ask me where my husband is. just ask me.

[TamiTaylor]

Mar 29, 2016 18:51:40 GMT -5 Dig Ophelia said:

Mar 29, 2016 18:48:58 GMT -5 capscapscaps said:

I am sitting in the parking lot at Target too mad to get my damn potatoes after reading this bullshit. Too mad to Target. You tell your dumbfuck husband he's making people too goddamn mad to Target, that's how stupid his life choices are.

I don't think I've ever been that mad in my entire life.  Is this why I have no money??

I know! When I'm mad, I go to Target.

[lilafowler]

[Deleted]

Mar 29, 2016 19:24:19 GMT -5 flex said:

The situation reminds me of the poster whose H had a "friend" who gave him personal gifts and created a rift in the marriage. Then he invited her over for breakfast or some shit. Who was that ML'er?

At any rate, I'd be so incredibly hurt if that was my H. How much do you want to bet the "friend" has made you a topic of their conversation? "Dude, what's wrong with your wife?" "Dude, I don't know. I think she's cray-cray, bro."

ITS ME! and yes... rift is an understatement.  We are separated and he moved out. And all the while I am reading this my blood is boiling bc my h did the same fucking shit. He put HER feelings above mine. Just as is happening with FRKLS

[lilafowler]

[BaliHai]

I'm just really sorry to read all of this, frkls. I don't know what else to say.

[flex]

Mar 29, 2016 20:05:54 GMT -5 @sloanpeterson said:

Mar 29, 2016 19:24:19 GMT -5 flex said:

The situation reminds me of the poster whose H had a "friend" who gave him personal gifts and created a rift in the marriage. Then he invited her over for breakfast or some shit. Who was that ML'er?

At any rate, I'd be so incredibly hurt if that was my H. How much do you want to bet the "friend" has made you a topic of their conversation? "Dude, what's wrong with your wife?" "Dude, I don't know. I think she's cray-cray, bro."

ITS ME! and yes... rift is an understatement.  We are separated and he moved out. And all the while I am reading this my blood is boiling bc my h did the same fucking shit. He put HER feelings above mine. Just as is happening with FRKLS

Agreed!  And thank you for replying to my inquiry.  I know this has  been a tough time for you.

[Deleted]

Mar 29, 2016 19:45:51 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

flex , I was thinking about her too. She was fucking irate, and we were irate for her. She made her husband leave and they are now living apart. And with no disrespect to her, in my mind, this is almost worse.

Frkls, I'm in awe that you have any sense of calm and rationality in your body right now. I don't want to dislike your husband - I know you love him - but fuck. This is ridiculous.

Yup its me and this post is making my blood boil bc its the SAME FRIGGEN thing. 

boundaries overstepped, caused me so much grief and pain, H took friends side and not mine... its all way too close to my situation and honestly it was a deal breaker for me

[MixedBerryJam]

Mar 29, 2016 18:20:18 GMT -5 frkls said:

the guy texted me today because i had an appointment with my therapist last night and he wanted to know if my therapist still thought it was necessary for us to stay away from each other (eta: because what ANYBODY BUT ME thinks is important is all tha tmatters). i was pissed and responded, "what difference does it make what she said? you don't do it anyway"

This actual gave me goosebumps. He knows when your therapist appointment is? And texts you about it? This is not how "stay the fuck away from me, loser" works. I'm sorry you have such an asswipe in your life.

[MixedBerryJam]

Mar 29, 2016 18:34:27 GMT -5 frkls said:

Mar 29, 2016 18:32:40 GMT -5 @licia said:

For real. Involve the police. Anything but a goddamn iron curtain is inviting this dude back into your lives. Just cut him off and move on.

my current issue is that dh WANTS to hang out with him

This also makes me sick to my stomach. Having read further (I'm still only on page 2) do I understand correctly that your H told him about the therapy appointment. Given this history, I'm not sure I'd be able to forgive that. And I'm really not big on ultimatums (ultimata?) if there was ever an "it's him or me" situation, this is fucking IT. 

[pugz]

frkls if he doesn't get it, time to get his ass in therapy, and if he still doesn't get it then? It's time to make an exit plan. He has put you through so much between his job drama, frequent moves, health issues, etc. You guys need to be a team and this is not team behavior.

You both need to cut this guy off and that means blocking his numbers, and if he comes to your house, you tell him to leave your property immediately and if he won't, you call the police. This is not a restraining order situation yet, but if this dude gets crazier after you truly cut him off, it might be.

[pugz]

but really he should be in therapy himself because he does not understand the basics of boundaries and that will destroy a marriage so damn fast.

[Eagles]

I mean, I'm with 05heel here. On everything. I once calmly threatened to get the biggest knife in my kitchen, cut his head off, and drive around town with it on my antenna as a warning to those who would fuck with me.

He knows better than to cross me.

[knx9211]

Mar 29, 2016 20:35:52 GMT -5 Eagles said:

I mean, I'm with 05heel here. On everything. I once calmly threatened to get the biggest knife in my kitchen, cut his head off, and drive around town with it on my antenna as a warning to those who would fuck with me.

He knows better than to cross me.

This is amazing and I hope we stay friends forever and you never get mad at me because this is scary.

[Deleted]

Mar 29, 2016 20:25:10 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

Mar 29, 2016 20:12:35 GMT -5 @sloanpeterson said:

Yup its me and this post is making my blood boil bc its the SAME FRIGGEN thing. 

boundaries overstepped, caused me so much grief and pain, H took friends side and not mine... its all way too close to my situation and honestly it was a deal breaker for me

I knew it was you. I just didn't want to name you if you didn't want to self-identify. 

Ugh, so frustrating. 

Thx Rex (heart)

[demofea01]

Mar 29, 2016 19:51:11 GMT -5 frkls said:

Mar 29, 2016 19:45:51 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

flex , I was thinking about her too. She was fucking irate, and we were irate for her. She made her husband leave and they are now living apart. And with no disrespect to her, in my mind, this is almost worse.

Frkls, I'm in awe that you have any sense of calm and rationality in your body right now. I don't want to dislike your husband - I know you love him - but fuck. This is ridiculous.

i'm calm now because i'm 100000000000% positive that he is going to be shocked that i'm upset.  he's stupid, but he would never do this to me on purpose.  i should have told him before he went that i hated it. 

What? No. No no no. No human on the face of this earth is this fucking stupid. He knows EXACTLY what he is doing, and he deserves exactly what he gets from his actions. You told him two seconds ago that you were pissed and upset by Broiler Bunny's actions. HE WAS UPSET TOO. Until it came down to picking between some crazy ass stalker mother fucker and his wife. He didn't pick you. You have every right to light him up when he gets home from this weird ass bro date with someone who is actively tormenting you.

[killercupcake]

This is insanity.

H and I had one fight when we were first married that involved me screaming at the top of my lungs. Like, high pitched, arms flailing, lost my voice from screaming fight.

This is one of those instances where it would be completely okay for you to do the same.

I'm sorry frkls.

[Eagles]

Mar 29, 2016 20:39:06 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

Mar 29, 2016 20:35:52 GMT -5 Eagles said:

I mean, I'm with 05heel here. On everything. I once calmly threatened to get the biggest knife in my kitchen, cut his head off, and drive around town with it on my antenna as a warning to those who would fuck with me.

He knows better than to cross me.

This is amazing and I hope we stay friends forever and you never get mad at me because this is scary.

I will always love you.

[flex]

It's one thing to want to murder your H because of an argument--I mean THAT'S LIFE, but hanging out with a guy who has been harassing you??--there are no words for how hurtful that is. I mean C'MON!!

[Eagles]

Mar 29, 2016 20:41:12 GMT -5 @natariru said:

Mar 29, 2016 20:35:52 GMT -5 Eagles said:

I mean, I'm with 05heel here. On everything. I once calmly threatened to get the biggest knife in my kitchen, cut his head off, and drive around town with it on my antenna as a warning to those who would fuck with me.

He knows better than to cross me.

I love this and will be using it next time my H pisses me off. Which will probably be within the next 24 hours.

Enjoy it.

[Eagles]

Mar 29, 2016 20:38:44 GMT -5 @stilljustash said:

ditto to all the PPs saying of fucking COURSE he knows this is upsetting you.

he TOLD stalker guy that your therapist says you guys should stay away from him. he is no fool.

we all need to stop saying he "doesn't understand". HE UNDERSTANDS. he is choosing to be a selfish dickhole, and i move to put his ass-kicking to a vote! any takers??

I'm always in to kick a foolish person's ass.

[hisno1girl]

Mar 29, 2016 20:35:52 GMT -5 Eagles said:

I mean, I'm with 05heel here. On everything. I once calmly threatened to get the biggest knife in my kitchen, cut his head off, and drive around town with it on my antenna as a warning to those who would fuck with me.

He knows better than to cross me.

I'm getting this printed on a shirt!

[LeggsBenedict]

eagles told that story to me at lunch and then she just stared at me and sipped her water until I cried.

[Eagles]

Mar 29, 2016 21:08:51 GMT -5 LeggsBenedict said:

eagles told that story to me at lunch and then she just stared at me and sipped her water until I cried.

I can't stop laughing. I was going to Anne Boleyn that motherfucker. I don't even remember the offense, but I'm certain it was grievous.

[tictac]

Mar 29, 2016 21:18:07 GMT -5 @licia said:

Mar 29, 2016 21:03:54 GMT -5 mofongo said:

A GUY THAT HE WAS ACCUSED OF...THINGS WITH!!! I mean, it's not so confusing anymore, is it?? I'll be an asshole here.

Yeah. I appreciate your willingness to be an asshole, because those past accusations have been clouding what I'm reading. The devotion to this relationship is totally unseemly.

Even without the full context of their past with this dude, I still think this is a "BURN IT DOWN!!!!" situation, because  her H should just know why being friends with him is a bad idea.

WITH the context we've previously been given?

[Eagles]

In all seriousness, frkls, if your H doesn't know that this is beyond the pale, I'm not sure what to tell you. The way I see it is that H and I are a team, when it comes down to it. I need to know that we can stand back to back like Jane and John Smith shooting people in a super Target, you know? And this is him not covering your back. This is him doing what he wants to do and hanging you out to dry.

[pretzel]

I know you don't want to hear DTMFA, but I really would seriously consider it.

Sorrynotsorry.

[FastHands]

I 100% echo Eagles on the point about being on the same team. I don't see the point in spending my life with someone if we aren't a team. And this shit is NOT being a fucking team player. JFC.

[W.T.Faulkner]

There is no remaining calm here. Your husband chose a side. It is now time to make him extraordinarily uncomfortable, perhaps as uncomfortable as his FUCKING FRIEND MADE YOU FEEL SO THAT YOU ARE IN MOTHERFUCKING THERAPY.

Honestly, frkls, there is no reason to be calm and rational when you talk to him about this. He threw logic out the fucking window when he decided to hang out with someone who has harassed you, and then readily disclosed information about your mental health to this fucking person.

No amount of spinning this story would absolve him of this, even if he feigns stupidity - and, you know what? If he really is this stupid, that's just as bad. 

Mr. Frkls deserves his head on a goddamn pike for this and if he is anything but apologetic, that's your cue for him to sleep somewhere else until he finds the appropriate mechanical tools to extract his head from his ass.

[cleo29]

OK, honestly? I think your H is a selfish man. And, I don't mean in just this situation, but in so many things. Not wanting to face and deal with his serious health issues, moving you all willy nilly with little thought to you and the kids, hanging out with a man who scares and upsets his wife. It is all about him. Maybe it is hard to see that or accept it, but please do not make excuses for things that are inexcusable. And honestly, nothing he says to explain tonight should be good enough. It will all be one big pile of shit.

I also want to give you a hug.

[sugarbear]

I don't believe for a second that your H is dumb enough to think telling this asshat about your therapy appointment is an ok thing to do. Come on. That's my bar for "completely fucked up." Beyond that is just inexcusable.

I'm sorry.