Post by sapphireblue on Apr 17, 2016 12:11:43 GMT -5
Your posts remind me of the situation I was in with my exH.
When we broke up I felt such relief. I hadn't realized how much I was walking on eggshells around him because it happened gradually. He isn't a terrible person but he was a crappy husband.
I want you to know that you are amazing. You're smart, funny, loving, warm, generous, engaging, and beautiful inside and out. He is a turd. Please let me know if I can help with anything at all. Anything.
Ok girlfriend. What do you need? What can we provide to make this easier. Warning, haven't read the whole thread, so if someone has thrown something out there, someone give me a heads up.
I wish I wasn't past the point of flying. I would literally fly up and help for a weekend.
I hate that you are dealing with this. Because you are amazing, and kind, and loving, and a fantastic momma and you don't deserve this.
Ok girlfriend. What do you need? What can we provide to make this easier. Warning, haven't read the whole thread, so if someone has thrown something out there, someone give me a heads up.
I wish I wasn't past the point of flying. I would literally fly up and help for a weekend.
I hate that you are dealing with this. Because you are amazing, and kind, and loving, and a fantastic momma and you don't deserve this.
Yes! Please tell us what we can do. I wish I had an extra car for you. Does uber do gift cards?
He's such an asshole. Jesus. I feel so sad for you and for Lucy, who I'm sure could absolutely tell that her dad didn't want to spend time with her. You all deserve so much better than that.
Ok girlfriend. What do you need? What can we provide to make this easier. Warning, haven't read the whole thread, so if someone has thrown something out there, someone give me a heads up.
I wish I wasn't past the point of flying. I would literally fly up and help for a weekend.
I hate that you are dealing with this. Because you are amazing, and kind, and loving, and a fantastic momma and you don't deserve this.
Yes! Please tell us what we can do. I wish I had an extra car for you. Does uber do gift cards?
And I'm sorry to once again clog the board with my drama but I can't talk about this in real life right now
So many hugs.
I just want to say, we are here for you and feel free to vent anytime. But I think your family would want to know what's happening. They likely already know more than you give them credit for, given that your husband seems to never hide his true nature. You might find it a relief to share, and have some in-person support.
At this point in the relationship, it sounds like the most valuable thing that you're losing by leaving is a crappy car that you don't even want to drive. He's not been physically, mentally, or emotionally valuable to you in a long time, at least from what you've posted.
I hope you find peace and strength as you make some big decisions. Please don't ever apologize again for posting anything here. We are a community. We support each other. You've been a part of this supportive community for a LONG time, and now it's time for us to help you.
so many hugs. listen, i talked to h and he gets 2 or 3 of these "family and friends" PIN numbers a year for a new car. if you want it, it's all yours! i'll come meet you and entertain your kids and everything.
I have a car in NYC that I am not using. I'm going to call Geico and find out about loaning it and liability.
My H just set all this up for my sister with my old car. I'm not sure the details but if you have any trouble let me know and I'll ask him exactly what he had to do.
Post by regencygirl on Apr 17, 2016 13:16:03 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure we're in the same general area of Philly. If you need a place to go, someone to watch kids or whatever please feel free to PM me. I also know a good divorce lawyer in the city that friends have used.
If you prefer more drastic action, I know all the good spots in a local park and was once offered use of a back-hoe from a park ranger when someone pissed me off at a day camp I run. I'm sure the offer still stands.
dude! if you go to NYC for vicky's car, we can roadtrip up and stay with my parents. my parents would DIE of excitment!!!
eta: i know i sound hella weird and pushy and all up in your grill. i just hate the idea of you doing any of this by yourself and i just like you so darn much.