I'd expect her to watch the kids at YOUR house where things are childproofed and safe, kids toys are there, and, given that she lives at home, you KNOW all the ppl coming and going in your own home in a way you don't at hers.
How many kids do you have and what are the ages? I'd expect $10-12 hour?
I own a very small business. I have used independent contractors before for 1-2x a year big jobs. These were true independent contractors with their own businesses, so it was paid business to business, they did their own thing on the job with their own equipment, etc.
I am now considering an employee in some form or fashion, very part-time. I work from my home and I am torn whether the employee would be a business employee OR a personal assistant. I think personal assistant makes the most sense (paid with my money, not business money) because I may need him/her to do things outside the business, such as make a return for me, mail something, run errands, etc. I can't do that if I pay her from the business, so it's looking like a personal assistant is the way to go (who can also then do work inside my business).
I have no idea how to do this. Where would I even start as far as the legalities. This would be about 8 hours per week - perfect for a stay at home mom or college student. It's not like a nanny in that I have an agency I can use to pay the person or a temp. I want to do it the right way.
Is this something that will be prohibitively expensive and I should keep searching for a different solution? I have an attorney but he isn't a labor and employment attorney. Also, this person would be working in my home, so I want to make sure I'm doing the right thing, covering my bases.
They've had his computer for a while now - you'd think that if he was having bad thoughts he'd have written something somewhere. I know it seems like people "just snap" one day but really, it'd be very odd to commit suicide with absolutely no history of issues or note or SOMEthing.
from what I understand leaving a note is rare, or at least less common than not leaving a note.
Statistically true.
Also, if he had money troubles, leaving a note may result in no life insurance, so maybe he made it look like an accident or at least ambiguous?
I always thought there would be obvious signs when someone committed suicide - those signs you read about in magazines or hear about in health class - missing work/school, giving away possessions, etc.
My husband passed away from suicide almost two years ago. Until the very last day, there were no obvious signs. It is extremely scary and has rocked my world, making me very distrustful of people - he essentially snapped (he had signs but kept them very hidden).
Had my husband not left a note, I would be in complete disbelief. I still am in shock.
This is why I don't trust it when ppl say "he was a pilot of X years and highly respected, no problems.." My husband seemingly had zero problems - respected employee, high achiever, wonderful husband.
It sucks - some ppl hide their deepest thoughts.
I am so very sorry.
Thanks - sorry for the anecdote. I have been very shocked by this plane crash and coming here everyday for updates. I feel so horrible for the families. Talk about no closure.
They've had his computer for a while now - you'd think that if he was having bad thoughts he'd have written something somewhere. I know it seems like people "just snap" one day but really, it'd be very odd to commit suicide with absolutely no history of issues or note or SOMEthing.
I always thought there would be obvious signs when someone committed suicide - those signs you read about in magazines or hear about in health class - missing work/school, giving away possessions, etc.
My husband passed away from suicide almost two years ago. Until the very last day, there were no obvious signs. It is extremely scary and has rocked my world, making me very distrustful of people - he essentially snapped (he had signs but kept them very hidden).
Had my husband not left a note, I would be in complete disbelief. I still am in shock.
This is why I don't trust it when ppl say "he was a pilot of X years and highly respected, no problems.." My husband seemingly had zero problems - respected employee, high achiever, wonderful husband.
Pro photog here - I have heard this tip before but I don't really understand the purpose of it unless you are putting your palm in the same light and the lens in the same light as the object you are going to be photographing. It's a good exercise in that the palm is similar to a gray card but...what if you zero out the meter then you step back to shoot the whole scene - it could be wildly different (and while shooting your palm, you are likely blocking some of the light from entering the shot)
I shoot RAW and don't CWB on location.
Are you shooting full manual? If so, don't worry so much about trying to "zero" out the meter on a gray card. Instead, just think in terms of zones. For example, spot metering, Caucasian skin can be placed on the meter about 2/3 of a stop above center, darker skin tones might be 2/3rd of a stop under center. WAY easier. And so when you see a scene, just think "how far above or below gray is this tree/cat/etc"
I know nothing about gas lines, but how is your house? I was just thinking about you and your house search the other day. I hope you are all settled in and enjoying it!
I LOVE my house!
I am still not fully unpacked and don't have all my furniture done (I was painting and thrift storing a lot of it) but the rooms I do have done - office, gameroom are great and I am so happy!
And it's the perfect layout for my business.
It was worth it to look for the perfect house!! I am never moving!
Is this worth it for $3.99/month? I would normally say "heck no" BUT I remember my parents having a gas line leak that costs thousands back in 2002 and they didn't have the insurance. So I'm just wondering...
small 2 story house in Pittsburgh, PA (with half of one story as garage, which is technically heated but we close the vent off often) - approx 1200ish sq feet
Gas (heat left at 64 most of the day, dryer) - $135 last month, $157 this month Electric (stove, everything else) - $100ish a month
I don't understand why, during a situation like 9/11, 99% of parents need to be able to reach their kids at the actual school. There's no reason for it - if your family is truly one of the ones impacted immediately, you would go to the school and get the child. It just serves the purpose of distraction and info spreading that may or may not be true and creates more of a heightened situation.
I'm an old lady that went to school without a phone. We made a call from the office if we absolutely needed something.
I think it's partly an emotional issue. My local high school was on lockdown a few months ago and the ensuing news stories mentioned lots of terrified phone call/text exchanges between kids and parents. Once that expectation of being in touch with your kid is established, it's hard to change it.
I like the phones in a box in the classroom rule.
We had lockdowns back in the 2000's too. We just sat there and waited. I guess it is a new generation - when I was in HS, we didn't want or need to tell our parents every little thing every second. In 2003, when I was graduating high school, if you even had a phone in your bookbag when it was searched, you would have the phone taken and receive detention. I know they eventually moved to "have the phone but keep it in a locker"
I haven't taught for like 6 years - back then, it was pretty much just texting that was the problem, not apps, etc. We confiscated phones immediately if we saw it. That ended after awhile because the parents felt they had to have them, so we couldn't confiscate in case they were stolen, etc - kids just got detention for using them.
I think it's ridiculous - but I'm a known hater of cell phones and use mine very, very rarely. I hate the intrusion they've put on our lives to always be available and I don't think kids need that in high school or middle school either.
I don't understand why, during a situation like 9/11, 99% of parents need to be able to reach their kids at the actual school. There's no reason for it - if your family is truly one of the ones impacted immediately, you would go to the school and get the child. It just serves the purpose of distraction and info spreading that may or may not be true and creates more of a heightened situation.
I'm an old lady that went to school without a phone. We made a call from the office if we absolutely needed something.
Also, it would be annoying to ask my photog to photoshop some bunching on my dress right? It's obvious is some of the photos (not the one I posted). I wish someone had said something! I would have fixed my damn dress! It's like a big crease that makes me look fatty fat
I would ask for an edit.
A photog weighing in here - I'd expect that, if you ask for it, it will be done for the prints you order from the photog or for an album, but only if it is asked for. If you don't order prints/album, there might be a charge. I usually do 1-2 for free though if they ask.
Unfortunately, we can't know how the dress is supposed to lay and those kinds of bodices/dresses tend to have bunching, so even if we fix it in one shot, as soon as you move, it usually wrinkles again. It has to be loose enough to allow you to move.
I started off reading the OP and thinking "okay, fine, no big deal, FB stalking, I've FB stalked before...it's the point of FB"
So I was all "team overreaction" on your part, OP.
But then I read about the deleted email account and I was like "Hmmmmmmm...."
Had it been just the first thing, the FB stalking, dude, I wouldn't even bat an eye if my partner did that. I'd probably tease "Oh, whose Sally Smith? She must be real pretty! You got a crush." I really wouldn't care.
But the email thing - we'd need to have a heart to heart talk. Ask him "have you told me everything about you and Sally Smith? I honestly don't care if you looked at her on Facebook, but I wanted to have this final conversation to let you get everything out there - have you emailed her? Messaged her? called her? flirted with her? or even had some kind of emotional or sexual affair?" Then I would listen for his answers.
If he fesses up to the email, I'd let it go. If he doesn't, I'd straight up ask him "Did you make an email account and contact a bunch of ppl, her included, with the hopes of sparking a conversation with her?" I'd hear him out, then counseling.
I am on an organizing kick this year after two moves in 6 months.
Anyway, I don't own a lot of "nice" jewelry beyond a very basic wedding band and modest engagement ring. Due to work, I do not wear my engagement ring except for special occasions, so it is safely stored away.
However, I do have some earrings, simple pearl necklace, costume jewelry type stuff that I'd like to store somewhere. Currently, it is in an old plastic bin that used to contain generic ice cream - I am not joking about this.
I have gone to Marshall's, etc, and not liked the little boxes/trays they had there.
I like everything to be very organized and accessible. Any options?
Even better if the option has some sort of security on it that would deter theft as small as that is - I have a lot of sentimental stuff from my late DH that is not monetarily valuable but I'd hate to have it stolen.
Also, I don't know why part time staff would need so many absences either, especially part time staff at a place like whole foods where they make a whole new schedule every week.
If I worked retail, dine in, or some other shift style job, you just tell them before they write the new schedule, hey, I have a doctor's appointment that day for my kid, schedule me for evening. I worked with a girl whose husband's schedule came out first and a month ahead so she'd print it out, bring it to them, and they'd schedule her hours around his.
The fact of the matter is that while the absence policy might be tighter at these types of jobs, the scheduling ability is rather flexible.
Sounds like you had a GREAT retail job. At my last retail job, the schedule came out on Tuesday and ran Wednesday to Tuesday.
You would NOT know until Tuesday night if you had to work Wednesday at 6am. You wouldn't know until Tuesday night if you had to work the weekend for a wedding you were in. You wouldn't know until Tuesday night if you could keep your doctor's appointment you scheduled 4 months ago, etc.
"request offs" were requests - NOT guaranteed. MANY times, you'd be scheduled to work and you just had to go to work and not go to the birthday party or class. I recall many times I had to reschedule doctor's appointments I had had for 6 months or more because, oops, work scheduled me again and no one can switch with me.
I used to work at a summer program like this, where we went to parks, pools, etc. This is the only time our inner city kids ever got to swim.
It was nerve-wracking as HECK for me to watch 5 kids in a wave pool. I used to lie to the kids and say "Miss Kwynn can't swim so you need to stay near me in case I go under"
I was younger and if I were to do this today, I would issue the kids bathing caps, numbered and labeled, so I could see #1-5 at all times or whathaveyou.
During college, all my siblings and I lived at home at some point, as did my BIL.
Things were totally different around our place and I'm really surprised at the answers here.
My parents did not pay for school, but we could live in their home for free and work and pay for school ourselves.
They paid health insurance, we paid for our own cell phones, car insurance. We got an old crappy car we had since HS - we had to buy our own gas, books, etc.
BUT it was great because mom and dad had no say in whether or not we went to class, how late we stayed out, and we were not expected to do chores for the family - just for ourselves, as we would in a dorm or apartment.
I actually think it's a little unfair to expect a college student to go to class and check up on that like she's in high school. Same with chores - I'd be all "wash your own dishes" "do your own laundry" but I wouldn't expect her to be cleaning up after a dog or whatever that would be outside of a dorm situation.
I'd just say "Listen, you can live here for free as long as you are in school or working. We will pay for school as long as you are passing. It's your choice how you want to do things. If you fail a semester, we aren't paying for the next one. There will be an X month grace period where, if you are not in school or working but are looking, we will permit that, but after X months, you will need to move out. We care about you. Also, we do realize you need more independence. We will no longer restrict you from coming or going, etc"
In the meantime, I'd officially sell her the car and get that part separated out from you. OR I'd stop giving her a car and make her buy a beater car.
We have been engaged 3 months at this point and are getting married 11 months from now (across the country). My MIL looked at probably 15 venues for us and we visited 4 when we were home for xmas and booked the last one on the spot. I bought my dress in a 1 hour shopping trip and I'm currently looking at photographers. I'm having a hard time finding one that's amazing and affordable - photography is definitely the thing we care the most about - but price wise, I'm having a tough time. Otherwise, I expect I'll just go with the flow.
Where's your wedding and what's your budget? I can maybe give you the names of friends or ppl I think are good that work in the area!
Lower middle class and proud cruiser. My late husband and I loved it. There are people of all kinds and we did 7 nights in Hawaii and saw 4 islands for $600/pp. Can't beat that, very MMer.
As a wedding photographer, we don't generally want to meet with a bride that's meeting with 10 others - it's kind of a time-waster.
I disagree with using Yelp for photographers - I would use WeddingWire or another wedding-specific site where more brides would leave reviews. In my area, Yelp is not widely used for weddings.
I'd also say, having shot at your venue before is not important in the world of photography.
If you want to PM the names of ppl you are considering, I will take a look for you and give you my opinion - that's VERY subjective because it's art and all.
I'm a wedding photographer. I've been to over 200 weddings in my lifetime.
I work in my office M-F but my assistant works 9-5 elsewhere and it is exhausting for her to work all weekend (we travel too) then go back to work on Monday morning.
I am older now but I would NOT go to any destination weddings as a first way of ruling things out. I only would go to the wedding of a VERY close friend or family member.
This is a horrible story and the teens are 100% to blame, BUT - am I reading this wrong?
"“The kitties thank you and said that if you need to rendezvous with someone in the house while the Binder family is away, they’ll stay in the background [no huge drunken orgies tho, ok? Just small ones.] Heard the Yale interview went well!” - MOM of the family, aka the female homeowner???
Sorry, no adult woman should be joking around with an underage kid like that - that's weird.
More times than I can count - hence why I had a bad reputation in HS even though I was a nice girl
No cops though
My HS BF once locked his grandma in the basement (a finished basement apartment, but still) and she was yelling why is this door locked. I had no part in that.
Immediately, if anyone from my HS is on this forum, they're going to know who I am form that story. Oh well.
I've known the last name of every man I've ever dated or even made out with. I'd be all "hey, how do you spell your name? I'm putting it in my phone. Bob, is that Robert or just Bob?...Okay, what's your last name?"
I work from home for myself, even, and I couldn't do this. I have no boss, and honestly, I was annoyed when my sister got a dog because he can distract me during work time, he needs to go out, he's chewing something.
I've thought about how I would be a single mom someday, possibly, and how I will need to arrange childcare to still do my job.
Is this a real thing? I've tried twice to get this and my insurance (All State and then Geico) has told me twice that, if you have a car for every driver, NONE of them can be occasional. So if you owned THREE cars for you and DH, then one of them could be occasional, but 1 or 2 cars, no - it's assumed they are always in use.
@mrsspunky is the insurance guru, but we got a nice discount through Progessive by enrolling in their snapshot program. We are a one car household with very light driving (try to walk or take public transportation everywhere we can). We plugged snapshot into our car and it tracked our driving habits (miles driven, time of the day, frequency of hard braking) for 30 days and our bill has been slashed by 10%.
I drive less than once a week! I wonder if I can get a discount? I work from home and when I do errands, it's only "in town" 3 miles away!