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That’s super shitty of her and I wouldn’t hesitate to let her know how hurt you are she prioritized her 2 vacations of one she promised you months ago.
Post by Leeham Rimes on Feb 7, 2019 15:35:20 GMT -5
I think once things settle, I’ll be fine with doing something on my own. At one point it was my idea, until I talked to this friend who said she’d plan everything.
I don’t want to plan, I don’t want to organize other people. I do that all the time for the boys’ classes (I’ve put in 100+ volunteer hours since August) and I don’t want to do that for this. I know I sound like a brat but that was going to be her present to me, organizing so I don’t have to.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
I think once things settle, I’ll be fine with doing something on my own. At one point it was my idea, until I talked to this friend who said she’d plan everything.
I don’t want to plan, I don’t want to organize other people. I do that all the time for the boys’ classes (I’ve put in 100+ volunteer hours since August) and I don’t want to do that for this. I know I sound like a brat but that was going to be her present to me, organizing so I don’t have to.
Can you tell your other friends it is off and see if they suggest dinner locally? i feel like if i were this situation as one of the other friends, i would immediately suggest doing something on the town locally.
Reach out to the other friends who wanted to go and see what kind of feedback you get. Honestly if I was part of a group trip and nothing was happening I would have already raised a red flag b/c I'm an over planner.
Even if it's just dinner or an afternoon of spa/dinner/wine I would still try and get together with some friends.
And I wouldn't talk to this friend again, probably after sending a pretty upset text since that is just shitty.
What about getting a hotel room locally with the other ladies and have a fun night out? Get dressed up, go to dinner? Doesn't require much planning other than booking a hotel room and restaurant reservation.
I think once things settle, I’ll be fine with doing something on my own. At one point it was my idea, until I talked to this friend who said she’d plan everything.
I don’t want to plan, I don’t want to organize other people. I do that all the time for the boys’ classes (I’ve put in 100+ volunteer hours since August) and I don’t want to do that for this. I know I sound like a brat but that was going to be her present to me, organizing so I don’t have to.
Can you tell your other friends it is off and see if they suggest dinner locally? i feel like if i were this situation as one of the other friends, i would immediately suggest doing something on the town locally.
They already know, she sent a group text. Nobody has replied to it but me.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
Can you tell your other friends it is off and see if they suggest dinner locally? i feel like if i were this situation as one of the other friends, i would immediately suggest doing something on the town locally.
They already know, she sent a group text. Nobody has replied to it but me.
UGh, this reminds me when my friend attempted to get people together for my 40th and it was crickets. it really, really hurt. I want to hope that they got together on text to plan something for you, that would be nice.
They already know, she sent a group text. Nobody has replied to it but me.
UGh, this reminds me when my friend attempted to get people together for my 40th and it was crickets. it really, really hurt. I want to hope that they got together on text to plan something for you, that would be nice.
i hope you do something fun.
Maybe I’ll just take a cruise by my damn self, lol. Fall asleep on a lounge chair while drinking mai tais.
Not sure what a mai tai is but it sounds tropical.
Last Edit: Feb 7, 2019 15:45:02 GMT -5 by Leeham Rimes
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
Damn...she suuuuuuucks. I'm sorry, LR. I've had friends do that to me more times than I care to count (maybe not on such a grand scale, though), and it just shakes my faith in what my definition of friendship even is.
Hopefully your birthday is salvageable--don't be so quick to discount your H's suggestion of going somewhere by yourself. If my H said that to me, I'D RUN TO WHATEVER PLACE I COULD COME UP WITH IN 2 SECONDS!
Post by Velar Fricative on Feb 7, 2019 15:49:40 GMT -5
I'd be done with her. Life happens, but her response was callous. This is not a good friend.
Since you said the rest of the group knows, unless someone reaches out to you to volunteer to plan, I'd circle back with them and let them know you'd still really like to do something with them, local or not and see what they say. While it would be great if someone could step up and plan if they can, that's not fair to them either since they too were expecting this one person to do all the planning, especially with only a month to go. So you may have to do at least some of the planning, which sucks, but that's why I wouldn't hold my tongue and would say to this person that you're incredibly upset since none of this is what you expected to do.
I'm sorry. That is incredibly hurtful. It would end our friendship if it happened to me. Even if I has to be polite at other events, I would freeze her out from my personal life.
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That sucks. Sorry. I like planning trips, but there is a part of me that hates planning parties which is kind of why I try not to ever do so. Maybe your H can arrange something for you, whether it is a family weekend away, just the 2 of you, or just a day.
My H did my birthday pretty well this year. Lunch out, professional soccer game, dinner with 1 friend and girls night out. It was nice because it was just with him/ the family or 1 friend, and I didn't have to plan anything. Not bragging about my H, just other suggestions of things to do on the day or weekend.
I'd cry. She's an asshole. Knowing you, I'm sure your reply on the group text was nice and polite. But I'd be tempted to also send a snarky reply all right back. I'm usually a live and let live type of attitude but this would make me sad and mad.
Oh I’m so sorry! Totally different scenario but I was supppsed to go away for a trip with all my friends for my 40th, and the day before we were to leave one of my friend’s sons was seriously injured and in ICU (he’s totally fine now!) We obviously canceled the trip and even though it was of course no one’s fault and awful circumstances and horrific for my friend and all of us it was Just all around terrible. But my friends all rallied and we went out for a really nice girl’s dinner - it wasn’t what we had planned at all but it was still great and special. And now DH has promised I can go all out for my 45th
I'd cry. She's an asshole. Knowing you, I'm sure your reply on the group text was nice and polite. But I'd be tempted to also send a snarky reply all right back. I'm usually a live and let live type of attitude but this would make me sad and mad.
It was.
I have to see her twice a week (sometimes more) for the foreseeable future, as our boys are in soccer together and are very good friends. As much as I pretend on here, I'm not good with confrontation with people that I still have to see on a very regular basis. I have no problem burning things down if I don't have to still see 'em, lol.
I'm not even mad, I'm sad. I got so hyped up when she told me all the plans (how the destination was a surprise) that dinner is not gonna cut it. Especially dinner THAT I HAVE TO PLAN.
NO.
I'd honestly rather do nothing, which I'm trying hard not to do. B/c I don't wanna spite myself. I'm looking at last minute vacations right now.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
I am a part of a birthday club with 8 of us. I do most of the planning(mainly dinner/brunch). I did it the first year for my birthday and i HATED it. It felt really weird to be all “let’s go out for MY birthday!” So the next year i wrapped it into the dinner for 2 of the other girls. And this year someone else finally offered to plan mine.
My point - i totally don’t blame you for not wanting to plan your own party!!!
Was this just today?? Maybe your other friends will talk and figure something out. I hope!!