Post by carolinagirl831 on Mar 24, 2016 11:49:05 GMT -5
Hoenstly they need to have their shit together long before now....I can't believe they keep going back and forth. Your'e super lucky you were flying SW, we never do and would have a big fee associated. I would have died of embarrassment if I knew my guests were having to change travel plans . They should have let you know long before travel plans were made. Does she know you're having to cancel your husbands' ticket?
I mean, go if you really want to, but I think you are totally justified in not going as well. What a groomzilla - I'm glad your SS seems to have a sense of what's right and not, but there SHOULD be an exception for Piper, seeing as how she was IN the wedding.
Hoenstly they need to have their shit together long before now....I can't believe they keep going back and forth. Your'e super lucky you were flying SW, we never do and would have a big fee associated. I would have died of embarrassment if I knew my guests were having to change travel plans . They should have let you know long before travel plans were made. Does she know you're having to cancel your husbands' ticket?
I told her, I doubt she cares. Her email (yes, email) was soooooo dramatic. She wishes they could just stop planning and elope then move to Australia. Yep.
The thing that makes me the most sad is Piper not seeing my family. It breaks my heart.
Eeep. I hope SS has other redeeming qualities because her organizational, party planning, and hostessing skills are clearly lacking.
Sorry P won't get to see your family. I'm shocked and embarrassed for her that she won't make an exception for a close family member who is traveling a long way to make it to her (poorly planned and executed) wedding.
And how did she rescind the FG invite? I'm sure it was done poorly given how she's handled everything else, but am curious.
Eta - Wait. I bet it went something like this: "OMG sessalee, we've just decided that P is probably too young to be FG. SORRY!!1! We don't want her to have a meltdown during the ceremony and ruin the moment. Also, planning a wedding is the WORST! No one told me how stressful it would be and how many decisions I have to make... So overwhelming!!1! At this point, I'm ready to just exchange vows in Australia already. I bet there please wouldn't be asking me things like "What time is the wedding? or "where is the reception?" I mean, how demanding are some people? Seriously, do they not know I'm still finalizing the plans for my special day?!?! xoxo, SS"
Eta2 - Sorry if you're close with your SS. She is just being crazy cakes about this.
And how did she rescind the FG invite? I'm sure it was done poorly given how she's handled everything else, but am curious.
". It would simplify everything for us if Piper isn't the flower girl or part of the wedding because it has added another element of coordination to our already complicated and short-term planning, and she is pretty young, and we were trying to go the direction of adults only (and a lot of our friends with babies are using this as an excuse to go out and cut loose)."
What I want to say: Good for your friends. I hope you have the wedding you want. I honestly don't think I'm going to go.
ETA: "I hope I haven't blind sided you. It would honestly be easier for us, which is a super selfish thing to do, if we just had one less thing to worry about at this point. I keep telling STBH we should just elope and call off the wedding because there are so many things and it's really starting get to me. I haven't slept well in like two weeks between this and possibly moving to Australia and work - blaaaaaaaaahhhhh. So let me know what you think. We can go in any direction, and there are probably a ton more options that I haven't even thought up!"
What I want to say: It's not selfish, or at least it wouldn't have been if you'd been able to make these decisions earlier.
I wouldn't go. SW is really good about moving dates and locations too. Could all 3 of your fly somewhere else to see any family?
She is acting ridiculous.
We're going to use the funds to fly down to Baltimore in August and leave P with my dad for a weekend so H and I can go to NYC and be adults for a weekend.
Post by longtimenopost on Mar 24, 2016 12:15:46 GMT -5
I would probably just go and bring her. Have the 12 year old watch her as you make a quick appearance at the wedding. Maybe they'll wise up in the mean time. This is all too much but I wouldn't miss the chance to have all your family meet her at once.
You're a better person than me because with that update, I would not be going.
"Oh, that's really unfortunate. Seeing as how we don't have anyone to watch P, it's probably better if we sit this one out, but hopefully we can see you guys soon!"
I would probably just go and bring her. Have the 12 year old watch her as you make a quick appearance at the wedding. Maybe they'll wise up in the mean time. This is all too much but I wouldn't miss the chance to have all your family meet her at once.
This is the other option. Right now I'm so bitter about the whole thing I don't want to consider it, but this is in fact the other most viable option.
" It would simplify everything for us if Piper isn't the flower girl or part of the wedding because it has added another element of coordination to our already complicated and short-term planning, and she is pretty young, and we were trying to go the direction of adults only (and a lot of our friends with babies are using this as an excuse to go out and cut loose)."
Excellent gif.
I honestly think the reason she asked P to be flower girl was because she felt bad about not having her at the reception. Such backward thinking, but it's just par for the course.
The way she's talking about it is probably the most irritating thing to me, like it's a business transaction - add another element of coordination? GTFO of here with that nonsense. Call it what it is.
In my rage I would send a nice gift and book a better vacation, but I do understand wanting to see family. Sorry this is so stressful
The way she's talking about it is probably the most irritating thing to me, like it's a business transaction - add another element of coordination? GTFO of here with that nonsense. Call it what it is.
In my rage I would send a nice gift and book a better vacation, but I do understand wanting to see family. Sorry this is so stressful
I'm working on option 3 - fly into a different airport (also nearby), have my BFF pick me up, take her as my date and we get horrifically and obnoxiously drunk and somehow ruin the cake.
@sessalee, did you have to buy a plane ticket for P? Because if you already spent money (on anything related to this wedding for her) to get P to this wedding, and then your stepsister said no, I'd be even more pissed off than I am right now for you. lol