I don't think he'll pick any of them. I think he'll want a low profile lapdog, not someone who put their name on the ballot against him and seeks national attention. A Hope Hicks style VP.
Mostly because that is the toxic narcissist he is. But also because he doesn't need to "balance the ticket" or whatever other considerations people have in VPs. No VP is going to gain or lose votes for him. He also isn't going to collaborate with anyone or use them as an advisor like Obama/Biden.
What are the chances the tickets ever went on sale at all (or weren't just pulled after 24 hours regardless of quantity sold)? This feels like it's own scam to build hype and drive demand. You already missed out on the $500 tickets! Better get in on the next tier of $700 tickets!
When I was on the swim team in high school, 2 girls just used pads, removed in the locker room before the pool, swam as usual, and hopped quick back to the locker room when out of the pool for a fresh pad. No issues when in the pool without a tampon.
I may have never noticed but my mother kept telling me about how it “totally worked” so I took notice of the before/after hustle. Mom was anti-tampon for ‘virgins’.
Thanks, mom. I’ll melt into the floor now. Don’t mind me and my tam-poons.
If nothing you say or do is helpful then this sounds like your priority, not hers.
Does she want to just skip it all this month? If so, I'd let her and she can tell the coach she has diarrhea (or whatever else will keep him from punishing/pushing her for not swimming.)
My focus would be on doing whatever it takes so she can have a healthy, happy adulthood and future life. If that means swimming slows down but she emotionally heals, that would be okay with me. Get through a few periods without trauma, and then if she wants and is ready, she can try again.
I was a bit excited for rain but looks like it’s turning east and will avoid the Bay Area and Sacramento. Probably for the best. I remember when that rare thunderstorm hit in August 2020 and the lightning strikes sparked weeks of wildfires.
But yeah it’s HOT.
Those fires sucked. I was actually on a hike at the top of a mountain and watching lightening strike.. and then spending weeks trapped indoors to avoid the smoke and not being able to go anywhere (like movies or bowling) because everything was shut down due to covid.
We were at Stinson beach when the Point Reyes fire started (the fire was caused by the same lightning but took a day to kindle). We saw the plume before the local fire department and were half way back to the car when the siren went off. First came the dark orange apocalypse skies and then the shut in weeks.
Tropical Storm Fausto never got north of Mexico and never made landfall, but it really fucked things up in CA.
Actor Sparks Debate After Complaining 'Barbie' Movie Was 'Inappropriate' For Her 10-Year-Old Daughter
Huh. My 10yo loved it. At no point was I "shocked, disappointed, and heartbroken" about what I exposed her to.
My 9 year old loved it - and I only took her after watching it with my precocious 12 year old because I'm the over protective mom who follows ratings guidelines and avoids anything with violence, explicit sex, problematic bias or complications the kids won't understand. But my kid also is pretty familiar with the idea of gender stereotypes, patriarchy, and all the rest. It was pretty binary, but they still loved it. Their favorite character was the John Cena mermaid.
It’s waste, yes, but at one point, it was an expression of love. You bought the items because you care. Presumably at least some of the items hold happy memories. Try to remember those instead of the guilt/disgust you feel now.
Since what’s done is done, I’d reframe it not as “waste” but as part of the story of her childhood/growing up. Donate what you can and toss the rest.
THANK YOU! This is exactly the kind of advice I was hoping for (although I didn't know exactly what I expected/wanted to hear)!
I know the practical stuff of how to make her things available to someone else, but looking at it as an expression of love, at a period in her life, is perfect. That is 100% what it was. She loved these things in those moments, and I could afford to buy them for her to make her happy, and so I did. I will try to remember that sentiment as I pass the items along.
This was exactly my thought. Your child was busy finding herself. And every step of the way you were right there beside her helping her enjoy that phase. She won't remember the 47 nail polishes you toss in the trash / send to goodwill. But she will remember that mom always got excited with her instead of holding back until she found the perfect fit.
I know I've held off on things that seemed silly or overpriced because it seemed like a passing phase, only to regret later not spending a little more on my kid's happiness rather than looking at things objectively.
This would be true if she were the only one getting ready. But she isn't the one making the noise.
Getting a single child ready is completely different from managing sibling dynamics, keeping them quiet *and* getting them ready. Doing what he expects would quadruple the effort involved in my house, raise the tension and almost always fail. On the rare occasion we did succeed, keeping quiet would use up all the masking/self control energy my kids had and lead to terrible moods and meltdowns during the second part of the morning.
I'm assuming the overall home/childcare balance works for you, but not his silly fussing.
If you want to keep the status quo, leave your phone in the room playing pink or brown noise until everyone heads downstairs. It isn't a whole machine and he'll be too groggy to argue with you. When it works, he can thank you.
I’m not too worried but it doesn’t look like it’s going to hit southern Nevada as hard as Southern California. Flash flooding might be a problem, but we just won’t leave the house.
Should I be worried? Lol I’ve been stuck in my room all week so I haven’t had access to actual news.
Here in NorCal, I'm similarly less worried.
Still, it's a good time to stock up on our "at home" emergency supplies in case there are power outages/heavy rains/etc. *And* also our go bag in case lightning + high winds turn to wildfire. Let's learn from 2020 and Maui.
Mine? lol. no. Those vaccines are 6 intercontinental moves back. If it didn't happen at Kaiser, (ie. since 2009) it doesn't exist.
ETA: I do have a copy of my certificate of birth abroad, my marriage license and some other documents. But nothing about my health.
I know I'm quoting myself here, but I just realized I have never seen my actual birth certificate, and only have the document issued by the consulate/embassy saying I exist. Huh. So yeah. No clue where I'd find the vaccinations - which would have been spread over at least two different countries.
I think I would text cousin, unfortunately we were not able to find a babysitter so I will not be attending the reception.
I would not give the bride a white lie. She doesn't deserve the dodge / protection it provides. She can handle the consequences of her decision.
If I wasn't going, I would text her:
"DD is very sad and disappointed you uninvited her. It's important to me that she knows I value her and to respect her feelings. I will also not be attending."
If the 13 year old is going, I’d just bring my kid anyway because clearly she ‘changed her mind’ about a kid free reception. And hell no to paying for hair and makeup your kid doesn’t even want. No matter what else happens.
I would absolutely white lie to my kid because protecting my child comes first for me. a 7 year old will think they were disinvited because of some flaw they have - no matter how much an adult tells them the bride is the problem and at fault.
My brother and his wife had our kids in the wedding but not at the reception (same for the bride’s nieces and nephews). They were up front and well in advance. It was still tricky to explain to the kids. But we scheduled them a really fun sleepover with family friends and they got cake before they left. I hope however things shake out, your daughter can come away from this with as little pain as possible.
I am another person who wants to know what the story is with the 13 year old. I wouldn’t breathe a word to my kid or decide how to act until that is squared away.
How I handled the day would depend on what I think would hurt my child least, but going forward our relationship would be irreparably harmed.
And I’m saying we need to figure out how to help Hawaii not need to rely on tourism, but I don’t know how to do that. If we all (Royal we) just literally stop going suddenly it will severely hurt their economy - that’s not a solution.
With all due respect ‘we’ don’t need to figure anything out. We need to listen. The people of Hawaii have been asking for changes for a long time. There will be even stronger needs now. We need to listen and respect that, not substitute our own assumptions and opinions.
The most wrenching photos are the ones showing burned out cars on the waterfront road - not parked, but lined up in the lanes, looking like they were caught while fleeing.
Her daughter is in a legal fight with the trust that holds the assets of her deceased husband.
Trusts are supposed to make things easier, not harder.
Trusts keep an estate out of probate. They don't fix difficult family dynamics. Since the estate doesn't go through probate (ie. court oversight), trusts can get even messier than probate if there's animosity and shenanigans. In this situation, animosity is sending the parties to court - which is exactly what a trust is supposed to avoid.
(PDQ: Everything involved with my dad's intestate probate (no will) took about a year, maybe less. The statutes were clear and the process was tiresome but straightforward. In contrast, settling my grandfather's trust took 18 years because of disagreements over the trust terms and animosity. Nothing could happen without consensus of all the heirs or involving the courts. No one wanted to take it to court and there was always someone not speaking to someone else.)
I find it useful to keep perspective. Most people compare up - to those who are like them but have a few things going ‘better’ instead of the many people who are like them but having a harder time. if you are in a rut, that means things are going okay. It means you aren’t dealing with one of the big set backs and devastations that happen in every life. Enjoy the dog that isn’t barking.
Side note: How does AP Psych cover LGBTQ issues? Because I'm side eyeing the idea that being LGBTQ is a psych issue (what is this? Oscar Wilde's England?). (Does AP Psych also violate Florida's "we don't acknowledge racism" rules as well? Is this about microagressions, the shitty way other people act and marginalization?)
I don't trust high schools to teach gender dysphoria with nuance and point out the inherent issues with the diagnosis/ requiring the diagnosis for medical treatment, etc.
There is too much shitty history between psych and LGBTQ people for me not to be cautious.
This is the central issue. If you look up at someone and make eye contact, then at least smile/wave/say hi/something. It is weird to be stared at by a completely blank face.
if you have that "meeting eye contact" moment with no acknowledgement on either side, that feels like mild animosity. If one person smiles/waves/says hi/whatever, and the other just stares blankly Mr. Blank Stare seems awkward or mildly hostile. So if the aggrieved person here said "Hi!" and was met with a blank stare from their work superior, I can see feeling unnerved. I don't know that bitching about it to a coworker makes it better, though. It just sounds petty and you become the problem.