Be careful with you want to bring home to Canada... Hawaii has xray's that look at your baggage before security. They are looking for Agriculture type products.
Oh ok. Thank you! I don't think I would bring a plant or anything back, but I will make sure my H knows about it.
the dad story sounds fishy to me becase my dad, were he to think the same way, would put himself on the crap flight and me and my kid on the good flight. your dad is worried enough that you'll all die together, but doesn't mind making your travels hellacious?
Eh. He's always kind of been that way. He has really bad anxiety, and I think if he were to have the layover that we are going to have, he honestly wouldn't get back on the plane. It's a huge step for him to be going in the first place, so now that I know the reason I don't really mind having the worse flight. Plus, my parents bought their tickets quite a while ago, so they wouldn't want to change them.
You will just never get it. And EVEN if you didn't say any of this to your sister... go back and look at the subject of this post. You just FEELING this way is douchy and ungrateful. But no, because you were smart enough to keep your mouth shut about your ridiculous feelings, you totally get a pass.
I was looking for any way possible to make it easier on us. I'm really not looking forward to being on a red eye with a toddler who won't sleep unless he's in a bed.
I was looking for any way possible to make it easier on us. I'm really not looking forward to being on a red eye with a toddler who won't sleep unless he's in a bed.
Ok this is probably going to give you more flame for the fire, but I wouldn't expect them to help. But just by nature of being on the same flight, my mom would absolutely help us. As would yours, I'm sure. You're making it sound like I would just dump them off on my parents, and shut my eyes. You have no reason to believe me that I wouldn't do that, soooo IDK what else to say.
I have to say I agree with so many others. You never should have accepted her offer. She sounds like a nervous bride with a million things to do and listening to her sister complain about the plane tickets she bought you is probably pissing her off and rightfully so. When I wanted to do a desitnation wedding my sister told me that she wasn't going to be able to attend. He daughter was little and her husband travelled all the time. I wanted her there so I did another wedding closer to home.
I feel like you should have been honest with your sister about the destination wedding and maybe you were. but she offfered to pay and you are still bitching about it. She wants you there enough to pay for your tickets. it sounds to me you don't want to go and you are too much of a wimp to just say NO I am not going. But you are stuck now because she bought non refundable tickets. I am sorry I don't want to sound harsh but that is how I see it
I know you're trying to come off all cool as a cucumber, but if your sister was worried about telling you the real reason she didn't put you on the same flights (which has nothing to do with you or your kids), I suspect you are more sensitive and reactionary than you think you are.
As is she, since she was using some old fashioned ass reasoning and has super thin skin given her reasoning on not being in your wedding.
I probably can be sensitive at times, I'm still going through PPD/PPA. She said that she didn't want to make me worry about my dad saying he didn't want us to all die together. As to her reasoning about my wedding, her bf had broken up with her two months before my engagement, and she was still upset about it. I fully admit it, we're not the most functional family.
You will just never get it. And EVEN if you didn't say any of this to your sister... go back and look at the subject of this post. You just FEELING this way is douchy and ungrateful. But no, because you were smart enough to keep your mouth shut about your ridiculous feelings, you totally get a pass.
Carry on.
You've never felt something, then had some time to calm down and then were like...dang you're being ridiculous. I've already said it was hyperbole, I was never actually livid.
Ok this is probably going to give you more flame for the fire, but I wouldn't expect them to help. But just by nature of being on the same flight, my mom would absolutely help us. As would yours, I'm sure. You're making it sound like I would just dump them off on my parents, and shut my eyes. You have no reason to believe me that I wouldn't do that, soooo IDK what else to say.
And we are back to entitled.
Helping care for a toddler on a plane is pain in the ass. I've been on a flight to Hawaii where my ILs took a different plane so they didn't have to be near my kid. I completely understood and was thankful we didn't bother them.
Ok this is probably going to give you more flame for the fire, but I wouldn't expect them to help. But just by nature of being on the same flight, my mom would absolutely help us. As would yours, I'm sure. You're making it sound like I would just dump them off on my parents, and shut my eyes. You have no reason to believe me that I wouldn't do that, soooo IDK what else to say.
And we are back to entitled.
Helping care for a toddler on a plane is pain in the ass. I've been on a flight to Hawaii where my ILs took a different plane so they didn't have to be near my kid. I completely understood and was thankful we didn't bother them.
One more thing, way back when we were first looking at flights, before we realised we wouldn't be afford it, my mom was the one who suggested we go on the same flight. So she could help us. Although, you're probably going to twist that into me somehow pressuring her, so I don't know why I've even added it.
So your mom wanted to help with the kids and your dad didn't want to deal with them. I think you'll survive.
No shit. I already said I was fine with the flight. The only reason I was upset in the OP was because she lied and I thought (very incorrectly and it was bitchy of me) that it was because she didn't want to pay the extra money.
I think you've taken your flaming rather well, jenmegs.
I hope things work out for you and your sister.
lol. Thank you. I tried. I think things will be fine with us, she just called me and asked if I was free to go dress shopping in a couple weeks. Nobody is upset or even *gasp* livid any more.
I can't say I'd react in the same way as you did (or handle the aftermath similarly), but I do applaud you for returning to the board and fielding questions.
My mom wouldn't let me drive around with my sisters or brother when I was first driving because she didn't want to lose more than one of us. I get you on the crazy family thing.
And I'd give your sister a break on the MOH thing. That ship has sailed. I did some petty stupid shit when I was 24. It's nice you are throwing the AH reception. Have fun in Hawaii.