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I kicked my husband out tonight. He has been rather distant. Tonight he made the comment that I am too busy being a mom to be a wife to him. fights ensued. Shit was said, and I kicked him out. I asked for a divorce. he told me that he was fine with it.

I don't even know what or how I feel.

My kids.. fuck,... my kids are going to be devesated

UPDATE:  DH texted me last night "I have calmed down and I am disgusted with myself. We both said some pretty terrible things tonight. "

a few texts back and forth ensued last night and I told him we'd talk about it in the am. 

I don't have a "HE SAW THE LIGHT" post but we both admitted we were jerks.  He feels like I put his needs on the backburner. which when he said it rationally I do get it.  But I also explained my issue that I am friggen tired from 70 hours a week plus everything else. and he got it. this will ONLY be worked out in therapy because he has a tendency to see my side but a few weeks he forgets.

This am when he came to get DS for football he hugged me said again he was so sorry. Said it would never happen again.  I told him that no it wouldn't on my end either. 

WE BOTH agree we need counseling. Its odd and uncomfortable today and I feel very sad and angry as does he.   

THANK YOU for those that were so supportive I am going to need it in the coming weeks while we figure this out.  now I have to go runa  5k.  UGH. I am beyond tired

I will update more we only talked for a few minutes. 

[Kore]

I'm so sorry this is a very bad marriage weekend.

[nannersp]

I'm so sorry, mama. Sending calm thoughts your family's way.

[ginap]

I'm so sorry.

[Deleted]

That is so sad. I'm sorry.

[lime]

((sloan))

I'm so sorry.

[rosiebear]

I'm really really sorry. That's all I can say- I'm sorry. Move slowly and deliberately, but do what you need to do. I'm sorry.

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Aug 23, 2014 23:09:03 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

I'm so sorry hon. Do you think this is something that can be worked through with a therapist or are you just done?

Well I've been pretty unhappy for about a month. Talked to him about it etc. Tonight we had an awesome night out with friends. It ended with him saying some things that were kinda shitty.

So I told him that I have been unhappy for about a month and he said he has been unhappy for a few years. he said that having Leo he thought saved us but that isn't the case. I am not into sex enough for him, I am too much a mother at all times.

There was so much more I just can't type it. Because its so hurtful to me. I can't relive it yet

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry. Hopefully you'll feel better and clearer headed in the morning. It's a lot to process right now. Hugs to you.

[nicanmatt]

I'm so sorry. Do you have any friends who can come over to be with you tonight?

[keyslover]

Sorry

Sending you love and peace.

[noodleskooze]

Oh I'm so sorry.

[thejen626]

I'm so sorry

How long have you guys been married? I'm a huge fan of counseling, solo or couples. Good luck to you.

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He left. He said that DS will go with him. (we have two other children but my oldest son and him have a tight bond) he said that he will get primary custody of DS 1. I know he is angry and being dickish but it hurts me so much. My DS is going to be devastated. My DD too but she is mama's girl. leo is a baby only 15 months.

I can't be scared or hurt or anything. All I can do is type these words and fucking thing HOLY SHIT IS THIS FOR REAL while my tears run down my face

Guys. I am fucking scared. I can't afford to live without him. I have no money... We had hopes and dreams and to me we hit a bump a month ago.. to him he hasnt' been happy in years. I am blindsided.

[speckledfrog]

Oh sloan. I'm so sorry.

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Aug 23, 2014 23:12:12 GMT -5 nicanmatt said:

I'm so sorry. Do you have any friends who can come over to be with you tonight?

I texted my best friend and my sister neither responded. I am okay. I have my babies. But my husband wanted to wake my DS 1 and take him with him. He is going to fucking use him to destroy me. 

I did say some stupid shit I won't lie. I said all I have to do is tell the cops you hit me and they won't let you take him. I know that was dumb... I was frantic. I can't have him take my 9 year old out of my hosue at midnight and sleep god knows where. I was desperate. FUCK FUCK FUCK

[fluffydamn]

I'm so sorry

[CurlyQ284]

I'm so sorry ((hugs))

[gretchenindisguise]

Ugh, I'm so sorry Sloan.

I hope tomorrow brings some more clarity to the situation. He can't split the kids up, I'm sure he knows that deep down.

[MrsPenny]

Jesus, I'm so sorry. As a child of divorce and parent of divorce - the kids will be okay. Seriously. It'll takes bit of time but they'll be okay. (((Sloan)))

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Aug 23, 2014 23:14:12 GMT -5 thejen626 said:

I'm so sorry

How long have you guys been married? I'm a huge fan of counseling, solo or couples. Good luck to you.

Ten years.  We have DS1 9 DD 7 and DS2 16months

[AHappierHour]

I'm so sorry

[lilafowler]

Oh I'm so sorry.

:-<

[Deleted]

A month is not long to have been unhappy. Had you both been drinking? Don't make this into more than it is unless you really want it to be.

[MrsPenny]

Just saw the update - has he actually hit you?

[CurlyQ284]

Aug 23, 2014 23:18:07 GMT -5 elle said:

A month is not long to have been unhappy. Had you both been drinking? Don't make this into more than it is unless you really want it to be.

It looks like she thought it was a month and then he said he was unhappy for years and then said horrible things.

[wannabe]

[thedude]

I'm sorry

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Aug 23, 2014 23:20:23 GMT -5 CurlyQ284 said:

Aug 23, 2014 23:18:07 GMT -5 elle said:

A month is not long to have been unhappy. Had you both been drinking? Don't make this into more than it is unless you really want it to be.

It looks like she thought it was a month and then he said he was unhappy for years and then said horrible things.

I would take with a grain of salt anything said in anger after drinks. I don't think this needs to be for real unless she wants it to be. If he wanted the marriage to be over, really and truly, it needs to be said when both people are sober and rational. This sounds like a bad and hurtful argument, not a prelude to divorce unless they both want to make it one.

[sequins]

I'm so sorry. Some of the things he said are just hurtful and malicious. Is it possible that he is just exaggerating because of the fight? I hope you guys can work it out in counseling once you've both cooled down.