Post by biblionerd on Jul 31, 2013 16:31:42 GMT -5
Our realtor is coming Monday to take pics and our house should be listed Tuesday ::EEEK!:: We've never sold before. We're in a fairly small town and know the realtor is good, he's the one who sold it before, his commissions are reasonable, and we feel comfortable with him. But I feel like I have no idea what I'm supposed to be asking about the whole house selling process. I mean, I have some logistical questions about showings and my horses, etc. that are here, but I feel like I should have more questions instead of just saying "ok, here's my house, sell it". I think it's one of those things that I've never been through so don't know what I don't know if that makes sense? Help a newbie???
Post by biblionerd on Jul 31, 2013 16:09:59 GMT -5
So cute!! I think girl if those are the right parts. I definitely don't see anything sticking up like a boy nub would be. I've given up on all symptoms=boy/girl. I was convinced this one was a boy because I felt just like when I was pg with ds. I feel totally different than I did with dd.
Also, guys, for me having these two kids 17m apart is getting way easier than having only one. Edie is so active and just wants to PLAY PLAY PLAY and I have to do grown up things like cook dinner. I'm really happy that even at 16m, Adeline can be her buddy. And, thought they aren't garunteed to be BFFs, they will share a bond that no one else could possibly share with them. Not even me. Or their cousins. Or thier eventual partners if they find/choose to have them.
I know! I know I've said it before, but I almost feel guilty that it's so much easier in some ways now that there's 2. I mean, they still obviously need attention and do want me, but they play together a LOT. Built-in companions when it's too got or cold to go places. Even before she could/would play with him, just having the 2 in the room together made them happier when I would go do something. To me, it's not like you can take a bad, horrible day with 1 and then just double it and think that's how it will be with 2. It just doesn't feel that way, even when they're both grumpy. I don't know, does that make sense mooks? Plus you have another kid to stand there and make silly faces at the baby, go get blankets/bottles/pacis/toys/etc., give hugs, and all of this other little stuff that actually does help! Fiona was GRUMPY the other day and when she started crying Linus the little caregiver said "awwwwwwwww, c'mere Fiona, gimme kiss" and made her happy lol. It's just stuff like that that will ALWAYS make it worth it to me. There's zero way in my mind that the hard days outweigh the good days.
Post by biblionerd on Jul 31, 2013 13:35:11 GMT -5
If it's anything like when they're newborns it will be NOTHING! Linus had his done in the hospital on day 2 and the dr. said he literally didn't make a peep. He was actually in there doing 4 of them and it was insane how quick he came back and was done with all of them. I do admit, I love Linus' little heart shaped tongue.
ETA: Just wanted to add that there was really no reason we did it as a newborn over later, so I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting! The dr. said it really didn't matter either way and that it was so minor no matter which you do. We just kind of said "ok, I guess do it now" so we didn't really put that much thought into it lol. If I would have felt better waiting I would have and not felt bad about it!
I'm a believer in the saying "You never regret the children you have, only the ones you don't have."
This exactly for me too. And you have time to change your mind until you feel secure in your decision. I am very happy with two and so glad for them that as opposed to me they will be able to share their crazy patents when they and us are older. But as Devon said our lifestyle is not conducive to more than two so we are definitely done at this point.
this. I feel like I will never ever look back and regret the children I have, only those I didn't. Both of our moms wish they had had another and I just want to feel 100% done. After 1 I just didn't feel done. It just didn't feel right if that makes sense and we originally thought we would be 1 and done. See how much that changed lol.
i know I shouldn't say anything else, but I feel like this is part if what confuses me about your relationship/ trust with the drs. I'm NOT anti-bf'ing and I'm not saying that you should or should not EP or bf, but I truly do not think your dr is "attacking" bf'ing. Part of what I do get from your posts is that it seems you feel like its very me and bf'ing vs them. Since that's a very personal issue I can see why it's upsetting. But to your drs I really believe that clinically they think they are doing what's best. Bf'ing isn't their first line of "attack", it sounds like that's what they think makes the most sense given her history. If it were something so non-personal as bf'ing, like "we think she's allergic to wheat so stop feeding her anything with wheat in it" I don't think you would be so upset. I KNOW it's not the same, but to a dr they don't (or tend not to?) put emphasis on the personal side of things. Your bf'ing is clincal to them and nothing more, and to them it makes the most sense. I think that's why if you do t trust their opinion about the bf'ing being the first attempt then you should see someone else. If you don't trust their advice about the bf'ing then that's ok! It really is ok to not trust a drs plan or diagnosis. Sometimes you can talk to them and work through it from either side or someone's you just need a new dr who's more in line with you.
Post by biblionerd on Jul 30, 2013 15:03:30 GMT -5
Yes, I'm mobile so it's hard to keep up, but I thought you said/meant she was ftt right now. From what I read at first it sounded quite serious. I dont think you're not taking it seriously at all, so I hope I didn't seem that way.
That study I just read said that 92% of all cases labled FTT were environmental/situational. So I can see why a doc would want to hold off on invasive/painful testing until after the environment has been given a chance to change.
Eh, invasive and painful testing, sure. But there is lots of testing that can be done from simple labs. I don't consider a needle stick to rule out something that out of the ordinary.
At her 15month check up she did discuss lab work. But today after consulting with the other doc (outside of our room-I didn't hear any of it) they decided lab work was not necessary at this time.
That's bizarre. We had LOTS of FTT kids and babies in and the first thing that was a slew of testing to rule out any metabolic, thyroid, etc. issues. You definitely need a GI dr. before listening to them. I would personally want to make sure there was no underlying issues causing the FTT. A lot of times, also, kids came in to the hospital because it was quicker than getting in with a GI dr. honestly. For instance- you could schedule an appt on your own with a peds GI and the soonest you could get in would be 2 months or so. Come into the ER and you would see a peds GI and be admitted that day. KWIM? So it's not ALWAYS a worst of the worst severity type thing when they recommend going to the hospital. A lot of times it's just the quickest route to see a professional and get treatment quickly without having to go from appt to appt, here and there and seeing a bunch of different specialists. If that makes sense? But the fact that they said no testing, but talked about sending her to a hospital is so weird and really makes me feel that this is NOT their area of expertise really...
I don't think the pedi is saying she should give P WCM 8-10 times a day. I think she's saying nurse less/give less heavy drinks and then her body will make up for the caloric loss with food. Which will pave the way for her being a better eater. With the intention of her getting back on the charts with her weight so they can just move on and not further investigate the FTT.
Yeah, If she is wanting to only BF instead of eat, by cutting down on the actual boob time she will adapt and substitute (i.e. realize that food comes first) and gain calories from other foods.
Are there any foods she really likes? What are her favorite things? Maybe you can start giving her extra of those types of foods and go from there, while you slowly decrease the boob snacking time.
I think her number 1 favorite foods are blueberries and cheese. But when she wants boob she will refuse anything. So that tactic hasn't worked. I just nursed her at 10:30 when we got home and she already wants to nurse again. So I got up from the couch and she is chasing me around the house clawing at my legs and crying. But shakes her head and runs away if I offer solids.
youve said it numerous times like above- when she wants to bf she will refuse solids. unfortunately this seems like a very logical conclusion your drs made. It sucks but she really may thrive once she adjusts to ep'ing or whatever.
Post by biblionerd on Jul 30, 2013 10:04:42 GMT -5
I am so sorry you're going through this. I cant imagine how frustrating and lost you feel. I am not a medical professional, but worked on a GI unit in a children's hospital. A peds GI is who you need to speak with ASAP. They will work in conjunction with a nutritionist. I would not solely see a nutritionist and LC. They are obviously necessary to support whatever treatment plan you guys have or come up with, but with an actual FTT diagnosis you need to see a dr. I wouldn't even bother with a 2nd pedi opinion- just go straight to the GI. There are MANY reasons that can be causing ftt, aside from just snacking. Has she been tested or checked for any GI conditions or issues with malabsorption or anything g of the like? This is something that is to territory and is their expertise. You know you have an issue now, so all you can do is move on with it and stay strong!
The drs are not insulting you. I can't imagine how hard it is to sit and hear, but theyre trying to fix Peyton's issues. There is a difference between being small and ftt though. If they truly believe she is not thriving and is going to potentially suffer medically then it's their job to do all they can do to fix it. I'm not saying I agree with them though, just not to take it personally. I am NOT anti-bf'ing, BUT your overall feeding situation isn't working for her, and that's ok. It happens. But you just need to speak with someone else who can set you guys on a new path! She might need to be cut off the boob and you pump. If she's refusing food because she'd rather bf, then it could be causing an issue. There are MANY other ways to comfort her though. Do not feel like (if that happens and you EP or whatever) that you are depriving her of something. You've done great!
Post by biblionerd on Jul 29, 2013 23:09:04 GMT -5
You might not have to worry about it until later still. Linus is gigantic (hasn't been measured lately, but always 99th percentile for height) and can climb on everything, but has never once tried to climb out of his crib. To him it's just a place to sleep even thought he's a monkey on the couch, tables, high chair, etc. He's grown to like it, it seems. He wakes up and lines his security blankets and big blanket along the rail, lines his stuffed animals along the back, etc.
Post by biblionerd on Jul 29, 2013 23:03:10 GMT -5
I'm sorry. I'm not even going to admit when the last time I had a cleaning was. I am humiliated honestly. Let's just say it was before I was pg with any of the kids... <hides head in shame> I have found a new dentist and they were nice over the phone. I am getting a note from my OB at my next appt to ok dental xrays when I go in for my cleaning because I have some shit going on in there as well. I just don't even want to think about how many cavities I have, but it hurts. That's a really long time to wait to get in if you have an issue- a run of the mill cleaning I can understand, but did you let them know you have a problem as well? I would do all I can to get it done asap.