I'm done, that's it

[Kristinmo]

I'm so sorry.

[spitforspat]

(((Profart))) I'm sorry. We're here for you.

[gretchenindisguise]

Can we help you by funding Uber rides?

[circa1978]

Hugs.

[rachel6789]

I'm so sorry.

[vicky]

I'm sorry, boo.
Could you borrow your mom's car for a bit, just til you have a plan set?

[rex]

do not apologize, we are here for you and you need to share.

you are right, you and your kids deserve much better.

[Champagne Supernova]

What a fucking ass.

I'm sorry. You deserve better. OMG, I want to punch him.

[anlo]

I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

[fuckyourcouch]

I am so sorry, all the hugs.
You absolutely deserve better.

[nicbreeful]

I'm sorry, ProFart.. I hope you do tell King Douche to stay out wherever he is.

I really want to just kick him in his stupid head.

[mrsukyankee]

You deserve so much better. He just doesn't get it. And he should feel like an ass because he is one. Please come on here any time to vent. That's what we're here for.

[isabel]

You don't deserve this and we'll keep telling you that for as long as you need. Keep venting and using us as a sounding board. I am so sorry things have ended up this way and I hope you're able to find resolution that makes you happy.

And what on earth were the lose-lose scenarios in his mind???

[pumpkin]

Im so sorry!
Don't feel bad about venting.

[jezebel]

I'm so sorry. You and the kids deserve so much better.

[noradog]

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this right now. I wish you and your family peace and grace.

[nancybotwin]

You are an amazing person. If Lucy was in a marriage like yours, what would you tell her to do? Use her to find your strength - and we will all support you for however long you want to vent here.

[jeaniebueller]

I am so sorry. He is ridiculous.

[gogadgetgo]

Hugs and love. And all the support you need

[TR]

I'm so sorry, you deserve better and so do your kids. Post here as much as you want!

[muffin0]

Apr 17, 2016 11:05:34 GMT -5 cville said:

I am so sorry he refuses to change to your and your children's detriment. You are amazing. This is 100% his loss.

Protect yourself and your assets. Kick ass, take names.

Never apologize for seeking help or venting here. Or for wanting your husband and the father of your children to act like a husband and father.

I read this post and read the first sentence, and liked the post.

I read the second sentence and tried to "re-like" the post

Got to the third sentence and almost clicked it again. 

As always, cville is wise! 

[Deleted]

He's an asshole and you and your children deserve better.

He also sounds like someone who will be vindictive and manipulating in a separation and divorce. I think you need to prepare for war.

TODAY you need to do the following things:
- log on to all accounts and screenshot account balances. Save these in a Dropbox file that he doesn't know about.
- consider moving some money into an account that only you have access to.
- leave messages with attorneys for a consultation about your rights as a primary caregiver and dependent spouse.
- make a copy of all important documents and save it somewhere you don't know about.

You may wind up not ending things today or tomorrow, but having these things in order will make you feel less stuck.

I'm sorry if my post comes off as "bossy" or unsupportive. I tend towards action rather when stressed. Do you have local family and friends you can lean on?

[Deleted]

Can you just keep the car? He can zip somewhere.

[katiescarlett]

I'm sorry he sucks. Hugs.

[ErinExpat]

Youve gotten some excellent advice. We are here for you.

[mom2twoboys]

I'm sorry that you are going through this, but I hope this is enough for you to know you are worth more than what he treats you. You are amazing and will realize this once he is gone. I am so sorry about this though.

[wannabe]

You absolutely deserve better. I'm sorry.

[Deleted]

I am so sorry. As someone who has gone through feeling like this most recently pls pm me any time you want to talk.

But I can say that based on what you post he sounds like he doesn't value you, respect you and isn't a good partner. You don't need that and deserve better.

HUGS

[fluffernutter]

Hugs to you and the littles!

[mountaingirl]

I'm sorry. I know you have been dealing with his bs for a long time. There is some great advice given here.