OMG I am so so sorry. I had a similar experience with XH staying out all night and sending my calls to VM. I didn't try to find him because I was puking from food poisoning all night.
Please take care and be kind to yourself. Rally your troops and let them support you. You will get through this. You don't deserve this and he is a goddamned shit pig.
Ooglie, I am so sorry you are going through this. You have gotten (some) great advice from other posters that I hope you take to heart like leaning on loved ones and taking care of yourself.
I am so sorry. Coming from a voice of experience, do what you need to do (just don't go against legal advice or the advice of cooler heads of your friends and loved ones during the moments yours is not so cool). Take a time out, bawl your eyes out, lean on your sister (thank goodness she's there) and do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel better and able to walk head high knowing you will get to something much better. Just, for now, do it in the privacy of your home and with close, loved ones who are there to love and support you through this. Us included if it comes down to it. Nobody deserves to be put through how he's treated you. I am so sorry.
ooglie, i'm so sorry. lean on others for support and don't make any rash decisions. when/if you're ready, come see us on starting over, no matter what you decide moving forward. a lot of us have been in similar situations. hugs to you.
Post by Captain Serious on Dec 5, 2014 13:27:17 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. What he did was absolutely inexcusable, making you worry all night on top of everything. Be kind to yourself as you sort out you feelings and then your future.
Ooglie i am so sorry!! I feel awful for you. I just saw this, and i can't believe what a jerk he is. He just lost the best thing that ever happened to him. You are strong and will get through this. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but you will.
As you know, unfortunately, i can relate. It was incredibly hard, but i think i am a stronger person for it. What he did was a total shitbag thing to do, but really, he did you a favor just like my ex did.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
I am so sorry to hear that awful update. As others have said be kind, don't do anything that will come back to bite you later.
You were strong at the get go, and when you feel like waffling when he begs for forgiveness, remember the trashy douche NAKED WITH YOUR HUSBAND IN A MOTEL WITH YOUR TRUCK and how he had no worries about you being worried sick about you! Once a cheater always a cheater sometime down the road. Get your ducks in a row, copy all legal documents needed, lean on friends and family and just get a clear head and move forward legally. No sense in getting your self in a heap of legal issues by draining accts, throwing clothes out etc. ( BTW I would take enough to start over if you choose leave the house and to live on and pay a lawyer) it just isn't worth it. Get tested.
As much as it would feel better to tell the OW's family it really doesn't do much good. She will get hers I am sure and her husband probably was wondering where his wife was all night too. So she is in no way out of the woods. That is not something you need to worry about it will not help your situation any.
Just know you aren't at fault, and be good to you. Stranger hugs coming your way and good thoughts of a lot of strength and clarity as well. I have been where you are literally and just CYA. Thinking of you
Holy hell. I am so sorry he put you through that. We're here for you even if we act a little out of our damn minds sometimes. As hard as it's going to be, try not to make any rash decisions when it comes to property, money, etc....see a lawyer as soon as you can to find out what your rights are and what you can do to protect yourself.
Also, I will set his truck on fire for you if you want. And it's not me being a hopped up ML vigilante because this is how I always am, so it's totally cool.
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I wanted to go full Nugget on him...but also didn't want to be arrested. I'm not as quick on my feet as you are.
Wow, I'm so sorry to see how this unfolded. My STBX cheated and was a disgusting pig. I gave him way too many chances. You seem to be making good strong decisions from the get go. I'm so sorry. Please PM me of you ever need to talk.
Post by jennistarr1 on Dec 5, 2014 14:13:55 GMT -5
I just can't figure out how he expected all of this to play out...I mean an over night thing in a hotel is quite a step even in an affair. At some point he was going to have to come home and face the music.
Post by buffyasummers on Dec 5, 2014 14:24:30 GMT -5
I have so much rage for you right now. I know that feeling of worry and to find out it was because of THIS....You are an amazing woman, because the amount of strength you are exhibiting is unreal. So many hugs, thoughts and prayers going out to you. I hope his dick blisters up and falls off.