Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 28, 2018 14:07:09 GMT -5
Personally, getting into and out of a wetsuit is my idea of hell. And doing so in the course of a triathlon would be my idea of hell on earth. So for me, water temp be damned, I'm not wearing a wetsuit. HOWEVER, with water temps like that, it is likely that if she didn't wear one, she'd likely be the only one NOT wearing a wetsuit, which would put her at a swim-speed disadvantage, unless she's already super speedy. So for a complete tri-newb, in those temps, I'd encourage the wetsuit.
Anecdote: My cousin and his now wife had a Wednesday JOP wedding that we all found out about on Facebook. Then they got pissed no one sent them gifts. What?
This is totally what I was stressing about when I wrote this post. Argh.
Your cousin didn't even contact you? Are you sure they like you? There is definitely no etiquette going on here. Do what you feel like doing.
LOL! Yes, they like me. My mom, however, is another story.
Also, said cousin's mom and dad both have some SERIOUS health problems going on right now. Like, MAJOR. I'm guessing this is not even on their radar. I'm just a chronic overthinker, doing what I do best, I'm sure.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 28, 2018 13:22:47 GMT -5
This is a weird one, and I already may be in serious etiquette breach, but I don't even know.
Back in December, my 19 y/o "niece" (actually my cousin's daughter, but I'm an only, and so I treat her like my niece) got married. I'll be honest, there's a shitTON of backstory here, and I don't have all of it, so I'm trying to just stick to what I am sure of. Her S/O is military, stationed across the country. She is still living in her apartment, presumably trying to wrap up loose ends and, I presume, waiting for married housing to open up on base before she moves across the country with him. So they are not living together at present.
As far as I can tell, this was a spur of the moment, JOP wedding. No announcement, just a quick "we're married" post on FB and that's been pretty much it. I haven't gotten anything formal (or informal) in the mail, or via email. Or a phone call. Or even a FB message, just incidentally saw the post as I was scrolling. I did acknowledge the post with a "Congrats!" so I know she knows I saw it.
I have not sent a gift of any kind. Should I? If so, what amount/type of gift? And where do I send it? Her apartment on the east coast? Wait until they've moved in together here on the west coast? Wait until I get a formal announcement or something more formal than a FB post?
What would you do?
(If ever there was a post that makes me feel 90-million years old, it is this one.)
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 26, 2018 14:14:24 GMT -5
Team Allegra here too. I also supplement with benadryl at night, although I'm not entirely sure that's wise - if I don't, I wake up feeling like crap.
Zyrtec makes me feel like I'm in a fog and Claritin does freaking nothing.
I've done shots in the past, but I never re-established with an allergy clinic when we moved to CA because our insurance is high-deductible and it's really not in the budget right now. I'd rather pay $100/month in allergy meds than $5000 a year in shots and tests at the moment. FRICKING AETNA.
TFS- really well written & heartbreaking...we should be ashamed that anyone lives like this in our country.
I lived in Hidalgo county for 2 years. The us v. them mentality is amazing, and not in a good way. Racism is blatant, class inequality is a "good thing", and everything is very superficial. Plus, crooked cops and pay-for-play government officials are very much a way of life.
It's an incredibly difficult place to be a decent human being, but some of the folks I met there were some of the kindest, gentlest souls you can imagine.
I'm getting really annoyed at the noise complaint emails we're getting from our property manager. We purchased rugs after the first complaint. She emailed again today, saying she's received multiple complaints of loud noises coming from our apartment at all times of the day and night. Um, we're not IN our apartment during the day. We both work outside the home. And no one is making noise at night. We come home, have dinner, put L to bed and veg out.
Unless our dogs are having raucous games of bity-face while we're at work (which I doubt), I have no idea what the complainer is talking about. I don't even know who it is -- property manager won't tell us.
Ask the property manager for proof. Audio or video recording, or ask if they've heard it themselves. If you're not home, and you can't identify the noise because the complaint is vague, you can't do anything about it.
Almost attorney I have ever encountered signs off formal emails with “best.” Shrug?
That’s what I am saying. It’s not passive aggressive like “bless your heart” in a business setting. It is/can be when you are using for relatives
See, it is for me (but I'm a realtor, so my business setting is slightly less formal than some). My email close hierarchy goes:
Thanks! = I like you, you did good. Thanks, = Standard. We are in a neutral standing. No close = I'm in a hurry and/or I don't care enough either way Best, = Fall off the earth already
I figure none of these things are actually like signing off with "Wish you'd just DIE!" but knowing that I'm flipping them an imaginary bird with my close makes me feel better. LOL
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 20, 2018 8:47:31 GMT -5
I'd be shocked if this wasn't an issue, given the general dress at Coachella and the way some men still seem to process visible skin/possible side boob/nip as "WHORE!"
I hate it. I swear, if I had the guts to do it, I'd go to some metal concert some time and spend an hour in the pit just randomly kicking guys in the nuts, just to return the damn favor.
Actually she hates you already MIL because Best is phony AF.
QFMFT.
That is the LAMEST way EVER to close a letter/note/email. A bunch of dumbasses in my building sign their emails this way, and I think it's phony AND LAZY. You can't be bothered to write REGARDS or WISHES or what-the-fuck-ever in your closing? GTFO.
I agree w/ the others about the future of this MIL-DIL relationship.
Best is what I close an email with when I really would prefer the person I am emailing fall off the edge of the flat-earthers' ice wall.
She may or may not also call her son crying about how she neeeeeeeeeeeeeeds a better relationship with FDIL and she just wants to be friennnnnnnnnnds.
OMG. That sounds... fun. Yeah.
Alice-Mom sounds silly.
LOL, it's great. And by great, I mean, I don't talk to them any more unless I have to, with R's understanding and agreement.
The Alice-Mom thing pisses me off to no end. She started trying to just call herself mom, and when it was clear I wasn't having that AT ALL, she switched to Alice-Mom. Still NO. But I just roll my eyes and ignore it at this point.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 19, 2018 16:19:12 GMT -5
In my experience in the medical industry, if a surgery is (even questionably) optional, they require payment up front, in case the insurance backs away from paying. If surgery is a necessity, they will operate first and bill later. Payment plans are almost always an option.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 19, 2018 14:23:42 GMT -5
We have a hybrid latex-innerspring mattress (short coils with a thick layer of latex over). I love it, R *HATES* it. Either way, the latex is not holding up as we expected it to (there is a noticeable "king's ridge") and we will probably replace it in the next year or so, mostly because of how much R hates it. We've had it since 2015. It does sleep warmer than average.
R wants to get a Tempurpedic to replace it but I hate them. We have a brand-new queen size one in our guest room I had to sleep on it for three weeks when the cat was sick (I know, I know) and it was the WORST. The absolute worst. I've slept on them once they're broken in, as well, at R's parents' house, and didn't like them then, either. I think I strongly prefer either traditional coil mattresses or a more "rubbery" surface. I need some feedback when I sleep, apparently.
Also, I’m going call bullshit on all this, “I’m going to be more aware of this going forward”. It’s truly laughable. Is that the 2018 version of listening and learning?
No. At least I hope not. I'm not good with words. I'm generally awkward. (I mean, we've met in person, you can verify this, LOL).
But I did not want to pass the post by without acknowledging that it was read and understood and I'm trying to do better and be a better human now. I'm sorry.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 19, 2018 8:34:41 GMT -5
I don't want to read and not comment, but there's not a lot to say. I've read both articles and I see the point. Although I was not raised to be fragile, I've definitely been guilty of using fragility to my advantage in the past (NOT against POC, but in general) - although I've changed a lot since that time in my life - but it makes me feel a little sick, reading how it can harm others. I'm not an emotional person, typically, so it was actually more WORK for me to be that way, and that disgusts me about myself. I'm sorry. I'll do better.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 17, 2018 0:52:25 GMT -5
We have companion status on Southwest, so obviously we love SWA. But, of the two, for a cross-country flight, if JetBlue is an option on the route, take it. They have larger seats and more legroom and are just overall more comfortable. On a short flight, I just pick whatever is cheaper and/or has the better time for me. I do admit I prefer picking my seat like on SWA. I have wide shoulders and it's nice to be able to select a seat with the window that aligns with my shoulder.
If your flight is not an originating location (as in, it's coming from somewhere else and not emptying completely at your airport before you get on), be aware that even in A group, you may not be able to get great seats. That's always disappointing. I paid once for A1 and there were farking 56 through passengers. I had to sit by the bathroom to get my damn window seat. LOL
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 17, 2018 0:13:52 GMT -5
All I can say is I go to the same massage place as the 3rd place guy. So there's that. LOL
Those guys are so intense and so incredibly speedy, and, living in an area of ultra-trail-people, the speed some people are able to maintain is ASTONISHING. Like, there are people out there who can just trot out on muddy trails at 6 minute miles for 30+ miles. What. Like, I whine about walking the dog some days. Just saying.
Where do I begin? Chocolate, coffee, wine, beer and cheese are definite "pry out of my cold dead hands" things for me. That said, depending on the research you read those can be good or bad for you .
I think Diet Coke or Diet Dr Pepper would be something that's definitely not good for me that I crave sometimes, especially fountain soda over ice. I cringe when I think how much I used to drink vs. now I only get it once in a while, especially on road trips.
Oh, I could go all IN on road-trip food, but that's probably another post, lol. (Box of cookie crisp, FTW!)
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 15, 2018 10:02:26 GMT -5
I'm up. Been up since 4:30 and working. My workout today will *hopefully* be going for a hike if our rain holds off long enough. But I have about 4 hours of work to do this morning before I can go.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 15, 2018 7:19:16 GMT -5
This morning, as I was pouring myself a cup of coffee with shitty powdered coffee creamer in it, I thought to myself, "this is bad for me" and then thought "oh well". They will pry my coffee-mate from my cold dead hands.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 13, 2018 15:15:09 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm so glad to hear he trusted you enough to tell you. That means a TON about how awesome you are as a family. Don't discount that. Big hugs to you, and him, as he works to get well.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 13, 2018 15:11:35 GMT -5
I've been in a variety of "shape" over the years and back when I was running 10ks (and swimming too), I did an aqua zumba class that kicked my ASS. It was *hard*, yo. In every aqua fitness class, unless you're going to one advertised (edit: SPECIFICALLY) for seniors, you'll get out of it what you put into it. The deeper into the pool you go, the harder it will be, too, if you have that option. Take a deep-water class (they have belts for support if you need it) and you'll get best of all worlds. But I would not recommend the more active/high-intensity aqua classes in the shallow end unless you clear it with your doctor first - there's a lot of jumping and twisting, and I imagine that it could be stressful on your already-stressed foot.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 12, 2018 17:52:54 GMT -5
If you like to swim/beach, check out Crystal Lake and Lake Willoughby, or the (much larger) Lake Memphramagog. The water at Crystal Lake and Willoughby is undeniably beautiful. If you go up to Newport, maybe take the boat tour of the lake. It really is quite beautiful.
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Apr 12, 2018 13:25:13 GMT -5
Is this kid just not as deceptive as I was as a teen? Just go get a pay-as-you-go smartphone for going out and leave the tracked phone in your dorm room. Set up an auto-response text on the tracked phone to say "Sorry, can't talk now, studying for a big test tomorrow" or something and go on your merry way. Done. Also makes you feel less terrible when that douchebag drops a beer on your phone.