dude! if you go to NYC for vicky's car, we can roadtrip up and stay with my parents. my parents would DIE of excitment!!!
eta: i know i sound hella weird and pushy and all up in your grill. i just hate the idea of you doing any of this by yourself and i just like you so darn much.
You have been single handedly holding your family together for a very long time. You deserve so much more. Im sorry he can't see how lucky he is to have you and the kids.
dude! if you go to NYC for vicky's car, we can roadtrip up and stay with my parents. my parents would DIE of excitment!!!
eta: i know i sound hella weird and pushy and all up in your grill. Â i just hate the idea of you doing any of this by yourself and i just like you so darn much. Â
Oh poor Lucy and your littlest man. My heart goes to you guys & I'm really glad that you have Lucy in therapy. It will be good that she will have another adult she can trust + vent to.
I'm an hour outside of Philly and NYC. I'm in that bubble of NJ, if you guys need anything..let me know. ProfArt, my god the strength you have leaves me in awe. Do not hesitate to lean on the community for venting, support, etc.
Post by nicbreeful on Apr 17, 2016 14:13:45 GMT -5
Also, if you and frkls do come up, I've been to Vick's house/met her sister. I'll go with you guys to get the car too, if it'll make you more comfortable.
I am so so sorry. You and your kiddos deserve better.
Please let us know how else we can help. Ditto pps- I would be happy to contribute to PayPal or Gofundme. And I'm in NJ (NYC metro area) and would be happy to meet up in NJ or NYC if you come up this way.
You and your kids are awesome and I'm sorry he can't pull his head out of his ass long enough to realize what he's missing out on. Hugs and best of luck to you moving forward.
Post by miniroller on Apr 17, 2016 14:41:37 GMT -5
Dude Everybody else has said it, but I'm so sorry he turned out to be such a steaming pile of useless horseshit. I'm so angry for his absolute apathy & apparent non-ability to be a grown freaking adult right now! Screw Him! And then follow the great advice/ suggestions others have offered, of course. Please don't EVER apologize for venting here again. But also really think about confiding in someone (multiple someone's). I think it's reached that point, ProfArt
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Post by cinnamoncox0 on Apr 17, 2016 15:11:09 GMT -5
I'm sorry he sucks so much. You all deserve better. You've been single parenting all this time with him in the way basically. I hope you reach out to us if we can help in any way.
I'm so sorry that he's too much of an ass to recognize that being a good husband and father is never a "lose-lose" situation. You have all of my good thoughts as you start the process of making a better life for yourself and your kids.
Post by litebright on Apr 17, 2016 15:53:57 GMT -5
I'm so sorry that things haven't gotten any better. That's a terrible way to live, for both you and L, wondering what new or old way he'll be mean to you next. It says so much about his character that spending time and effort on people he supposedly loves is such a fucking hardship for him, which he takes out on everyone around him.
I think you and your kiddos will be so, so much more stable and better off without him. Get your plan in place, and start talking about it IRL with the people around you/who love you. I would bet that you will get more offers of help and support when people realize that you're trying to get out of a shitty situation. This place is great, but the day-in-day-out logistics of single parenting is something you're going to need as much IRL help as you can muster.
And I'm sorry to once again clog the board with my drama but I can't talk about this in real life right now
So many hugs.
I just want to say, we are here for you and feel free to vent anytime. But I think your family would want to know what's happening. They likely already know more than you give them credit for, given that your husband seems to never hide his true nature. You might find it a relief to share, and have some in-person support.
Much love to you. (heart)
This is likely true. I tried so hard to hide everything from people, but they all knew what was going on.