Rex, I'm normally on MM/MMM but saw this and, as a fellow TTTC grad (DD is IVF), wanted to respond. I found out I was pregnant completely unexpectedly when DD was just over 11 months, I guess. My kids will be 20 months apart. I was still nursing DD when I found out. I completely understand the mixed emotions, it took me a very long time to process the pregnancy as well.
We used my own eggs/DH's sperm for DD, so I can't speak to that aspect of your emotions. But I completely understand the shock of just "getting pregnant" with no intention, no effort, no intervention, no longing, no sadness, no intensity of emotion that TTTC brings. It took me a very, very long time to process and accept this pregnancy. Whatever you decide to do, whatever choice you make it will be OK in the end. Big hugs to you.
Post by cabbagecabbage on May 16, 2016 8:39:42 GMT -5
In in the camp of diagnosed unexplained infertility, then had DD after so much trying and a loss, then got pregnant on accident this past fall. It's been such a mindfuck but it's also been a blessing for me. I'm thinking of you and the whirlwind of emotions and wishing you good luck as you process everything.
"He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." - Unknown
You love your daughter to pieces and she will always, always know that. I'm sorry this is such a shock and you are having a hard time with it. However you feel about it is ok and we are here for you.
My aunt and uncle unexpectedly became pregnant with my cousin within weeks of bringing his adopted brother home. Their sons have a wonderful relationship and, as far as I know, have never questioned their roles in the family.
Post by lovelyshoes on May 16, 2016 9:12:13 GMT -5
It will be ok. We're here for you. Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time. I understand how overwhelming this is. Hugs to you. We're here for you. And L will never feel like an outsider. She is your first baby and will always be so. Your bond and love are rock solid.
Big hugs. Take your time processing, but know that your daughter will never feel like an outsider. As the "Lydia" in my own family, I have never once considered myself to be anything but my parents' child and my sisters' sister (if that makes sense?!). You're in my thoughts.