I'm sorry he's such a dick, so much of what you share reminds me of how my xh was and I am thankful everyday that I don't have to deal with his bullshit anymore. Parenting is 110% easier without him around anyway. Hugs to you x
Post by walterismydog on Apr 17, 2016 16:57:53 GMT -5
You've gotten some excellent advice here and I know you are a STRONG, AMAZING, POWERFUL WOMAN. You will be a-ok. If there is anything I can do, I will.
Wishing you all the love, light, and strength in the world. I'm so disappointed in K.
Sometimes the best gift you can give a child is to divorce the person who is not treating his or her spouse or his or her children in the right way.
We can help you with logistics and planning. What is important is making the decision that you are worth more than this. ❤️
as a child of divorce- I couldn't agree more with this. I am so grateful my mom pulled the trigger and divorced my dad. My life was so much calmer and happier. As a grown woman, it has given me strength to make some big, hard decisions I might not have, if it weren't for having her example. Hugs to you.
Me, three. My parents' divorce was final the day before my 12th birthday, and I have often referred to it as the best birthday present ever.
as a child of divorce- I couldn't agree more with this. I am so grateful my mom pulled the trigger and divorced my dad. My life was so much calmer and happier. As a grown woman, it has given me strength to make some big, hard decisions I might not have, if it weren't for having her example. Hugs to you.
Me, three. My parents' divorce was final the day before my 12th birthday, and I have often referred to it as the best birthday present ever.
H and I both are children of divorced parents and we are both incredibly grateful our moms recognized our dads were not good enough.
Post by nicbreeful on Apr 17, 2016 19:14:20 GMT -5
As a child whose parents stuck it out until I was 25, even though they were miserable and should've divorced.. DONT STICK IT OUT FOR THE KIDS.
Not only do I feel like it was harder the older I was, I have a lot of guilt that my parents stayed together "for the child" So many years they were unhappy because of me.
Their misery made me miserable when I was growing up.
Sometimes the best gift you can give a child is to divorce the person who is not treating his or her spouse or his or her children in the right way.
We can help you with logistics and planning. What is important is making the decision that you are worth more than this. ❤️
I so agree with this. The best thing my Mom did was say this is not OK and divorce my dad wen his shit got to be too much. I wish she had done it sooner. She also went on to find real love and partnership. She and my StepDad have been together for almost 25 yrs now and their relationship is wonderful to see.
Post by cuddlyevil on Apr 17, 2016 21:05:06 GMT -5
And I didn't say it before, but I was in a similar marriage. I will tell you what my Dad told me when I told him we were splitting up: "It must be a relief for you. I mean, I know it's not going to lessen your workload but you won't have the stress of being the only person maintaining your marriage." He was right, my stress levels went way down.
Huge hugs. I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope things work out where you do come up to NYC for vickys car. I would love to see you again and have brunch. There is so much great advice in this thread. You deserve peace and happiness. What an awful time for your H to pull this bullshit.