you think the stories are embellished though? Just curious.
Dang, I'm actually disappointed you stated this so early. I was waiting to see how long and who would do the bashing on this one to the point of disowning. I think if another poster had mentioned this statement, then hell the board would have attempted to disown them too.
I went to someone's house who had big game EVERYWHERE. It was beyond creepy & sad. My husband hunts, no not big game, but deer. His family eats deer, but thinks it's weird that people eat goat. LOL for days.
Btw, congratulations on the pregnancy and baby boy! Do you have any names in mind yet?
Post by miniroller on Dec 20, 2017 14:06:25 GMT -5
My IL’s headed to their winter place the first weekend of Nov. (We had “Thanksgiving” right before they left😐) They said they’d be back for Christmas unless the weather was bad. The weather’s FINE & MIL just sent us a group text (WTF?!) yesterday that they’re not coming home for Christmas; “we might do a short visit in January” 😐. We don’t have kids, but I’m pretty sure the reason I haven’t yet heard from SIL is because she’s speechless with disgust her kids’ grandparents aren’t traveling home for Christmas. We’re both trying to vent exclusively to one another (as we’ve always done), so their sons don’t feel even worse that they’re not prioritizing family togetherness at Christmas. They SUCK.
Sorry, wasn't attacking you personally. I just had to get in my two cents before the lion-loving hordes showed up.
Why do you think the stories are embellished though? Just curious.
Dang, I'm actually disappointed you stated this so early. I was waiting to see how long and who would do the bashing on this one to the point of disowning. I think if another poster had mentioned this statement, then hell the board would have attempted to disown them too.
I went to someone's house who had big game EVERYWHERE. It was beyond creepy & sad. My husband hunts, no not big game, but deer. His family eats deer, but thinks it's weird that people eat goat. LOL for days.
Btw, congratulations on the pregnancy and baby boy! Do you have any names in mind yet?
I know. We missed out on some true hysterics, although people are still free to chime in if they choose! I have to stop commenting around here before I eat lunch, because I apparently get super cranky. You all are way more entertaining when I’m full.
And thank you! We’re really excited, but no name frontrunners yet.
I agree, 05heel you ruined it! a couple more pages and people would be drawing lines in the sand- if she didn't agree to personally murder her ILs to pay them back for their own murdering pasts, she would have been shunned and never welcome to post here again. There also probably would have been people crying, possibly full on sobbing (and telling us about it of course). You've stolen this from us, I hope you're happy
I agree, 05heel you ruined it! a couple more pages and people would be drawing lines in the sand- if she didn't agree to personally murder her ILs to pay them back for their own murdering pasts, she would have been shunned and never welcome to post here again. There also probably would have been people crying, possibly full on sobbing (and telling us about it of course). You've stolen this from us, I hope you're happy
oh, well. I suppose I'll do some work
I’m sorry! This would be a good time to share that my MIL will be serving a slow-roasted bald eagle for Christmas dinner. I throw myself at the board’s mercy.
I agree, 05heel you ruined it! a couple more pages and people would be drawing lines in the sand- if she didn't agree to personally murder her ILs to pay them back for their own murdering pasts, she would have been shunned and never welcome to post here again. There also probably would have been people crying, possibly full on sobbing (and telling us about it of course). You've stolen this from us, I hope you're happy
oh, well. I suppose I'll do some work
I’m sorry! This would be a good time to share that my MIL will be serving a slow-roasted bald eagle for Christmas dinner. I throw myself at the board’s mercy.
GASP! This is far, far worse and much more believable than her constantly treating her son badly. An innocent bird! Endangered no less. I'm sobbing.
Post by tacoflavoredkisses on Dec 20, 2017 15:09:59 GMT -5
I used to actually hate my MIL. Now I’m just exhausted by her. She sends us random shit we never need (Eagles can attest to this), she is the queen of passive aggressiveness, and my H struggles with feeling valued by his family when they downplay his successes.
She’s done some shitty stuff to me in the past, and I used to really feel anger. Now it’s just a nuisance.
Post by lovelyshoes on Dec 20, 2017 15:14:53 GMT -5
I never understand when people complain that their in laws don’t make extra time for them. Enjoy the freedom of not conforming to everyone’s schedule! Enjoy your holiday your own way, seriously.
I’m sorry! This would be a good time to share that my MIL will be serving a slow-roasted bald eagle for Christmas dinner. I throw myself at the board’s mercy.
GASP! This is far, far worse and much more believable than her constantly treating her son badly. An innocent bird! Endangered no less. I'm sobbing.
This is where we need crazies like Scotty. She would have gone down swinging on this one.
My IL’s headed to their winter place the first weekend of Nov. (We had “Thanksgiving” right before they left😐) They said they’d be back for Christmas unless the weather was bad. The weather’s FINE & MIL just sent us a group text (WTF?!) yesterday that they’re not coming home for Christmas; “we might do a short visit in January” 😐. We don’t have kids, but I’m pretty sure the reason I haven’t yet heard from SIL is because she’s speechless with disgust her kids’ grandparents aren’t traveling home for Christmas. We’re both trying to vent exclusively to one another (as we’ve always done), so their sons don’t feel even worse that they’re not prioritizing family togetherness at Christmas. They SUCK.
I don't get it.
You remind me of my MIL. Every year she tells us her dream us to have her kids and grandkids home on Christmas. My dream is to not leave my house of Christmas so....
Yeah, I probably didn’t properly explain (but kinda thought this was flame-free, man!😌). I’m ok not seeing them, but quite honestly feel terrible for their sons & grandkids who won’t see them & will really miss them. There are only so many Christmases when the kids are young & jubilant & full of Christmas magic & it’s disappointing two of the main staples (Grandma & Grandpa) decided not to come celebrate. I’m 99% sure it’s not at all about cost or health (travel-wise); it’s simply they don’t want to go to the trouble of traveling; MIL’s text: “We’ve decided it’s not worth it to head north for the holiday, but cards are in the mail with a check for each of you, so enjoy!”
Yes, I get this is a dream for many people, & I probably would agree if it was just my personal feelings I was considering. But H & his brother are pretty crestfallen their parents aren’t going to “go to the trouble” of coming home for the holidays. It’s pretty tough on them, even though they’re both trying to hide it. They just feel like their parents don’t care.
I never understand when people complain that their in laws don’t make extra time for them. Enjoy the freedom of not conforming to everyone’s schedule! Enjoy your holiday your own way, seriously.
Seriously. H invited his parents, and they refuse to visit because my parents will be here. I'm all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. More leftovers for us, AND I don't have to deal with my nosy mil getting in my kitchen, adding beef flavouring to all my cooking.
I never understand when people complain that their in laws don’t make extra time for them. Enjoy the freedom of not conforming to everyone’s schedule! Enjoy your holiday your own way, seriously.
Seriously. H invited his parents, and they refuse to visit because my parents will be here. I'm all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. More leftovers for us, AND I don't have to deal with my nosy mil getting in my kitchen, adding beef flavouring to all my cooking.
Yeah, I probably didn’t properly explain (but kinda thought this was flame-free, man!😌). I’m ok not seeing them...They just feel like their parents don’t care.
Not being bitchy, but have they told their parents how they feel?
Well, we found out the last weekend in Oct (during niece & nephew’s bday party) that they were taking off the following weekend to head south. Every other year we’ve celebrated Christmas Eve & they’ve taken off Christmas morning. We all expressed surprise, but they assured us they’d “almost definitely” come back for Christmas. SIL & I threw together an early-Tday/sendoff dinner for the evening before they left; when we were discussing this right after their departure announcement they explained they were fine with it, but they’d be fine without it, too. “I mean- we’re all together now...” Which, yes, we were, but there were 18 other people (SIL’s Fam & a couple friends) there, too. H has spoken to his dad & explained his disappointment of the Christmas absence over the phone, but FIL said its MIL who calls the shots & MIL decided it wasn’t worth it. And nobody argues with MIL’s final decisions. I’m just glad that I don’t have kids yet, so I can be prepared if this is the new thing. And I try to remind SIL that we’re both very lucky (as are her kids) that both of OUR respective families put on great Christmases filled with festive joy & lots of love... I’m just afraid this might somewhat exacerbate IL’s absence in presenting such a stark contrast. (Sorry So Long! Thanks for all the thoughts; I obviously needed to get this out😌)