So I haven't done anything beyond vent here and yet I'm "the worst aunt" omg "this is crazy you guys". I think it's reasonable for me to vent out my fears on a message board. Thanks for the entertainment I have had enough. Going to call my mom and see how she is doing in all this.
I don't think you are the 'worst aunt', but I think your perspective is skewing you to not have a normal response to this. The fact that you can't see the other side makes people question you.
So I haven't done anything beyond vent here and yet I'm "the worst aunt" omg "this is crazy you guys". I think it's reasonable for me to vent out my fears on a message board. Thanks for the entertainment I have had enough. Going to call my mom and see how she is doing in all this.
Well I've caught my breath, moved to a lump in my throat, now I'm just sad. This dude has pics with a lot of other half-dressed young girls on his facebook timeline. This is not his first "girlfriend" since his divorce. That's why he looks like a creeper.
WTF are you stalking his FB?
Was your niece blocking you (because I really doubt she actually shut down her FB/IG)not enough of a hint for you?
She shut it all down. I know your disappointed I wasn't blocked. If he has it open... wtf not?
So I haven't done anything beyond vent here and yet I'm "the worst aunt" omg "this is crazy you guys". I think it's reasonable for me to vent out my fears on a message board. Thanks for the entertainment I have had enough. Going to call my mom and see how she is doing in all this.
No, thank YOU!
Next time I'm in your neighborhood and see you monitoring the neighbors through the gap in the blinds I'll be sure to wave. And maybe I'll moon or flash you so you have something to talk to your busybody friends about at the neighborhood watch meeting.
Also since you're going to continue down your busybody and judgemental path, they will definitely get engaged so be sure to come back and report on all the deets!
So I haven't done anything beyond vent here and yet I'm "the worst aunt" omg "this is crazy you guys". I think it's reasonable for me to vent out my fears on a message board. Thanks for the entertainment I have had enough. Going to call my mom and see how she is doing in all this.
Post by LeggsBenedict on Dec 11, 2013 13:00:46 GMT -5
this is like that time my sister got mad at me because I got in a fight with my boyfriend and he told her it was none of her business why we were fighting so she told my dad I lost my virginity.
So I haven't done anything beyond vent here and yet I'm "the worst aunt" omg "this is crazy you guys". I think it's reasonable for me to vent out my fears on a message board. Thanks for the entertainment I have had enough. Going to call my mom and see how she is doing in all this.
Read: Gossip about something that's absolutely none of my business.
When I was 21 I was dating a divorced 27 year old creeper with two kids and had the NERVE to post pictures on Facebook. I was his second girlfriend since his divorce to let you guys know what a scumbag he was.
Then i decided to rub it in my family's face and post our wedding photos on Facebook too. Ha! Take THAT Aunt Lois!
Oh man, Lois doesn't have Facebook. Maybe i can get this annulled? That was really the only reason I married this guy.
Niece's ex-boyfriend before this old dude was 27 (she was 19). I had no problems with him or his age. She was focused on school, working on her goals but they broke up because she told me she didn't like his last name and knew he wouldn't make enough money. I told her to do it before he got too involved. She strung him along, cheated on him for almost a year and i said nothing and just supported her. Been there. DOne that.
Post by lizard1131 on Dec 11, 2013 13:05:10 GMT -5
Are ya'll super-religious? I just think such a tizzy over an older boyfriend is so strange. And what is this 'path' you keep talking about? Any why is your mom so upset about this?
Well I married the creepy older guy that set me up in a cushy situation at that age sooooo, I'm probably not much help.
If you are so "concerned", you'd back off and make yourself available to listen to whatever goes on in this relationship so that she is not completely and utterly alone if it does go bad/manipulative/whatever it is you're worried about. She is probably just goofing off and having a fling with a guy that showers her with money and fun, and you'd know that if you'd stop being such a fuddyduddy and talk to her. Your whole family has some mega codependency issues. I really do hope your mom is not suffering terribly "in all of this", because that would just be a whole other bag of crazy.
When I was 21 I was dating a divorced 27 year old creeper with two kids and had the NERVE to post pictures on Facebook. I was his second girlfriend since his divorce to let you guys know what a scumbag he was.
Then i decided to rub it in my family's face and post our wedding photos on Facebook too. Ha! Take THAT Aunt Lois!
Oh man, Lois doesn't have Facebook. Maybe i can get this annulled? That was really the only reason I married this guy.
Niece's ex-boyfriend before this old dude was 27 (she was 19). I had no problems with him or his age. She was focused on school, working on her goals but they broke up because she told me she didn't like his last name and knew he wouldn't make enough money. I told her to do it before he got too involved. She strung him along, cheated on him for almost a year and i said nothing and just supported her. Been there. DOne that.
Serious question... At what age would it be acceptable for her to make her own mistakes and learn from them? 62? Go ask your mom and report back.
Post by shopgirl07 on Dec 11, 2013 13:09:32 GMT -5
Am I the only one who would admit that I'd be sad if my 21 year old niece was dating a 48 year old guy? And was blowing through her student loan money and getting herself into debt? I mean, I'd know that there's nothing I could do about it and I'd stay out of it but it would seriously bum me out and I'd worry for her.
And 48 isn't "old" in the grand scheme of life, but it's old to be dating a 21 year old. Hopefully it will fizzle on its own soon.
Calm down he's an "Old dude" to her. Her own father is younger than that.
Niece was living with my mom most recently and my mother supports her financially and has not heard from her much since this guy got involved. No explanation so she is worried with what is going on and niece has credit cards in her name. She is upset for a variety of reasons and i have to help her change over the accounts.
Am I the only one who would admit that I'd be sad if my 21 year old niece was dating a 48 year old guy? And was blowing through her student loan money and getting herself into debt?
No, you aren't. It's ok to feel however you want. But you said you would keep it to yourself.
So I haven't done anything beyond vent here and yet I'm "the worst aunt" omg "this is crazy you guys". I think it's reasonable for me to vent out my fears on a message board. Thanks for the entertainment I have had enough. Going to call my mom and see how she is doing in all this.
OMFG LOL.
Your family sounds FUN.
We really are. And this is nothing. Wait until we start drinking...
Am I the only one who would admit that I'd be sad if my 21 year old niece was dating a 48 year old guy? And was blowing through her student loan money and getting herself into debt?
No, you aren't. It's ok to feel however you want. But you said you would keep it to yourself.
Cuntinthehat is missing that last portion.
Lame: I didn't say anything to niece about me being upset by her dating an "older for her" guy. She has quit talking to family, even younger siblings. I was posting my frustration on a message board.
Am I the only one who would admit that I'd be sad if my 21 year old niece was dating a 48 year old guy? And was blowing through her student loan money and getting herself into debt? I mean, I'd know that there's nothing I could do about it and I'd stay out of it but it would seriously bum me out and I'd worry for her.
And 48 isn't "old" in the grand scheme of life, but it's old to be dating a 21 year old. Hopefully it will fizzle on its own soon.
It's one thing to be sad. It's something else entirely to be all, "THIS IS SO TERRIBLE! WHAT DO I DOOOOOOOOO???!!!1!
Calm down he's an "Old dude" to her. Her own father is younger than that.
Niece was living with my mom most recently and my mother supports her financially and has not heard from her much since this guy got involved. No explanation so she is worried with what is going on and niece has credit cards in her name. She is upset for a variety of reasons and i have to help her change over the accounts.
WUT.
Seriously, codependency. Look it up. Take an online quiz or something.
You want to have any part of your niece's life from here on out?
BACK THE FUCK OFF. Tell your family to do the same. Stop gossiping with your mom about her and tell every family member who contacts YOU (and WTF with that, anyway) to leave it alone. I can about guarantee this girl will not be showing up to any family functions if she thinks she'll be lectured by every single person there.
Niece was living with my mom most recently and my mother supports her financially and has not heard from her much since this guy got involved. No explanation so she is worried with what is going on and niece has credit cards in her name. She is upset for a variety of reasons and i have to help her change over the accounts.
WUT.
Seriously, codependency. Look it up. Take an online quiz or something.
Do you realize how not normal all this stuff is?
Yes I know. Years of enabling and sweeping issues under the rug are involved. That's why I feel stress. I am involved because my mother is at the core and I'm her POA so she calls me about a lot of this.
You want to have any part of your niece's life from here on out?
BACK THE FUCK OFF. Tell your family to do the same. Stop gossiping with your mom about her and tell every family member who contacts YOU (and WTF with that, anyway) to leave it alone. I can about guarantee this girl will not be showing up to any family functions if she thinks she'll be lectured by every single person there.
I can get on board with this. Just need to help unravel my mothers financial involvemnt. She doesn't know what's going on (bc niece won't return her calls) and it's worrying my mom and she wants to end financial support.