Post by biblionerd on Jul 24, 2013 10:22:58 GMT -5
Ds used to take an earlier afternoon nap so got a snack before and lunch after. But he stays awake longer now so I make Fiona also. So now they both eat lunch first and s snack after they wake up before dinner. I was trying to shove WAY too much food in them in the evenings since they generally take longer naps.
So dh informs me that "do you realize that if they all move out when they're 18 or go to college or whatever, it's going to be a sad 3 or 4 years". Why does he think my pg hormones want to hear that?!? Jerk. I get total anxiety thinking about them growing up and me getting old(er). So at least I got him with "we'll if they're like you I'll have them until they're 30."
I'm jealous you all feel/felt fine. I feel like garbage all day long.
Don't feel bad. You're not alone. I felt like crap since pretty much I peed on a stick (which for me we know is like 8dpo). I'm STILL occasionally taking my zofran. Which of course means I can't poop for days afterwards. Being pg is so not glamorous.
Post by biblionerd on Jul 23, 2013 17:12:06 GMT -5
Ha, I'm so over the royal baby drama I assumed it was talking about that- so not into all the royal baby stuff, but is excited for the "real people" in their lives having babies.
As far as sending them to the nursery and BF'ing, they just brought them and woke me up every X hours (depending on how they were doing. First it started at 4 hours, but they both had problems so ended up every 2 hours). As far as help with twins, you will need it. They're not going to NOT help if that makes sense. That's what they're there for. With a c/s you won't physically (at least as far as I know) be able to care for both the day they are born by yourself. In my hospital they don't "forbid" it, but strongly discourage c/s mothers from rooming in the first 2 nights if they are alone. I was still physically unable to get up the first night. My hospital takes out the cath and you walk the second day. So they went to the nursery and they brought them back as needed. Sometimes I kept them in the room, but had to page them when they needed a diaper change. Even when I could get up lifting my 9lb babies out of the bassinet was too hard. I didn't feel up to taking care of either baby alone in the room by myself until day 3. I was just very sore though. I would personally call the hospital if your OB didn't give you a clear answer about whether you are required to room in and how they will handle a twin c/s when you're there alone. My hospital has what sounds like a similar setup. Ours is a "special care nursery", but it's not a NICU. They will still take the babies overnight though. I'm actually going to call and double check that nothing has changed before I have my c/s this time though!
I will say I get kind of uncomfortable around strong preference for one sex over the other because in my mind it means favoritism. That is just what I've seen from people who prefer one over the other. My SIL & BIL loudly let you know they want a girl. They had a son last time and favor their older daughter. I'm very sure if they'd had a girl last time they wouldn't be having a third. I hope they have a boy so their son won't notice his sisters being favored over him.
THIS! Ok, maybe I can see having a preference if you have 0 or 1 kid, but I've been absolutely shocked how many people asked me what I wanted to have. Like, the first question out of everyone's mouth in my family was "do you want a boy or a girl?". Um, I already have one of each, wouldn't that be like saying I preferred one over the other if I said I wanted a girl/boy? I mean, I could nitpick and say "a boy would be better because they're (usually) cheaper as they get older, or a girl would be better because I would like Fiona to have a sister like I did", but it just felt wrong. I just genuinely did not care this time.
Yeah, we're formula feeding from the start and I don't give a whoop about pacis so I fully intend on getting at least a good 7 hours straight. MAYBE 6 hours the first night if I'm feeling sappy.
It is really very freeing to decide to formula feed from the outset.
Oh my god yes. I swear I already feel so relieved. BF'ing (or the failure of) was so traumatizing for me both times.
I always get confused about those who want to send their newborn to the nursery. Then I remember my sleepy jaundice newborn is not the norm. WE had to wake HER the entire hospital stay and we were constantly battling to keep her awake by stripping her down and nudging her during every feeding.
Maybe I will need to utilize them next time.
But then I also get nervous sending them to the nursery due to not knowing what all goes down in there. I had strict orders that Pey didn't get a paci, yet she came back with a paci after her first check up and bath. Ugh.
Well, see, I didn't care about that.
Also, next time I am not going to wake my baby to eat unless he/she is underweight or it has been like 8 hours.
But regardless, I'm pretty sure the nurses can handle waking a baby to eat.
Yeah, we're formula feeding from the start and I don't give a whoop about pacis so I fully intend on getting at least a good 7 hours straight. MAYBE 6 hours the first night if I'm feeling sappy.
Post by biblionerd on Jul 22, 2013 20:04:29 GMT -5
My other confession. I haven't been eating dinner, or eating while I cook so I can go lay and bed and read and "take a break" while DH struggles with feeding the kids. I figure I cook all the meals, he can at least feed them.
There is a gorgeous new hospital in the town my ob is in. These hospitals have great food, great care, and are all around awesome. BUT, they make you room in. I won't deliver there because I don't want to room in. I sometimes think that makes me a terrible person.
Psh, screw that. We aren't rooming in this time. We kept linus with us the whole time. Then DS wasn't here at night, but I kind of had family coming and going and helping me at night so fiona was half in half in the nursery at night. But this time, she is going to the nursery at night. DH won't be here and I need to recover as much as I can for my kids at home. They don't even really have a "nursery" to send your kid to. It's a special care nursery, but they'll take them if you want.
Post by biblionerd on Jul 22, 2013 18:53:41 GMT -5
I'm sorry. That sucks. It should be an unspoken medical rule that ALL betas are rushed. I mean, is anyone really thinking "meh, I might get my beta today or tomorrow or the next day. Whatever." NO! Betas are an evil source of torture and they should come up with an immediate on the spot test.
Less invasive sounded good, no surgery for either of us. I'm really big on no hormones bc my body cannot handle them.
When are you girls getting it? I reaaaally hate to sound morbid.... But I want to make sure he doesn't die of SIDS.
No, I completely understand. This is one reason we weren't going to do permanent birth control, because well... it's happened. People get tubes tied, etc. and their baby passes away. Not saying that everyone would want to "replace" them obviously. It's just hard to word... Part of our timing will depend on my OB's assessment of my ute. We are 99% sure we only want 3 regardless. If she says my ute won't handle a 4th pg no matter what then I'll get it at 6 weeks pp. If she says there's some wiggle room/grey area/etc. then I'll wait a little longer. 6 months maybe? Not totally sure. But I don't think at this point that I'll want to go through this again regardless. My pgs are just getting harder and harder.