Post by blondemoment123 on Sept 2, 2017 10:33:25 GMT -5
When I was a kid my mom and I lived with my grandma during one of my dads deployments. My mom found my diary where I wrote about how I loved grandma more than mommy and wanted to stay there forever. She was crushed.
My mom and I are very close now (even though she can be BSC).
ETA: I was pretty frustrated because everyone was telling me that daycare trained their kid and my daycare was not helpful with this at all. There is also this assumption that black kids are potty trained earlier than other races and I felt like I was getting looks because DD was not potty trained.
OMG, I can't tell you how humiliating this is for me in my family and in my husband's family.
We recently went to a relative's birthday party, and everybody was shaming us. All the other kids around her age (and younger) had been potty-trained since age two.
And then these people were all snide like, "Heh, heh, heh, I guess you're only book-smart and can't handle shit, eh?"
OMG, STFU. It took a lot of restraint for me not to spit in their faces.
I haven't read past here, but WTF. I know I was super lucky in that L trained early, but it was mostly HER doing (initiation, etc.), not mine. I can't imagine judging another parent on this. Kids are gonna do what they're gonna do when it comes to developmental milestones. My jaw kind of dropped with andwhat's post, too, because I've heard a lot of bullshit, but that's a new one to me!
My good friend's daughter didn't train until after 3yo, and she was starting to stress. I could tell she was embarrassed around L, and I did everything I could to just be like, "Whatever - kids are all different. Your kid was walking at 9 months, mine wasn't. Etc." Potty training is NOT a sign of intelligence, or discipline, or anything else. It's a sign that your kid decided he/she was ready to start taking a shit/piss in the potty. The end.
miso , the other day, S got pissed bc we left a play date. He waited until we were almost home to say "I don't like you. I don't want you to be my mommy. I'm going to give you away."
These things do not hurt my feelings. They fill me with rage.
So, I didn't say anything. He kept going "did you hear me mama? I don't like you. You aren't my mommy." I kept ignoring him. When we got home, I undid his buckle but didn't help him out of the car. I kept ignoring him until we got inside. I handed J to my H and said "S doesn't want me as a mommy anymore so I'm out." and turned to S and said "good luck without a mommy". And drove away. I listened to a podcast for 15 min while driving around the neighborhood. H called me so I could hear S screaming "MAMAAAAA COME BACCCKKK!" while banging on the front door in the background.
When I got home, I told S I came back bc I didn't think it was fair to J to not have an awesome mommy just bc he didn't want me.
I'm a mean mom.
I recently did something similar with bedtime. It's been all screaming all the time, "No, I don't WANT you, Mommy. I love DADDY!!" etc. etc. So I got her all ready and said, "Fine - you can do your own bedtime. I love you - good night." Cue tears and "mommmmmmy staaaaay!" I let her sweat it out for a few minutes and then came back, all "surprised" since she wanted me to go away and didn't love me anymore. Bedtimes have been better since.
@natariru, I would have been so damn smug listening to my kid flip out like that. You're damn right you're upset, you tiny asshole!
We are starting potty training today and this post is making me realize how underprepared I am. I need to go buy juice before DS1 gets up. And probably some kind of reward (though I think he'll respond to praise).
isabel I just looked it up its called "Potty Training Time" developer name is "two little hands". It seems there's a few features to the app I really only used it to have it look like the woman was calling to congratulate him.
@natariru, I would have been so damn smug listening to my kid flip out like that. You're damn right you're upset, you tiny asshole!
We are starting potty training today and this post is making me realize how underprepared I am. I need to go buy juice before DS1 gets up. And probably some kind of reward (though I think he'll respond to praise).
isabel I just looked it up its called "Potty Training Time" developer name is "two little hands". It seems there's a few features to the app I really only used it to have it look like the woman was calling to congratulate him.
This is by the signing time/baby signing time group. There is a video and some of the songs are on YouTube.
You probably don't have time for what worked for us. At the advice of a few here I stopped push and just said "let me know if you want to pee on the potty" until one day she did.
I had two options for her - the little seat on the potty and one of the training ones that sit on the floor. And left them out all the time. For popping, I happened to walk by one day and she was sitting there. She didn't tell me she was going to.
Otherwise I just share your pain and frustration. It sucked. And while I was calmlu pretending I didn't care if she used a diaper or not I was screaming internally. Especially when she'd come home from daycare and helpfully list off all the kids who used the potty and ended it with "not me. I have a diaper".
Another mom here with no advice. Just commiseration. DS turned 3 at the end of Feb. and had to be potty-trained to go to his new school after his old daycare closed unexpectedly. It's been a stressful time and he's still pooping in his pants. Sometimes he'll go on the potty, sometimes he'll just stand there and shit in his pants. I don't get it.