Yes, I agree, but in his experience he thinks I am lying or my body is dysfunctional. Probably because women have lied to him. But men don't want to believe that. I can not and will not lie.
There are so few men out there who are worthy. And how do you broach this subject early to not waste time. It's been 3 months. And what if you wait 3 or 6 months to have sex like Im being told to do?
His experience is his experience and that is what it is. What's unacceptable is that he's judging you and isn't accepting of how *you* are, and not to mention that he's not at all invested in you having a satisfying sex life with him.
Someone in the other post made the suggestion of couching the request in "wouldn't it be fun to try" adding toys to an established couples' sex life. I think you could do the same thing before anyone dropped their drawers. If he's not enthusiastic, then you'll know.
Trust me, I know that there's not a lot of guys out there and many seem to be republican. I also won't date a picky eater or someone who doesn't love animals, so that narrows the field too.
I already mentioned toys and he said no way. He pushed my hand away.
I won't date a picky eater either. i love sharing food too much. And has to love animals
I dated a man when I was 22 who made me feel pretty bad about the fact that I do not get lubricated on my own quickly. It takes a lot of foreplay or friction. He made me feel so shitty about this and then I talked to a friend who told me she is the same way. Men don't know shit. ANd just because some women become a fountain at the slightest bit of being turned on, that does not mean all women will or should be that way and if they are not, there is nothing wrong with them.
On of the men I mentioned shamed me for the exact opposite! Some really don't know shit.
YES to so few men who are worthy. Who is telling you to wait 3-6 months? I wouldn't, unless that's something you really want to do. I'm your age and I'm not planning games like that, I know what I want, and if he can't provide it, next!
oh so many girlfriends shame. They say well if you would've waited this wouldn't have happened... blah
No thank you to waiting up to 6 months to find out someone sucks in bed.
No to toys and he pushed your hand away from your own body? Yeah, he's not the right guy for you. Or anyone really, but definitely not for you.
Sad, and how do you explain this to anyone who asked what happened?
It is sad. I'm sorry that you have been experiencing this with this guy, and it's never easy to end a relationship. If anyone is nosy and asks, "it didn't work out" is all you owe anyone. If you feel like telling good friends, telling them he was bad in bed and also sex shamed you seems totally fine.
NONE of this is your fault or anything you did wrong. NONE.
Sad, and how do you explain this to anyone who asked what happened?
It is sad. I'm sorry that you have been experiencing this with this guy, and it's never easy to end a relationship. If anyone is nosy and asks, "it didn't work out" is all you owe anyone. If you feel like telling good friends, telling them he was bad in bed and also sex shamed you seems totally fine.
NONE of this is your fault or anything you did wrong. NONE.
mdmb , this guy sounds like a jerk who doesn't deserve you. I will say that my BF is a Republican, and he's not at all like this. I get if you don't want to date a Republican for any number of reasons, but they aren't all bad in bed and sex shaming.
Odds are that if someone identifies as a republican and they're male, then they voted for Trump. I can't do that.
mdmb , this guy sounds like a jerk who doesn't deserve you. I will say that my BF is a Republican, and he's not at all like this. I get if you don't want to date a Republican for any number of reasons, but they aren't all bad in bed and sex shaming.
Odds are that if someone identifies as a republican and they're male, then they voted for Trump. I can't do that.
His experience is his experience and that is what it is. What's unacceptable is that he's judging you and isn't accepting of how *you* are, and not to mention that he's not at all invested in you having a satisfying sex life with him.
Someone in the other post made the suggestion of couching the request in "wouldn't it be fun to try" adding toys to an established couples' sex life. I think you could do the same thing before anyone dropped their drawers. If he's not enthusiastic, then you'll know.
Trust me, I know that there's not a lot of guys out there and many seem to be republican. I also won't date a picky eater or someone who doesn't love animals, so that narrows the field too.
I already mentioned toys and he said no way. He pushed my hand away.
I won't date a picky eater either. i love sharing food too much. And has to love animals
Yes- but it's a good screening question for future partners. This dude is a lost cause and fuck him because he's trying to make you feel bad to compensate for his shitty self-esteem.
And fuck your friends who apparently read "The Rules" and believed that horse shit.
And I should add he is only a few years old than me and has some ED issues but I don't say a damn word about that because Im not into shaming and work around any issues. It's about the time together. Again I tried explaining this.
Also, I have masturbated since I'm 12. It takes more and more effort as I get older and I know what I need.
But his male friend is a player and tells him that all these women are having orgasms so easily from him. So he feels it should be the same for him. But his friend only hooks up with the woman a few times
And I should add he is only a few years old than me and has some ED issues but I don't say a damn word about that because Im not into shaming and work around any issues. It's about the time together. Again I tried explaining this.
Also, I have masturbated since I'm 12. It takes more and more effort as I get older and I know what I need.
But his male friend is a player and tells him that all these women are having orgasms so easily from him. So he feels it should be the same for him. But his friend only hooks up with the woman a few times
thanks for letting me vent. sorry to hijack
Dude- let this guy go. He's pushing 50 and is so fragile that he's letting his player friend be more important than a woman he's dating? Fuck that shit.
And I should add he is only a few years old than me and has some ED issues but I don't say a damn word about that because Im not into shaming and work around any issues. It's about the time together. Again I tried explaining this.
Also, I have masturbated since I'm 12. It takes more and more effort as I get older and I know what I need.
But his male friend is a player and tells him that all these women are having orgasms so easily from him. So he feels it should be the same for him. But his friend only hooks up with the woman a few times
thanks for letting me vent. sorry to hijack
Dude- let this guy go. He's pushing 50 and is so fragile that he's letting his player friend be more important than a woman he's dating? Fuck that shit.
Their self worth is tied to their penises. He said it's big enough you should get off from it. But it's not always hard. And Ive never had an orgasm from intercourse!
And I should add he is only a few years old than me and has some ED issues but I don't say a damn word about that because Im not into shaming and work around any issues. It's about the time together. Again I tried explaining this.
Also, I have masturbated since I'm 12. It takes more and more effort as I get older and I know what I need.
But his male friend is a player and tells him that all these women are having orgasms so easily from him. So he feels it should be the same for him. But his friend only hooks up with the woman a few times
thanks for letting me vent. sorry to hijack
First, his friend is full of shit. There is no way all those women are all getting off with him. I am sure that is not the case and honestly, he does not stick around long enough to really find out.
Their self worth is tied to their penises. He said it's big enough you should get off from it. But it's not always hard. And Ive never had an orgasm from intercourse!
Ditch this guy. And I’m not buying that besides the sex stuff he’s a great dude. I guarantee that with some distance you’ll realize the other 800 ways he is a jackass.
Their self worth is tied to their penises. He said it's big enough you should get off from it. But it's not always hard. And Ive never had an orgasm from intercourse!
HIs oral skills might be great because he has always had ED on some level. You never know, because given everything you have said about him, I am a bit shocked that he IS great at it all.
Their self worth is tied to their penises. He said it's big enough you should get off from it. But it's not always hard. And Ive never had an orgasm from intercourse!
HIs oral skills might be great because he has always had ED on some level. You never know, because given everything you have said about him, I am a bit shocked that he IS great at it all.
fingers too, but my hormones and sensitivity is not the same everytime. and sometimes I need to assist. but they take the need to assist personally.
He needs me to guarantee that 85 percent of the time or more I will not need to assist
HIs oral skills might be great because he has always had ED on some level. You never know, because given everything you have said about him, I am a bit shocked that he IS great at it all.
fingers too, but my hormones and sensitivity is not the same everytime. and sometimes I need to assist. but they take the need to assist personally
Agreed. It is ok. Why must they make everything about them??
This guy is 50 and is talking like this? If he was 25 I would chalk it up to youth, but clearly this guy IS A LOSER! Get rid of him pronto. And yeah...men around 50 have tendencies towards ED (not all of them, but a lot do) so if you really choose to stay with this guy, I think turnabout is fair play: shame him for his ED.
ETA: not that you should stay with him just to shame him, but seriously...ditch the dude.
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