Georgia Tech has disbanded its Phi Kappa Tau fraternity after an investigation showed — shockingly! — that the fraternity best known for circulating an email from its leadership calling women "rapebait" was, in fact, incredibly rapey.
ΦKT projectile-vomited its way onto the national stage last fall when social chair Matthew Peterson sent out an email with the charming subject line "Luring your rapebait" that provided younger frat members instructions on how to bang chicks at a party. If a woman tucks her hair behind here ear, for example, that means she wants a dick sandwich. Or a dick salad. Or a dick something. Either way, she wants dicks.
Last week, a gross, rapey email sent to the entirety Georgia Tech's Phi Kappa Tau fraternity by the house's social chair went viral.… Read…
After the email blew up the internet, Peterson offered a sincere-sounding mea culpa, saying that "rapebait" was a nickname his frat bros had given him and that joking about sexual assault is very, very wrong indeed. Georgia Tech put ΦKT on probation. Lesson learned, right?
Not really. According to GT's Technique, Peterson and his ilk carried right on acting like toddlers pumped full of testosterone after the incident last October, and after an investigation, the school's administration concluded that Phi Kappa Tau engaged in a "pattern of sexual violence that…suggests a deep-rooted culture within the fraternity that is obscene, indecent and endangers women" in addition to providing alcohol to underaged members, like, constantly (in their defense, isn't that kind of what every frat does w/r/t alcohol?) Included in the school's investigation were actual minutes from fraternity meetings and emails circulated around the frat, which included beaucoup imbibing and joking references to drug and alcohol abuse and rape.
But there was also plenty of anti-woman stuff in Phi Kappa Tau's culture. Here, for example, are the lyrics to a song that pledges were made to sing both during pledge week and at the frat's Christmas party (which was the most depressing party in the world, probably). Georgia Tech got hold of these because the boy geniuses at Phi Kappa Tau sent all of this over email, thus leaving an easy to follow digital trail for school officials.
Leader: Who can take a bicycle, Group: Who can take a bicycle, Leader: Tear off the seat. Group: Tear off the seat. Leader: Impale a virgin on it, and push her down a bumpy street. Leader: The S & M man. Group: Oh the S & M man. Leader: Oh the S & M man. Group: Oh the S & M man. Chorus: The S &M man, 'Cause he mixes it with love, And makes the hurt feel good Makes the hurt feel good. Who can take two ice picks Stick 'em in her ears Ride her like a Harley while he pokes her in the rear Who can take two jumper cables Hook 'em to her tits Turn on the juice and electrocute the bitch Who can go to an abortion clinic Sneak around the back Rummage through the dumpster and find a tasty snack Who can take a blender Stick it in her cunt Turn the sucker on and purrate her little twat Who can take some acid Pour it on her twat Then watch the cunt muffin rot Who can take a bottle Shove it up her ass Hit her with a bat and shatter all the glass Who can take a tight slut Fuck her 'till she cries Then pull it out real fast and skeet into her eyes Who can take a chainsaw Saw the bitch in two Take the top half and give the bottom half to you Who can take a razor blade give her a nasty cut and then use the blood to lube up her butt
That read like Odd Future lyrics written by someone who has never had sex (also, I've known people who are into the S&M scene and this is.... not what they do. But, that's probably nitpicky in the face of everything else). Here's another song, again, the lyrics of which were sent via email, that Phi Kappa Tau members were fond of singing.
Georgia Tech deemed the drinking and otherwise overall rapey fuckery serious enough to warrant disbanding the frat, which means the drinking rapebait seeking S&M Man singers will have to be off campus and out of their house by May 6th.
eta: Being the mother of a boy, I am even more appalled by this. What in the ever loving fuck would lead these guys to think this is funny or okay? The hell?
Post by cattledogkisses on Apr 8, 2014 12:50:47 GMT -5
That's horrendous, and I'm glad they're being disbanded.
Do none of these guys have girlfriends? I can't imagine saying stuff like this about women if you have a girlfriend that you presumably care about, but maybe it's just so incomprehensible that my brain is balking at the thought.
OK - in defense of the song "the S&M man". That is a classic rugby drinking song.
For those of you that aren't familiar with what happens after the rugby game, both games get together and sing dirty songs while drinking. It is gobs of fun.
the men's rugby team at my college always sang the S&M man song.
We sang lots of obscene songs, too, as the women's rugby team.
As a women's rugby team, we sang that "yoho yoho" song. Except that the lyrics were changed to be from a women's perspective - like a woman wanting sex. "he put his dick into my mouth, yoho, yoho"
"and then he came into my mouth, yoho, yoho" "i said <spit your beer on everyone>" get in get out quit fucking about yoho yoho yoho
So yeeah, I'm not going to get upset about the drinking songs.
OK - in defense of the song "the S&M man". That is a classic rugby drinking song.
For those of you that aren't familiar with what happens after the rugby game, both games get together and sing dirty songs while drinking. It is gobs of fun.
the men's rugby team at my college always sang the S&M man song.
We sang lots of obscene songs, too, as the women's rugby team.
As a women's rugby team, we sang that "yoho yoho" song. Except that the lyrics were changed to be from a women's perspective - like a woman wanting sex. "he put his dick into my mouth, yoho, yoho"
"and then he came into my mouth, yoho, yoho" "i said <spit your beer on everyone>" get in get out quit fucking about yoho yoho yoho
So yeeah, I'm not going to get upset about the drinking songs.
OK - in defense of the song "the S&M man". That is a classic rugby drinking song.
For those of you that aren't familiar with what happens after the rugby game, both games get together and sing dirty songs while drinking. It is gobs of fun.
the men's rugby team at my college always sang the S&M man song.
We sang lots of obscene songs, too, as the women's rugby team.
As a women's rugby team, we sang that "yoho yoho" song. Except that the lyrics were changed to be from a women's perspective - like a woman wanting sex. "he put his dick into my mouth, yoho, yoho"
"and then he came into my mouth, yoho, yoho" "i said <spit your beer on everyone>" get in get out quit fucking about yoho yoho yoho
So yeeah, I'm not going to get upset about the drinking songs.
did your song involve killing the men and burying them and then uncovering them every so often for necrophilia? stabbing their ears and mutilating their genitals with a blender? Cutting them in half and using their own blood as lube for anal penetration?
I don't know how anyone can read those lyrics and NOT be upset. I'm side-eyeing that.
OK - in defense of the song "the S&M man". That is a classic rugby drinking song.
For those of you that aren't familiar with what happens after the rugby game, both games get together and sing dirty songs while drinking. It is gobs of fun.
the men's rugby team at my college always sang the S&M man song.
We sang lots of obscene songs, too, as the women's rugby team.
As a women's rugby team, we sang that "yoho yoho" song. Except that the lyrics were changed to be from a women's perspective - like a woman wanting sex. "he put his dick into my mouth, yoho, yoho"
"and then he came into my mouth, yoho, yoho" "i said <spit your beer on everyone>" get in get out quit fucking about yoho yoho yoho
So yeeah, I'm not going to get upset about the drinking songs.
did your song involve killing the men and burying them and then uncovering them every so often for necrophilia? stabbing their ears and mutilating their genitals with a blender? Cutting them in half and using their own blood as lube for anal penetration?
I don't know how anyone can read those lyrics and NOT be upset. I'm side-eyeing that.
So disbanding them is good. Because obviously they won't be able to put their 3 brain cells together and come up with this bullshit anymore.
BUT that doesn't mean they are FIXING the problem. There will still be misogynist assholes wandering around the school/community. They just won't be gather in a school-sanctioned way. So yeah, disbanding their frat won't make them automatically respect women. And in fact, some will probably be pissed that "over sensitive bitches who can't take a joke" caused them to lose their frat.
OK - in defense of the song "the S&M man". That is a classic rugby drinking song.
For those of you that aren't familiar with what happens after the rugby game, both games get together and sing dirty songs while drinking. It is gobs of fun.
the men's rugby team at my college always sang the S&M man song.
We sang lots of obscene songs, too, as the women's rugby team.
As a women's rugby team, we sang that "yoho yoho" song. Except that the lyrics were changed to be from a women's perspective - like a woman wanting sex. "he put his dick into my mouth, yoho, yoho"
"and then he came into my mouth, yoho, yoho" "i said <spit your beer on everyone>" get in get out quit fucking about yoho yoho yoho
So yeeah, I'm not going to get upset about the drinking songs.
did your song involve killing the men and burying them and then uncovering them every so often for necrophilia? stabbing their ears and mutilating their genitals with a blender? Cutting them in half and using their own blood as lube for anal penetration?
Yes they did actually. The words were exactly the same.
I knew if I posted that you would all disagree but I'm sticking with it. You can all flame to me high heaven, but women's rugby at my alma mater was an incredibly supportive environment and probably one of the most important things I have ever done. We sang those exact songs (well we didn't sing S&M man but we sang the other song - and yup dug him up after he was dead. There are accompanying hand gestures, too, to the song).
The men sang the same songs, too, and their team was like the most respectful of women out of any of the men's teams on campus. My H was on the men's team, I lived in the men's rugby house, some of those guys are still my best friends 10+ years later after graduation. It was just a drunk song that was tradition. You can feel free to not believe me and disagree with me as much as you want, but I can't get that upset about the songs.
did your song involve killing the men and burying them and then uncovering them every so often for necrophilia? stabbing their ears and mutilating their genitals with a blender? Cutting them in half and using their own blood as lube for anal penetration?
Yes they did actually. The words were exactly the same.
I knew if I posted that you would all disagree but I'm sticking with it. You can all flame to me high heaven, but women's rugby at my alma mater was an incredibly supportive environment and probably one of the most important things I have ever done. We sang those exact songs (well we didn't sing S&M man but we sang the other song - and yup dug him up after he was dead. There are accompanying hand gestures, too, to the song).
OK, so your defense is that because YOU said sadistic and fucked up things, it must be acceptable to say sadistic and fucked up things.
You know those posts that change the way you see someone? Yeah.
I was all ready to comment that I can't believe any sorority invited them to parties or attended parties they were also invited to, when I read the comments on this thread and I have completely lost the will.
I really hate when people pull out the "tradition" flag.
I don't think we need to discuss the variety of things that are "tradition" and still recognized as fucking bullshit, either because of what they are or what they represent.
Listen, I get that this song perpetuates stereotypes. I get it intellectually. But for some reason singing dirty rugby songs is just my own personal college experience and something that I loved. and not only that, in some ways it defined my college experience - I was a rugby player.
So for me to condemn the song seems to repudiate my entire college experience. It's like I can't wrap my head around it properly to explain it. I don't know if that is making any sense.
OK - in defense of the song "the S&M man". That is a classic rugby drinking song.
For those of you that aren't familiar with what happens after the rugby game, both games get together and sing dirty songs while drinking. It is gobs of fun.
the men's rugby team at my college always sang the S&M man song.
We sang lots of obscene songs, too, as the women's rugby team.
As a women's rugby team, we sang that "yoho yoho" song. Except that the lyrics were changed to be from a women's perspective - like a woman wanting sex. "he put his dick into my mouth, yoho, yoho"
"and then he came into my mouth, yoho, yoho" "i said <spit your beer on everyone>" get in get out quit fucking about yoho yoho yoho
So yeeah, I'm not going to get upset about the drinking songs.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
Post by cattledogkisses on Apr 8, 2014 13:28:43 GMT -5
I can't see how this is defensible, sorry. Tradition is not an excuse, and I have a hard time swallowing that this is necessary to some kind of rugby player core identity.
Yes they did actually. The words were exactly the same.
I knew if I posted that you would all disagree but I'm sticking with it. You can all flame to me high heaven, but women's rugby at my alma mater was an incredibly supportive environment and probably one of the most important things I have ever done. We sang those exact songs (well we didn't sing S&M man but we sang the other song - and yup dug him up after he was dead. There are accompanying hand gestures, too, to the song).
The men sang the same songs, too, and their team was like the most respectful of women out of any of the men's teams on campus. My H was on the men's team, I lived in the men's rugby house, some of those guys are still my best friends 10+ years later after graduation. It was just a drunk song that was tradition. You can feel free to not believe me and disagree with me as much as you want, but I can't get that upset about the songs.
You really just don't get it, do you? Traditions are NEVER fucked up at all ... ever. newp
This is how rape culture perpetuates itself. It turns sexual violence into fun and games and de-legitimizes it.
If someone sang that song at my school, they would be fucking annihilated over it.
How the hell is that showing any kind of sportsmanship?
I am so utterly disgusted.
The teams sang them together and got drunk together after tackling and beating each other on the field?
These songs are rather well known because the point of the party is to drink with the opposing team. They would all know the same songs as us. we traveled on tour to England and the teams knew the songs there, too. We probably played 10-20 teams over the course of my four years and they all knew the same songs.
I'm just explaining how it happened.
I don't know guys. It honestly never occurred to me as a problem 10+ years ago but I do see the issue. I am sure I have just rationalized it away.
Yes they did actually. The words were exactly the same.
I knew if I posted that you would all disagree but I'm sticking with it. You can all flame to me high heaven, but women's rugby at my alma mater was an incredibly supportive environment and probably one of the most important things I have ever done. We sang those exact songs (well we didn't sing S&M man but we sang the other song - and yup dug him up after he was dead. There are accompanying hand gestures, too, to the song).
The men sang the same songs, too, and their team was like the most respectful of women out of any of the men's teams on campus. My H was on the men's team, I lived in the men's rugby house, some of those guys are still my best friends 10+ years later after graduation. It was just a drunk song that was tradition. You can feel free to not believe me and disagree with me as much as you want, but I can't get that upset about the songs.
You really just don't get it, do you? Traditions are NEVER fucked up at all ... ever. newp
Listen I said I get it intellectually. I really do. It's not my hill to die on today. I am sure they could come up with less offensive songs. Maybe I'll suggest that to my team's alumni chapter.
Tangent - I went to a rugby party when rushing in college and they had a tradition where they'd pick one girl from the party, get in a circle around her, drop their pants and swing their dicks around. It was supposed to be an honor.