I'm definitely pregnant.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

We're here for you, love.

[sequins]

Sending you so much love.

[dreamcrisp1]

So many thoughts to you.

[pumpkin]

(((hugs)))

[notoriousmeg]

Thinking of you.

[calamity]

((hugs))

[rosiebear]

We are here for you; I'm sorry you are dealing with a difficult situation.

[candreco]

Oh, honey. I was there with DD, and I know it's rough. Feel what you need to feel, do what you need to do. It'll be ok. Hugs.

[Deleted]

((hugs))

[wambam]

((Rex))

We're here if you do want to talk.

[FastHands]

Holy shit Rexy. You shoulf have my # and I'm home today. I'm here. *hugs*

[hopecounts]

((Hugs))

[jreeds]

((RexManningDay))

[shoeless]

holy shit, I can't even imagine ((hugs))

[styme46]

(((Hugs)))

[BaliHai]

((Rex))

[vicky]

Hugs.

[nightandday]

((hugs))

[cinderbella]

So many hugs, Rex.

[happywife]

Sending you lots hugs.

[pinkeggs]

Hugs. It's a shock even when you're planning it. I'm sorry you didn't get the answer you were hoping for. We're here for you.

[Narwhal]

I'm so sorry for your conflicting emotions. I really can't imagine. FWIW I've had students who had adopted siblings, or who is the adopted sibling and one that was more of a situation like yours (I only knew because I know the family) and you would never, ever know based on the family and sibling dynamics. The kids were happy, healthy, loved and very well adjusted. I know every case is different but I just wanted to put a positive light on that aspect.

[shoeless]

((hugs)) I have the same thoughts regarding a genetic pregnancy at this point, so you're not alone. But all your DD will know is the love you surround her with

[squirrelymom]

Huge hugs and lots of Internet love.

It's a very hard place to be in, but know that you're not alone--I've faced the same issue and had very conflicted feelings about it and I'm sure many more of us have been in the same boat.

I'm wishing you lots of peace while you process, and please know that we're here for you.

[pandora89]

So many hugs RexManningDay.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

May 16, 2016 7:47:08 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

I feel terrible even eliciting sympathy about this. Ridiculous. I'm surprised at how negative I feel, and the extreme guilt I have over this being a spontaneous, genetic pregnancy. I don't want Lydia to ever feel like an outsider.

You moved MOUNTAINS to get Lydia.  She was so extremely wanted and longed for.  I can't imagine her ever feeling any different because you had an accidental pregnancy after hers.

[atarianna]

It took us three years to get pregnant with my daughter and my son was a surprise when my daughter was 6 months old.

It was an adjustment, but now that they are 3 and 2, they play well together and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Take care of yourself.

[tulips]

Sending you lots of hugs.

[JamaicanPineapple]

May 16, 2016 7:47:08 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

I feel terrible even eliciting sympathy about this. Ridiculous. I'm surprised at how negative I feel, and the extreme guilt I have over this being a spontaneous, genetic pregnancy. I don't want Lydia to ever feel like an outsider.

I felt the same way after our surprise pregnancy with DD2. We always wanted 2 kids but the whole part of it not being planned really threw me for a loop. I have always felt that some of my PPD with DD2 stemmed from that. Just remember you don't have to decide anything today and make sure you take care of yourself.

[icedcoffee]

Hugs! L will not feel like an outsider though. If anything, she will feel so lucky to know how badly her parents wanted her.