Congratulations! I agree that NYC is probably going to be your best bet. Try to find a place that will let you have an indoor ceremony in case it's sweltering or raining.
Congratulations! We visited Key West during our honeymoon. Be mindful of hurricane season, I think it runs May - November or something like that. Napa or Hawaii are great alternatives.
My cousin's wedding in KW this past June was ruined by a hurricane. So not there.
Given how far along you will be, I think NY.
Just saw this after I posted. Definitely check the almanac online for weather trends no matter where you decide. We moved our wedding date by 2 months to avoid hurricane season.
I'm happy you're happy, but I'm worried for you, honestly. I'm not a therapist and this is the Internet so take this with a grain of salt, but maybe take a step back and really take a hard look to see if getting married so quickly is the best idea. You've been through a lot this year. I'd personally wait to see how things go once the baby is born. A baby can change a relationship quickly.
Yay, so excited for you Rikki!! Can't wait to have a fellow Boston Nestie to talk wedding with
I'd recommend one of the east coast spots (NYC or KW) so you're not traveling too far. Or the Turks and Caicos is also nice and I have an awesome wedding planner I'd recommend
I'm a big believer in the whole "when you know, you know." I went through a broken engagement, met my DH less than a year later, was engaged less than 3 months after we started dating (and I lived 1200 miles away) and married within a year of our first date!
We had our first baby 2 weeks before our first wedding anniversary and are now expecting #3. We are both left brained, super planners (finance and engineering) in other aspects of our life, but completely took a leap. It really can work out, we are deliriously happy and I couldn't imagine spending my life with anyone else. So good luck and prayers that this all can work out for you!
That being said, I'd probably do the NYC wedding. You seem to be able to jet off to tropical locals pretty easily (you were in Mexico on a whim last week, right?!). But NYC would be nice and easy for your guests and for yourself being 3rd trimester pregnant. I'm sure you can find somewhere extraordinary for a small wedding.
With you being PG I would want to avoid flights, so I say NYC or somewhere else in driving distance. If you are thinking June, what about a classic New England beach wedding or mountain like up in the white or green mountains?
Our ceremony was at the Conservatory Gardens in Central Park. If you want to get married there in June you need to mail your application in ASAP. They start taking reservations on Jan. 2 for the current calendar year. www.centralparknyc.org/test/about/weddings.html
Our ceremony was really perfect for the casual wedding we wanted, but know that tourists will be wandering around the garden (or anywhere else you choose in the park). They don't close it for ceremonies.
Post by CallingAllAngels on Jan 30, 2013 7:15:50 GMT -5
I travelled well into my third trimester but for a trip like this that would be a PITA to cancel/reschedule, I would stick closer to home. I think LoveTrains had some good ideas.
Also ditto Cosmos. Just make sure you are certain about this. I am pulling for you.
Yay, congrats! (hypothetically of course ). I would look to do something on the east coast if you are set on June. Everyone has a different experience with pg. but I would not have wanted to take a long flight at 30+ weeks. Even Napa would have been out for me at that point. I was just SO tired all the time and uncomfortable unless I was lying down on my side, lol.
There are a lot of nice beaches that you could find on the east coast if that is what you are looking for. Or maybe a park and a small restaurant in Boston, Chicago, or NYC? Then do an awesome trip for your first anniversary.
I think NYC or somewhere else out east. Nantucket, Martha's Vineyard, Cape Cod, the mountains...
You can (and I know you will!) take fabulous trips later on after the baby, but from what everyone has said I think it might be overly ambitious to go as far as Hawaii in your third trimester.
I know this all seems crazy to people, but having met you (and not gotten any crazy vibes!), I am truly thrilled for you!
I'm happy you're happy, but I'm worried for you, honestly. I'm not a therapist and this is the Internet so take this with a grain of salt, but maybe take a step back and really take a hard look to see if getting married so quickly is the best idea. You've been through a lot this year. I'd personally wait to see how things go once the baby is born. A baby can change a relationship quickly.
This too. I know you say that you're certain that you're with the man of your dreams, but is there a particular reason why the wedding has to be before the baby comes? Just thinking about all of the things that you've been through in considerably less than a year -- planned pregnancy with husband, miscarriage, separated, moved, divorced, new boy, unplanned pregnancy with new boy, job woes, fired -- that is a ridiculous number of major, stressful (even positive changes are stressful) life changes to go through, and I think throwing in engaged, planning wedding, married can add a ton of unnecessary stress to this roller coaster ride of a year. If you guys are meant to be, he'll still be there to marry you a year from now.
i would say keys. We had considered it originally actually since it was not a bad flight from Boston for our family, anywhere else would be too expensive, unless you are paying for flights for people.
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on Jan 30, 2013 9:15:31 GMT -5
Your whole life screams of desperation. Are you capable of living alone? You went from one bad marriage to suddenly with another guy, pregnant, getting married again. It just so happens you lose your job and you are suddenly getting married to a guy who appears to have money? Good luck with that. You do know that the marriage failure rates for people who get married because of a baby are even higher than the already high failure rates of people who get married because they want to and not be cause the "have" to, right?
I'm happy you're happy, but I'm worried for you, honestly. I'm not a therapist and this is the Internet so take this with a grain of salt, but maybe take a step back and really take a hard look to see if getting married so quickly is the best idea. You've been through a lot this year. I'd personally wait to see how things go once the baby is born. A baby can change a relationship quickly.
This too. I know you say that you're certain that you're with the man of your dreams, but is there a particular reason why the wedding has to be before the baby comes? Just thinking about all of the things that you've been through in considerably less than a year -- planned pregnancy with husband, miscarriage, separated, moved, divorced, new boy, unplanned pregnancy with new boy, job woes, fired -- that is a ridiculous number of major, stressful (even positive changes are stressful) life changes to go through, and I think throwing in engaged, planning wedding, married can add a ton of unnecessary stress to this roller coaster ride of a year. If you guys are meant to be, he'll still be there to marry you a year from now.
Ditto all of this.
If you guys decide to go forward with a wedding soon, I would pick a place that's close. Especially if you will have family in attendance. A DW is a big commitment to ask from your loved ones, especially with only a few months' notice. Save the bigger trip for later down the road, and have a simple wedding to save the money for your baby for now.
I'm happy you're happy, but I'm worried for you, honestly. I'm not a therapist and this is the Internet so take this with a grain of salt, but maybe take a step back and really take a hard look to see if getting married so quickly is the best idea. You've been through a lot this year. I'd personally wait to see how things go once the baby is born. A baby can change a relationship quickly.
This too. I know you say that you're certain that you're with the man of your dreams, but is there a particular reason why the wedding has to be before the baby comes? Just thinking about all of the things that you've been through in considerably less than a year -- planned pregnancy with husband, miscarriage, separated, moved, divorced, new boy, unplanned pregnancy with new boy, job woes, fired -- that is a ridiculous number of major, stressful (even positive changes are stressful) life changes to go through, and I think throwing in engaged, planning wedding, married can add a ton of unnecessary stress to this roller coaster ride of a year. If you guys are meant to be, he'll still be there to marry you a year from now.
I know, you're absolutely right that it is a ton to take in one year. Sometimes I am shocked that I am still so sane. I just hate the thought of being an unwed mother. I also know that a pregnant wedding is probably even more tacky, so it's pretty unreasonable that I feel that way. He's pretty traditional (and religious) and I know he would prefer to be married before the baby is born. I also know he isn't going anywhere. I'd be fine with a longer engagement, too. I have such a Type-A personality and always want everything to fit in a box and to have control, but sometimes I think I need to work on being more patient and letting life happen.
My mom married my stepdad the first day that it was legal to after her divorce from my father and they're still (very happily) married 18 years later. She always says she knew, and at least in her case, it seems that she did.
Your whole life screams of desperation. Are you capable of living alone? You went from one bad marriage to suddenly with another guy, pregnant, getting married again. It just so happens you lose your job and you are suddenly getting married to a guy who appears to have money? Good luck with that. You do know that the marriage failure rates for people who get married because of a baby are even higher than the already high failure rates of people who get married because they want to and not be cause the "have" to, right?
I usually ignore you, but I just want to tell you to shut up and worry about what seems to be your own (pathetic) life.
I am well aware of divorce rates and if I chose to get married it's because I want to, not because I have to. Not that it is any of your business AT ALL, but I have several hundreds of thousands of dollars in the bank, so I am pretty sure I would be just fine without his money for quite some time.
I am totally self sufficient, went to great undergrad and grad schools, am perfectly capable of supporting myself, enjoy my own company, do many things alone (I just got back from an international vacation by myself, I am pretty sure a desperate person wouldn't feel comfortable leaving the country alone and pregnant), see my girlfriends for dinners and outings most nights, and actually like living by myself.
You seem to be the desperate one since you have nothing better to do than troll the internet looking for people to put down.