Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Apr 17, 2016 10:40:19 GMT -5
Kevin just left in a huff because there was a leak in the ceiling and I guess I didn't jump up to help him. Because I was feeding the baby. I hope he never comes back
He was pissed off all night because I asked him to go to a paint party with Lucy so I could go to a lunch with friends I'd had set up for months. He pouted the whole night and basically ruined everyone's night at his sisters house. So I canceled my plans so I could take Lucy. He said it was a lose-lose situation and he felt like a dick. Because apparently spending time with your daughter is a lose.
The children are my problem to him, and I am his maid/cook/make his life easy person.
I'm so stuck because we only have one shitty car. I need one to get between schools. Fuck.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I actually hope his leaving makes life easier for you. I'm sorry he is being a jerk. Makes me wonder what his sister thought of his behavior and hope Lucy didn't notice it.
Dude fuck him. I'm sorry but you have been holding this family together for too long. I would tell him to not come home period. Easy as that. Home is where the family lives and if he doesn't want to be part of the family he can stay away. Go move your money into your own account, change the locks and embrace uber.
Don't apologize, we are here to listen. I'm so sorry he is being such a douche. I think it is time to start working on a plan to leave. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. ((Hugs))
Dude fuck him. I'm sorry but you have been holding this family together for too long. I would tell him to not come home period. Easy as that. Home is where the family lives and if he doesn't want to be part of the family he can stay away. Go move your money into your own account, change the locks and embrace uber.
Ditto this. He's an asshole. You deserve so much better for you and your kids. I know it is hard, trust me, I know. Huge hugs, friend.
Post by MixedBerryJam on Apr 17, 2016 10:58:28 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. You and your kids don't deserve this. Lose-lose my fucking ass. I know everyone's suggesting you uber/zipcar, etc., but can HE carpool with a coworker?
Have you talked to a lawyer? That should be first. There may be something you can put in the separation to make only one car his problem. (Like what do you do now?)
Friends with the kids the same age? If you were my friend and you let me know I'd help you with pick up/ drop off if I could. I'd just need to know.
Post by thedutchgirl on Apr 17, 2016 11:09:40 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you have to deal with such an ass. Don't ever apologize for talking about what you are going through. Everyone here is happy to listen and be a sounding board.
As others have said, work on that exit plan and protecting yourself and the kids.
Post by lovelyshoes on Apr 17, 2016 11:11:54 GMT -5
Talk to a lawyer asap and get a plan set up. You can talk to us anytime. Do what's right for you and your babies. You are strong, so strong and you deserve happiness and peace. Let us know if we can help in any way.
And maybe it's time to get his family involved. His sister saw how he acted. She can't be OK with that. Maybe they can help out with rides.