Can you not see her Sig? She has two kids under two and I'm sure not only would she like some help but lay overs and red eye flights are ducking horrible with babies.
Op - Can you explain that to your sister
there are two adults and two babies. how would a team of grandparents make this any easier?!
listen, i think the OP is being unreasonable and should've just handled this off-grid on her own, but come ON frkls. more responsible adults typically = easier.
listen, i think the OP is being unreasonable and should've just handled this off-grid on her own, but come ON frkls. more responsible adults typically = easier.
obviously, it's easier but it's not so much easier that you throw a free flight in the sister's face! you make do!
sure. but those are two separate issues.
question 1: is it easier to handle kids on a plane if you have more adults? answer 1: yes.
question 2: should someone call her sister and demand that flights that the sister paid for be moved without first trying to move them her damn self? answer 2: no.
Going solo is totally an option. I went by myself to my friend's wedding last year because tickets were too expensive to buy for the whole family. I didn't want to miss it because he is important to me.
This was what I said in the beginning, but I guess she really wants us all there.
Post by LeggsBenedict on Jan 12, 2013 14:55:46 GMT -5
to be fair, it would suck if they were seated separately since it's 4 of them. but really, two kids to two adults doesn't suck enough to cancel going to your sister's wedding.
although it sounds like the op doesn't even like her sister all that much, so maybe it does.
Post by 2boys2danes on Jan 12, 2013 14:57:56 GMT -5
Maybe I'm just undramatic but I'm missing what there is to be LIVID about here.....you have a lot of good options presented, surely one of them can work for you.
Post by sawyerthedestroyer on Jan 12, 2013 14:58:17 GMT -5
Look, I've flown with my toddler, had H there, and then SIL just happened to be on the same connecting flight with us, which gave us both a break. I get that having extra hands to help with the kiddos would be nice.
However, you didn't pay for the tickets so you don't get to choose what flights you get. You have the option to change your flight to make the trip easier on yourselves on your own dime. Either pony up the cash and change the flight or don't, but you should go to the wedding.
H and I paid for his sister and two nieces to come to our wedding OOS (for them) because otherwise they wouldn't have been able to come. Since we're not assholes we made the flights for reasonable hours and no huge layovers. Your sister is an asshole to book your return flight as a red eye & bad layovers knowing you have 2 kids under 3 IMO. Whether or not you're with your parents is eh though. It would be helpful/nice, but not required.
Um... well I think our own financial security SHOULD come before paying for a trip. We just wiped out a good chunk of our savings on a new furnace, new hot water heater and a new (to us) car. After we bought all that, she announced her wedding plans.
ah, i see. the wedding of your sister is a "trip." got it. not a major life event for your sibling and family.
you are allowed to say no to a destination wedding (and accept the familial fallout consequences), but you didn't say no. you said yes, let her pay for it, and then told her that her gift TO YOU for HER WEDDING wasn't good enough. unless she came into your house with a hammer and axe and broke both your furnace and water heater and then dropped a bomb on your old car necessitating a new one, i don't see how she's either responsible for your unfortunate financial situation, or how her generous offer TO FLY A FAMILY OF 4 TO HAWAII FOR A FREE VACATION/WEDDING was anything other than, um, generous.
not to mention that you could've just CHANGED THE TICKETS BY YOURSELF WITHOUT INVOLVING HER AT ALL.
Agh. I am being really bad at explaining this. I don't expect her to pay or even go through the footwork of changing them. I was mad because these were the flights I wanted in the first place, and she didn't get them because of a $50 dollar difference. If she had spoken to me before paying, I would have just paid the difference. And boom! Problem solved. Now I have a husband who didn't ever want to go complaining to me about the layover, and a sister that I've apparently inadvertently pissed off. I really wasn't trying to stress her out any further, I was only calling to get the info so I could see how to cancel the tickets.
obviously, it's easier but it's not so much easier that you throw a free flight in the sister's face! you make do!
sure. but those are two separate issues.
question 1: is it easier to handle kids on a plane if you have more adults? answer 1: yes.
question 2: should someone call her sister and demand that flights that the sister paid for be moved without first trying to move them her damn self? answer 2: no.
This. I think the op sounds like a dick about this, but I have a shitty relationship with my sister, so I can see her point. Sounds like the sister lied about the good flight being full and just booked the cheapest flight completely disregarding how challenging it is to travel with kids. Since everything my sister does pisses me off, this would make me mad too, but the op could have handled it better.
Look, everyone. I'm not really that mad about the red eye, I get it. The flight I would have chosen has one as well. I wasn't expecting her to pay extra to get premium tickets. It's not like I'm complaining that she didn't get us first class. I'm just saying it would have been nice for her to have checked with me before buying the cheapest possible tickets.
And yes, some of this is because she made my wedding planning pure hell. I thought I was over it, apparently not.
Look, everyone. I'm not really that mad about the red eye, I get it. The flight I would have chosen has one as well. I wasn't expecting her to pay extra to get premium tickets. It's not like I'm complaining that she didn't get us first class. I'm just saying it would have been nice for her to have checked with me before buying the cheapest possible tickets. And yes, some of this is because she made my wedding planning pure hell. I thought I was over it, apparently not.
Call the airline now and see how much it costs to change the flight to your parents flight. You will get charged a fee and the difference in the cost of the flight. You can't 'cancel' non-refundable tickets. You might get the cost of the ticket for another flight within a year or something but yeah thats about it.
I don't think I can do this, because our flight is with Delta, and my parents are with WestJet.
question 1: is it easier to handle kids on a plane if you have more adults? answer 1: yes.
question 2: should someone call her sister and demand that flights that the sister paid for be moved without first trying to move them her damn self? answer 2: no.
i think i conflated the op in with nadasteph's "can't you see all the babies in her sig?!?" post. yes, it's easier but i feel like the implication is that it's just not possible to fly with two babies and two adults to hawaii and that her sister should know that. c'mon
question 1: is it easier to handle kids on a plane if you have more adults? answer 1: yes.
question 2: should someone call her sister and demand that flights that the sister paid for be moved without first trying to move them her damn self? answer 2: no.
i think i conflated the op in with nadasteph's "can't you see all the babies in her sig?!?" post. yes, it's easier but i feel like the implication is that it's just not possible to fly with two babies and two adults to hawaii and that her sister should know that. c'mon
eta: i have typed and deleted this a hundred times because i know exactly how it sounds, but here you go: i have flown alone with both of my boys since ryan was a month old and jonah was three. not the same as having two super little ones, but i was alone. we still fly by ourselves all the time. it's doable
Lol. I honestly wasnt asking if she could see her Sig to be a dick. I was confused by lgw's question and was wondering if she was on the app and couldn't see that she has two small children.
Look, everyone. I'm not really that mad about the red eye, I get it. The flight I would have chosen has one as well. I wasn't expecting her to pay extra to get premium tickets. It's not like I'm complaining that she didn't get us first class. I'm just saying it would have been nice for her to have checked with me before buying the cheapest possible tickets. And yes, some of this is because she made my wedding planning pure hell. I thought I was over it, apparently not.
EW..this is gross.
Yeah, I'm just kind of blown away here. Like, I want to scream "FREE" " SHE'S PAYING FOR YOUR FAMILY OF 4". But yeah, anyways...