Seriously- You-"I don't want to get married due to the non-benefits" everyone "umm...WTF is a non-bnefit" You-"They are the non-benefits of marriage" Everyone-"That's not an explanation, do you mean taxes and lawyers?" You-"yes, but I want all of the benefits too, how do I do that?" Everyone-"You get married. If you want all the legal aspects of marriage without the marriage lawyers would get involved anyway AND there are things you can't get without marriage" You-"But Most marriages are failures, even if they are still married, they ALL cheat or are miserable, so I just want a relationship-Here are old statistics to prove it" Everyone-"Uhhhh, not every marriage ends in divorce or misery. Here are the actual statistics to prove it. Plus, you can be just as miserable in just a dating relationship, WTF is wrong with you? Get counseling" You-"I'm right, you're wrong, all marriages are awful. Besides, this is not what I asked!" *Takes ball and goes home*
This is one of the best thread summaries I have ever read.
missbetty - based on how your posts (not just this one) are all over the place, I really really hope you get into counseling.
I'm actually not a fan of getting married but god damn! Make up your mind.. Let's be happy she's not getting married because she would add to the statistic of failing marriages. So if one day I do decide to get married maybe it'll be at 51% are successful and give me some extra hope. I don't see how *at this point in her life* any relationship she's in can be successful.